40 year old mom here and met a 56 year old

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My parents were 12 years apart. My dad always looked very young. Many of their friends had similar age differences. My mom died young and a few years after she died, my dad married someone who was almost 20 years younger. My dad was around 62-63 at the time but he looked at least 10-15 years younger. 20 years later, he started getting sick - he was in his 80’s by then! His wife had a really hard time with it and kept saying she never expected to be dealing with something like this. I was genuinely perplexed. She married a sedentary, diabetic who was 20 years older and she thought he would live forever??? Yes, he really didn’t start aging until he hit his mid 70’s but still…Op, either you or he could get sick, it’s true but chances are more likely it could be him. You can still have a great life - just go in with your eyes open.

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No one should encourage a 40 year old woman with a child/children to date a 56 year old man.

No one should express their opinion to her because it’s none of your business. MYOB.

So why did you then?

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Anonymous wrote:When I was a 22 year old I dated a 35 year old. It was wonderful. I brought youthful enthusiasm and optimism to the relationship. The 35 year old brought wisdom and experience to it. The sex was fantastic. So was the conversation.

She's female. I'm male. Her prior relationship had been with a man 20 years older than she was who has died the previous year.

She's now a senior citizen and sent me a very nice reminiscence recently.

Same except I was 24 and her 36. Seriously, who cares? Yes, I had more sexual energy than most men she would date and now that I am older than 36, it doesn't matter to me now either.

People who protest these relationships are insecure.

Actually, dating someone of an inappropriate age to one indicates insecurity.

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No one should encourage a 40 year old woman with a child/children to date a 56 year old man.

No one should express their opinion to her because it’s none of your business. MYOB.

The irony of someone telling another to myob. Shouldn’t they myob?

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Women hate seeing another woman who is happy.

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Best relationship I’ve ever had was a 16 year age difference- it truly didn’t matter because everything else was a fit. Split because of too much to get into here but just starting talking again and he’s 60 now.

I don’t know if it will go anywhere but I’d rather have 10-15 years with someone on in love with than someone my age just because we’ll age the same.

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Anonymous wrote:Best relationship I’ve ever had was a 16 year age difference- it truly didn’t matter because everything else was a fit. Split because of too much to get into here but just starting talking again and he’s 60 now.

I don’t know if it will go anywhere but I’d rather have 10-15 years with someone on in love with than someone my age just because we’ll age the same.

How about someone you live your own age? You say it like it’s only capable with someone over a decade older than you. And if that was your best relationship, then you’re pitiful. That does not make it appropriate.

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I love dating/sleeping with women in their 20s because it’s so much fun. I had no idea it drove older women insane with rage.

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Currently dating a 71 year old (am 41). Met her through local unicycle/adult trike, rodeo arts community. Wished we'd met earlier. Would love to have seen her at 61! or 66!

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Anonymous wrote:I love dating/sleeping with women in their 20s because it’s so much fun. I had no idea it drove older women insane with rage.

Those women will throw up later, believe me I did.

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Anonymous wrote:Currently dating a 71 year old (am 41). Met her through local unicycle/adult trike, rodeo arts community. Wished we'd met earlier. Would love to have seen her at 61! or 66!

My eyes are hurting after reading this.

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Anonymous wrote:I love dating/sleeping with women in their 20s because it’s so much fun. I had no idea it drove older women insane with rage.

Yes, often women that age range have low standards.

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40 year old here. In process of separating from similarly-aged spouse. Met 57 year old at conference. Spent several great nights together and really liked him. The age freaked me out a little. But what ended it was when he finally admitted he and his wife were not actually separating as he had told me, and they still had kids at home. There are just some things a lot more important than age.

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Anonymous wrote:What others said about keeping it not serious.

DH is six years older than I am. We are in our 50s. I could not imagine being with someone who is almost 70 at my age (early 50s). DH is pretty "young", in good shape. But, if he was 70, and I am early 50s, that physical difference would be more pronounced.

Agree. Same here. 7 yr age difference and that is enough!

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Anonymous wrote:No one should encourage a 40 year old woman with a child/children to date a 56 year old man.

+ 1 million. Definitely don’t get into a long term relationship. My mom started dating a 54 year old when she was 41 (I was a teen). They eventually got married and it has brought about so many problems for myself and my siblings throughout our lives. Part of it was just the step parent dynamic but the age also complicated things.

13 year age gap is totally fine, many first marriages have that. What problems would have been different by her marrying someone younger? She still had kids.

13 year age gap is not fine.

Glad my 22yo GF disagrees!

Of course you do, she won’t when she matures.

Sorry but this is true. Hopefully you are not in love. The 22 yr old is not..😂