Divorced SAHMs and younger professional women: sugar babies?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Its an era of equality, pay for your share or don’t go on dates, do overtime to earn more.

Oh okay as soon as you do your equal share with being pregnant, delivering and breast feeding multiple children, waking up all night every night for years, cleaning up after children’s and a spouse, staying home with sick kids and taking them to the doctor, going to school events and teacher conferences, managing school projects and supervising homework, social life and kids transportation needs until they are 18, managing childcare and household help if any, doing their wardrobes and toys, managing their extracurriculars and friendships, grocery shopping for a family, cooking and packing three meals a day for a family, taking care of cars and animals and home maintenance, planning and packing for all vacations/travel, organizing and executing all holidays and family memories, taking all the career compromises /setbacks and challenges involved in doing all this while working full time, and very possibly (and in my case) managing finances and taxes. See how that works? Why the hell do men think they are entitled to do nothing but work their job and f*ck their women?

This is your choice and the life you chose. You choose to be a SAHM and have kids. You sound dumb because you know men can’t carry a baby. You can formula feed if breastfeeding is too much. You could have easily been a career woman without kids. Stop blaming all men because you’re unhappy with your life choices.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Eta there are certainly some younger women or older women with kids who are killing it financially (I’m a single mom by choice and very comfortable) but this isn’t the most common scenario.

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Exactly. The ex husband pays for the house in a nice area and luxury car, but the divorced woman wants more - not saying this is every woman, but I have seen enough of them to know that too many of these women exist. If OP were my son, I would want them to know.

What planet are you on? My ex husband earns 600K and pays for nothing. We live in a crappy apartment, my kid attends public and I paid for my own non-luxury car.

Why should he pay when he isn’t your partner? Maybe you should focus more on your income than your ex-husbands. Boo hoo, that as a grown adult you had to pay for your own car. As if your ex should buy you one simply because of his income. Why do women feel so entitled to men’s money?

Dimwit, because it was in response to the poster above saying that the ex husband pays for “the house in a nice area and a luxury car.” And by the way, just because he isn’t my partner doesn’t mean he shouldn’t be paying towards the cost of housing and educating his only child. I bought my car with my own earned income while married btw, and likely earn more than you do, just nowhere near as much as he does.

He should be paying for the child’s expenses and the child’s school, but he is not responsible for your house. Would you take care of his house expenses or at least part of them if the roles were reversed? I think not. You’re no longer married and his doesn’t have to support you, only his son. If you can’t afford a good enough house, it’s time for you to look at your own expenses and think about getting a better job. If a man was in that position, everyone would tell the man to get a higher paying job, so you don’t get a pass.

You are so wrong ! ExWife’s housing expenses are considered while calculating child support. 50% of her mortgage is her kids expenses that need to be covered by law by exH if he makes several times more

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Its an era of equality, pay for your share or don’t go on dates, do overtime to earn more.

Oh okay as soon as you do your equal share with being pregnant, delivering and breast feeding multiple children, waking up all night every night for years, cleaning up after children’s and a spouse, staying home with sick kids and taking them to the doctor, going to school events and teacher conferences, managing school projects and supervising homework, social life and kids transportation needs until they are 18, managing childcare and household help if any, doing their wardrobes and toys, managing their extracurriculars and friendships, grocery shopping for a family, cooking and packing three meals a day for a family, taking care of cars and animals and home maintenance, planning and packing for all vacations/travel, organizing and executing all holidays and family memories, taking all the career compromises /setbacks and challenges involved in doing all this while working full time, and very possibly (and in my case) managing finances and taxes. See how that works? Why the hell do men think they are entitled to do nothing but work their job and f*ck their women?

Welcome to the real world. This is called being an adult and a parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I saw a post on social media where a British guy addressed the issue of women preferring men who earn more because those women are materialistic. He said it’s not a gender thing, it’s an American thing. We are just a materialistic people.

And it makes sense. Who do men basically worship? Elon musk and other billionaires. They want to be like them, so it makes sense that women want to be with them.

But I’m not actually like this. DH makes over 500K and I don’t actually like it. I always wanted to work harder for what I have because I just think it’s better for your character.

No...we aren’t just “materialistic” people in the US. We are a capitalist country and individuals are largely responsible for their own expenses, much more so than in other countries. Women don’t get ANY mandated paid maternity leave. You have to save for your own healthcare expenses, retirement, better schools, college and much more. Therefore, women in the US seek out a partner that can help them afford the expenses of a family, which are high.

Not another one. Whining about capitalism while your iPhone and sip on a Starbucks.

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Anonymous wrote:I would also like to date someone generous and giving as those as personality traits I value. I won't go on a second date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first (usually just a coffee or a drink). That being said, I am not looking for a sugar daddy...just someone who can support himself and doesn't nickel and dime in relationships. I make 250k+/year, and I am also very generous.

Women like you are a dime and dozen and high value men don’t want women like you.

There are many fewer “high value men” than high earning men would like to believe. It’s not about high income, surprise surprise.

And WTH makes a woman "high value", in your mind??? Mad shopping skills, and the ability to light a match to her husband's paycheck?? GTFO. Woman here.

Some of you women should be positively ashamed of your lazy, meaningless existence, frankly.

+1. I pray for my sons because the morals women today are trash. All of these young girls on social media celebrating the fact they are gold diggers, cheat on me, and do only fans. So much morals and self-respect. You’re not a baddie because you take your clothes off or can get a 6 figure man. You all are toxic immature babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man. These comments.

Women who are unmarried with no children are the happiest group of people in the world. Who do we all want to get married so badly? These guys are terrible.

Not true at all. Have you seen the bitter single women you can’t keep a man? No thanks. I will gladly keep my husband and kids over some single life.

[Anonymous]

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Who do men basically worship? Elon musk and other billionaires. They want to be like them, so it makes sense that women want to be with them.

Oh please. Men don’t worship celebrities. Women do that all on their own.

The point is, men aspire to be rich, and applaud people who are rich, but often insult women for wanting a man who makes a lot (or a decent amount) of money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Its an era of equality, pay for your share or don’t go on dates, do overtime to earn more.

Oh okay as soon as you do your equal share with being pregnant, delivering and breast feeding multiple children, waking up all night every night for years, cleaning up after children’s and a spouse, staying home with sick kids and taking them to the doctor, going to school events and teacher conferences, managing school projects and supervising homework, social life and kids transportation needs until they are 18, managing childcare and household help if any, doing their wardrobes and toys, managing their extracurriculars and friendships, grocery shopping for a family, cooking and packing three meals a day for a family, taking care of cars and animals and home maintenance, planning and packing for all vacations/travel, organizing and executing all holidays and family memories, taking all the career compromises /setbacks and challenges involved in doing all this while working full time, and very possibly (and in my case) managing finances and taxes. See how that works? Why the hell do men think they are entitled to do nothing but work their job and f*ck their women?

This is your choice and the life you chose. You choose to be a SAHM and have kids. You sound dumb because you know men can’t carry a baby. You can formula feed if breastfeeding is too much. You could have easily been a career woman without kids. Stop blaming all men because you’re unhappy with your life choices.

Lol I am the writer and I work FR as a doctor so suck it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Its an era of equality, pay for your share or don’t go on dates, do overtime to earn more.

Oh okay as soon as you do your equal share with being pregnant, delivering and breast feeding multiple children, waking up all night every night for years, cleaning up after children’s and a spouse, staying home with sick kids and taking them to the doctor, going to school events and teacher conferences, managing school projects and supervising homework, social life and kids transportation needs until they are 18, managing childcare and household help if any, doing their wardrobes and toys, managing their extracurriculars and friendships, grocery shopping for a family, cooking and packing three meals a day for a family, taking care of cars and animals and home maintenance, planning and packing for all vacations/travel, organizing and executing all holidays and family memories, taking all the career compromises /setbacks and challenges involved in doing all this while working full time, and very possibly (and in my case) managing finances and taxes. See how that works? Why the hell do men think they are entitled to do nothing but work their job and f*ck their women?

Welcome to the real world. This is called being an adult and a parent.

That is the point ahole. There are two parents why do men like the OP think this all falls to the wife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would also like to date someone generous and giving as those as personality traits I value. I won't go on a second date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first (usually just a coffee or a drink). That being said, I am not looking for a sugar daddy...just someone who can support himself and doesn't nickel and dime in relationships. I make 250k+/year, and I am also very generous.

Women like you are a dime and dozen and high value men don’t want women like you.

There are many fewer “high value men” than high earning men would like to believe. It’s not about high income, surprise surprise.

And WTH makes a woman "high value", in your mind??? Mad shopping skills, and the ability to light a match to her husband's paycheck?? GTFO. Woman here.

Some of you women should be positively ashamed of your lazy, meaningless existence, frankly.

+1. I pray for my sons because the morals women today are trash. All of these young girls on social media celebrating the fact they are gold diggers, cheat on me, and do only fans. So much morals and self-respect. You’re not a baddie because you take your clothes off or can get a 6 figure man. You all are toxic immature babies.

Lol at “6 figure man.” Welcome to the 80s. Life has moved on without you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Who do men basically worship? Elon musk and other billionaires. They want to be like them, so it makes sense that women want to be with them.

Oh please. Men don’t worship celebrities. Women do that all on their own.

The point is, men aspire to be rich, and applaud people who are rich, but often insult women for wanting a man who makes a lot (or a decent amount) of money.

She should make her own money and then think about getting a man who matches her income. No man wants a lazy woman who wants to be dependent. A man doesn’t mind a woman who wants a high earning man if she herself had a stable income and can support herself. The fact that you don’t understand that is frightening.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would also like to date someone generous and giving as those as personality traits I value. I won't go on a second date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first (usually just a coffee or a drink). That being said, I am not looking for a sugar daddy...just someone who can support himself and doesn't nickel and dime in relationships. I make 250k+/year, and I am also very generous.

Women like you are a dime and dozen and high value men don’t want women like you.

There are many fewer “high value men” than high earning men would like to believe. It’s not about high income, surprise surprise.

I never indicated it was solely about money, you did. High value men goes well beyond a high income.

OMG, this is the mentally disturbed one with the "high value men." She can't even freaking describe what this means. She's like my 70-year old aunt who talks nonsense after she has too much wine and fights with everyone. As an applied math person, I also cry when I hear people saying that a woman who makes over 250K is dime a dozen. It tells me that they are so learning-challenged that they didn't even take AP stats in high school. And if you can't understand basic high school math, your opinion is trash to me. You don't have enough brain power to think reasonably. I don't expect Heidegger, just basic stats.

[Anonymous]

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Who do men basically worship? Elon musk and other billionaires. They want to be like them, so it makes sense that women want to be with them.

Oh please. Men don’t worship celebrities. Women do that all on their own.

The point is, men aspire to be rich, and applaud people who are rich, but often insult women for wanting a man who makes a lot (or a decent amount) of money.

She should make her own money and then think about getting a man who matches her income. No man wants a lazy woman who wants to be dependent. A man doesn’t mind a woman who wants a high earning man if she herself had a stable income and can support herself. The fact that you don’t understand that is frightening.

Serious question: how old are you? Your reading comprehension and your response makes it sound like you’re early twenties, tops. Either you don’t know how to be an adult or you are highly insecure about your salary. Either way, you’re taking this way too personally.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Who do men basically worship? Elon musk and other billionaires. They want to be like them, so it makes sense that women want to be with them.

Oh please. Men don’t worship celebrities. Women do that all on their own.

The point is, men aspire to be rich, and applaud people who are rich, but often insult women for wanting a man who makes a lot (or a decent amount) of money.

She should make her own money and then think about getting a man who matches her income. No man wants a lazy woman who wants to be dependent. A man doesn’t mind a woman who wants a high earning man if she herself had a stable income and can support herself. The fact that you don’t understand that is frightening.

Eh. Maybe true for some men, but I always made a very low income ($37k/year MAX) and had no trouble attracting wealthy men with good careers. Including multi-millionaires. Still do, even tho I’m a late 30s mom.

Very happy my H values me for more than just my income.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would also like to date someone generous and giving as those as personality traits I value. I won't go on a second date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first (usually just a coffee or a drink). That being said, I am not looking for a sugar daddy...just someone who can support himself and doesn't nickel and dime in relationships. I make 250k+/year, and I am also very generous.

Women like you are a dime and dozen and high value men don’t want women like you.

There are many fewer “high value men” than high earning men would like to believe. It’s not about high income, surprise surprise.

And WTH makes a woman "high value", in your mind??? Mad shopping skills, and the ability to light a match to her husband's paycheck?? GTFO. Woman here.

Some of you women should be positively ashamed of your lazy, meaningless existence, frankly.

+1. I pray for my sons because the morals women today are trash. All of these young girls on social media celebrating the fact they are gold diggers, cheat on me, and do only fans. So much morals and self-respect. You’re not a baddie because you take your clothes off or can get a 6 figure man. You all are toxic immature babies.

So let's recap. You are an older guy who "dates" young women engaging in virtual prostitution and then you complain that they "cheat" on you and hope that your sons would not repeat your experience. DCUM is not the place to get help with your addiction.