40 year old mom here and met a 56 year old

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Anonymous wrote:I love dating/sleeping with women in their 20s because it’s so much fun. I had no idea it drove older women insane with rage.

Those women will throw up later, believe me I did.

😂

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Is he loaded? Will you see any of the money or will it go all to his kids?
Do you really want to spend age 60-75 with an elderly partner who can’t do things? My parents and in-laws are all 68-72 and quite active and social. I wouldn’t want to retire and deal with elder care for a spouse at the same time or just after a decade of dealing with my aging parents.

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On average, the wife of a man's second marriage is 8 years younger.

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Anonymous wrote:Is he loaded? Will you see any of the money or will it go all to his kids?
Do you really want to spend age 60-75 with an elderly partner who can’t do things? My parents and in-laws are all 68-72 and quite active and social. I wouldn’t want to retire and deal with elder care for a spouse at the same time or just after a decade of dealing with my aging parents.

Can't do things? I know a guy hiking the Appalachian Trail this year who is 70. The last time the NYC marathon was run, there were over 400 runners over the age of 70.

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Has OP replied at all? This thread is full of many strong opinions! Could an information science/data savvy person create a table for us that reflects the number in favor, number against, or maybe something more sophisticated? I’d like to see a see a visual summary of all of these passionate responses!

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This is similar to Amal and George Clooney’s age difference.

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Anonymous wrote:Is he loaded? Will you see any of the money or will it go all to his kids?
Do you really want to spend age 60-75 with an elderly partner who can’t do things? My parents and in-laws are all 68-72 and quite active and social. I wouldn’t want to retire and deal with elder care for a spouse at the same time or just after a decade of dealing with my aging parents.

You have such a mercenary view of relationships I pity the guy you are with even if he’s the same age as you.

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Anonymous wrote:I love dating/sleeping with women in their 20s because it’s so much fun. I had no idea it drove older women insane with rage.

Those women will throw up later, believe me I did.

It will always be a W for him no matter how much you cope and seethe. 😂😂😂

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40's and single (never married) lady here. Been proposed to by 3 men 20+ years older than me and turned them all down pre-covid. Simple fact of the matter- they were in their 60s and were already bogged down with financial issues from their previous marriages. All had a healthy salary, but after deductions for child support and alimony and back tax issues, they had NOTHING left to live on.

Had nothing to do with their physical (they were all sitll in shape and hot!) and I actually met their kids and even their ex wives so there were no secrets there. It was purely a financial decision for me.

Now I am glad I did turn them down- all 3 are suffering serious health issues now- as in qualifiying for Social Security Disability bad- and are no longer working so their precarious financial situation is even worse with them living off credit cards now- I would have literally been the nurse and purse for them.

I still chat with them today no ill will, but am glad I have no legal ties and I quietly thank all higher powers daily I didn't marry them and would be legally required to sit in that hospital room with them "in sickness and health".

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Anonymous wrote:40's and single (never married) lady here. Been proposed to by 3 men 20+ years older than me and turned them all down pre-covid. Simple fact of the matter- they were in their 60s and were already bogged down with financial issues from their previous marriages. All had a healthy salary, but after deductions for child support and alimony and back tax issues, they had NOTHING left to live on.

Had nothing to do with their physical (they were all sitll in shape and hot!) and I actually met their kids and even their ex wives so there were no secrets there. It was purely a financial decision for me.

Now I am glad I did turn them down- all 3 are suffering serious health issues now- as in qualifiying for Social Security Disability bad- and are no longer working so their precarious financial situation is even worse with them living off credit cards now- I would have literally been the nurse and purse for them.

I still chat with them today no ill will, but am glad I have no legal ties and I quietly thank all higher powers daily I didn't marry them and would be legally required to sit in that hospital room with them "in sickness and health".

Cool story bro.

“Single never married only been proposed to by three way-older guys” raises certain questions about you, though.

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Anonymous wrote:40 year old here. In process of separating from similarly-aged spouse. Met 57 year old at conference. Spent several great nights together and really liked him. The age freaked me out a little. But what ended it was when he finally admitted he and his wife were not actually separating as he had told me, and they still had kids at home. There are just some things a lot more important than age.

OP here - So what was the sex like?

I’m not thinking long term. I’m still thinking about when I met this guy. I’ve never slept with someone older than 43 though (my ex’s age).

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My dad and stepmom had a 15 year age gap. He lived a very hard life for most of his life until he met her, then cleaned his act up. They were married for twenty years, then he died, left her with millions. He was 70, and now she's 55, single , with an adult daughter and millions. Tough for dating (easy to be a target for scammy guys) but easy on the finances.

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Anonymous wrote:40's and single (never married) lady here. Been proposed to by 3 men 20+ years older than me and turned them all down pre-covid. Simple fact of the matter- they were in their 60s and were already bogged down with financial issues from their previous marriages. All had a healthy salary, but after deductions for child support and alimony and back tax issues, they had NOTHING left to live on.

Had nothing to do with their physical (they were all sitll in shape and hot!) and I actually met their kids and even their ex wives so there were no secrets there. It was purely a financial decision for me.

Now I am glad I did turn them down- all 3 are suffering serious health issues now- as in qualifiying for Social Security Disability bad- and are no longer working so their precarious financial situation is even worse with them living off credit cards now- I would have literally been the nurse and purse for them.

I still chat with them today no ill will, but am glad I have no legal ties and I quietly thank all higher powers daily I didn't marry them and would be legally required to sit in that hospital room with them "in sickness and health".

Did you find anyone else?

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Anonymous wrote:40 year old here. In process of separating from similarly-aged spouse. Met 57 year old at conference. Spent several great nights together and really liked him. The age freaked me out a little. But what ended it was when he finally admitted he and his wife were not actually separating as he had told me, and they still had kids at home. There are just some things a lot more important than age.

OP here - So what was the sex like?

I’m not thinking long term. I’m still thinking about when I met this guy. I’ve never slept with someone older than 43 though (my ex’s age).

Op, I’m a different poster but there is a good chance the sex will blow your mind. Eager and appreciative older men know what they are doing.

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Anonymous wrote:How many posts will this forum have where the discussion is a bunch of mid to late 40s women arguing that it's 'wrong' for men to be more attracted to women in their 20s?

Seriously, get over it. Nobody picks stale bread over fresh bread no matter how much you argue otherwise.

They do bc they aren’t looking at it the way you are. For that matter I do too. I’m on dating apps and could spend all my time with men under 35. I am 51. I don’t bc it’s not what I’m looking for. Currently dating a 56yo and a 60yo.

You're dating 35 year old losers. At 35 most men are dating women 25-30. A 51 year old woman looks repulsive compared with a 30 year old.

The loser is the person with no reading comprehension. I was married to a man 7 years younger who I’m quite sure makes more than you as me who would take me back in a heartbeat so I think I know who the loser is here.