Divorced SAHMs and younger professional women: sugar babies?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Eta there are certainly some younger women or older women with kids who are killing it financially (I’m a single mom by choice and very comfortable) but this isn’t the most common scenario.

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Exactly. The ex husband pays for the house in a nice area and luxury car, but the divorced woman wants more - not saying this is every woman, but I have seen enough of them to know that too many of these women exist. If OP were my son, I would want them to know.

What planet are you on? My ex husband earns 600K and pays for nothing. We live in a crappy apartment, my kid attends public and I paid for my own non-luxury car.

Why should he pay when he isn’t your partner? Maybe you should focus more on your income than your ex-husbands. Boo hoo, that as a grown adult you had to pay for your own car. As if your ex should buy you one simply because of his income. Why do women feel so entitled to men’s money?

Dimwit, because it was in response to the poster above saying that the ex husband pays for “the house in a nice area and a luxury car.” And by the way, just because he isn’t my partner doesn’t mean he shouldn’t be paying towards the cost of housing and educating his only child. I bought my car with my own earned income while married btw, and likely earn more than you do, just nowhere near as much as he does.

Not so sure about that. Plenty of lazy women in nice areas looking for Mr. Paycheck. It is kind of disgusting - and extremely obvious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, the world has changed in that this behavior is out in the open now.
When my wife started behaving like that it ruined our marriage.
She was on social media and somehow it got into her head that she was owed things more quickly then our budget allowed.
The sad thing is there are a lot of low quality/ low self esteem men out there willing to pay women through only fans, seeking, etc.

This. Men put up with a bunch of BS if they think they can get laid and this entitles women to think they can act this way. Then these women expect high value men, but get upset because high value men don’t want women like them. Then they berate men instead of looking to themselves to find out why men don’t want to date them. Women need to wake up and realize men don’t want lazy women who look at them like a paycheck.

The do want sex and children though, and they want high quality mothers for their children.

Pfft. "High quality" - keep telling yourself that.

Not what other people see, at all. Men aren't stupid.

[Anonymous]

Man. These comments.

Women who are unmarried with no children are the happiest group of people in the world. Who do we all want to get married so badly? These guys are terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man. These comments.

Women who are unmarried with no children are the happiest group of people in the world. Who do we all want to get married so badly? These guys are terrible.

That's the point - if these women were so "high quality" - wouldn't they have anyone they want, without having to use (for example) a fancy car or whatever to bait them and make them think they have more money than they really have?

*If it is not you don't worry about it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Man. These comments.

Women who are unmarried with no children are the happiest group of people in the world. Who do we all want to get married so badly? These guys are terrible.

That's the point - if these women were so "high quality" - wouldn't they have anyone they want, without having to use (for example) a fancy car or whatever to bait them and make them think they have more money than they really have?

*If it is not you don't worry about it.

Bait them? Who married anyone without knowing their true financial picture?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Man. These comments.

Women who are unmarried with no children are the happiest group of people in the world. Who do we all want to get married so badly? These guys are terrible.

That's the point - if these women were so "high quality" - wouldn't they have anyone they want, without having to use (for example) a fancy car or whatever to bait them and make them think they have more money than they really have?

*If it is not you don't worry about it.

Bait them? Who married anyone without knowing their true financial picture?

I think the point is that there are plenty of women who try to pretend to be someone they are not - can't really blame OP for being tired of what's out there.

[Anonymous]

Who do men basically worship? Elon musk and other billionaires. They want to be like them, so it makes sense that women want to be with them.

Oh please. Men don’t worship celebrities. Women do that all on their own.

[Anonymous]

The majority of 20 year old women that would be interested in a middle aged man, would be someone interested in money. SAHM may also prefer not to work and weed people out who may not provide that lifestyle to them. Stop dating 20 year olds if you don’t want to be seen as $$$.

[Anonymous]

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Who do men basically worship? Elon musk and other billionaires. They want to be like them, so it makes sense that women want to be with them.

Oh please. Men don’t worship celebrities. Women do that all on their own.

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Look around. Some women don't know how to be happy - a man isn't going to help that situation.

[Anonymous]

Makes total sense to me. As a man, you are either young with great career prospects or middle aged / old, wealthy and generous in order to be successful on the dating scene. Otherwise, crumbles and don't be too picky.

[Anonymous]

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Who do men basically worship? Elon musk and other billionaires. They want to be like them, so it makes sense that women want to be with them.

Oh please. Men don’t worship celebrities. Women do that all on their own.

The NFL, MLB and NBA would be bankrupt if this were true. Men worship them so much they literally make up pretend teams of celebrities to play against other pretend teams of celebrities. All that’s missing is the action figures.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Eta there are certainly some younger women or older women with kids who are killing it financially (I’m a single mom by choice and very comfortable) but this isn’t the most common scenario.

+1

Exactly. The ex husband pays for the house in a nice area and luxury car, but the divorced woman wants more - not saying this is every woman, but I have seen enough of them to know that too many of these women exist. If OP were my son, I would want them to know.

What planet are you on? My ex husband earns 600K and pays for nothing. We live in a crappy apartment, my kid attends public and I paid for my own non-luxury car.

Why should he pay when he isn’t your partner? Maybe you should focus more on your income than your ex-husbands. Boo hoo, that as a grown adult you had to pay for your own car. As if your ex should buy you one simply because of his income. Why do women feel so entitled to men’s money?

Dimwit, because it was in response to the poster above saying that the ex husband pays for “the house in a nice area and a luxury car.” And by the way, just because he isn’t my partner doesn’t mean he shouldn’t be paying towards the cost of housing and educating his only child. I bought my car with my own earned income while married btw, and likely earn more than you do, just nowhere near as much as he does.

Wrong. Your ex should be supporting your child but the house is expense is yours and yours alone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a middle aged guy. Lately I've been shocked by how similar the 20 something childless women and the 40 something moms without jobs have been on the dating apps. When they text they almost always start to use words like "generous" or "giving" or "pampering" to describe what they want in a relationship. A lot of younger women do this even if they have real jobs. A lot of older women do this even if they have been living very respectable lives with kids. I didn't expect this. Sometimes it's hard to tell who wants a sugar daddy.

OP, you should question why you would contextualize women as wanting a sugar daddy soley because they are honest and explicit about not wanting to be a "sugar momma".

So many men target these same women to try to use them for cash and abuse their kindness.

Newsflash, these words are being used to weed out the couch surfing, cheap, eternal childhood, man-boy, mother replacers that frequent these apps.

In other words, if you are bothered by what a woman says she wants, swipe on. I am sure you'll find your sugar momma in their somewhere.

More women use men for money than men use women for money. For every 1 guys, there’s 10 women who do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eta there are certainly some younger women or older women with kids who are killing it financially (I’m a single mom by choice and very comfortable) but this isn’t the most common scenario.

+1

Exactly. The ex husband pays for the house in a nice area and luxury car, but the divorced woman wants more - not saying this is every woman, but I have seen enough of them to know that too many of these women exist. If OP were my son, I would want them to know.

What planet are you on? My ex husband earns 600K and pays for nothing. We live in a crappy apartment, my kid attends public and I paid for my own non-luxury car.

Why should he pay when he isn’t your partner? Maybe you should focus more on your income than your ex-husbands. Boo hoo, that as a grown adult you had to pay for your own car. As if your ex should buy you one simply because of his income. Why do women feel so entitled to men’s money?

Dimwit, because it was in response to the poster above saying that the ex husband pays for “the house in a nice area and a luxury car.” And by the way, just because he isn’t my partner doesn’t mean he shouldn’t be paying towards the cost of housing and educating his only child. I bought my car with my own earned income while married btw, and likely earn more than you do, just nowhere near as much as he does.

He should be paying for the child’s expenses and the child’s school, but he is not responsible for your house. Would you take care of his house expenses or at least part of them if the roles were reversed? I think not. You’re no longer married and his doesn’t have to support you, only his son. If you can’t afford a good enough house, it’s time for you to look at your own expenses and think about getting a better job. If a man was in that position, everyone would tell the man to get a higher paying job, so you don’t get a pass.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would also like to date someone generous and giving as those as personality traits I value. I won't go on a second date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first (usually just a coffee or a drink). That being said, I am not looking for a sugar daddy...just someone who can support himself and doesn't nickel and dime in relationships. I make 250k+/year, and I am also very generous.

Women like you are a dime and dozen and high value men don’t want women like you.

There are many fewer “high value men” than high earning men would like to believe. It’s not about high income, surprise surprise.

I never indicated it was solely about money, you did. High value men goes well beyond a high income.