Divorced SAHMs and younger professional women: sugar babies?

[Anonymous]

I've been a sugar daddy and "dated" many women in their 20s. There are some women on such sites (for sugar dating specifically) who are clearly just focused on money, and I avoid them. The others are looking more for the excitement or they don't like their options among men their age. The money I'm sure is nice too, but often didn't seem like their primary focus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been a sugar daddy and "dated" many women in their 20s. There are some women on such sites (for sugar dating specifically) who are clearly just focused on money, and I avoid them. The others are looking more for the excitement or they don't like their options among men their age. The money I'm sure is nice too, but often didn't seem like their primary focus.

Why would women want this? I just don't get it. An old dad. Someone with different experiences than you. Someone who will die before you. Someone with previous relationships you have to live up to. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Let me say it AGAIN for those in the back with hearing aids.


NO WOMAN IN THE CATEGORIES DESCRIBED BY OP WANTS TO BE A SUGAR MOMMA.

The terms "giving, pampering, and generous" are used by women as CHUMP REPELLENT to WEED OUT the freeloaders, the hobos, the narcissists, and men who are looking to use single moms and other WOMEN for their money and security.

Carry on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would also like to date someone generous and giving as those as personality traits I value. I won't go on a second date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first (usually just a coffee or a drink). That being said, I am not looking for a sugar daddy...just someone who can support himself and doesn't nickel and dime in relationships. I make 250k+/year, and I am also very generous.

Women like you are a dime and dozen and high value men don’t want women like you.

There are many fewer “high value men” than high earning men would like to believe. It’s not about high income, surprise surprise.

And WTH makes a woman "high value", in your mind??? Mad shopping skills, and the ability to light a match to her husband's paycheck?? GTFO. Woman here.

Some of you women should be positively ashamed of your lazy, meaningless existence, frankly.

+1. I pray for my sons because the morals women today are trash. All of these young girls on social media celebrating the fact they are gold diggers, cheat on me, and do only fans. So much morals and self-respect. You’re not a baddie because you take your clothes off or can get a 6 figure man. You all are toxic immature babies.

So let's recap. You are an older guy who "dates" young women engaging in virtual prostitution and then you complain that they "cheat" on you and hope that your sons would not repeat your experience. DCUM is not the place to get help with your addiction.

That was clearly a typo meant to say “ cheat on men”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me say it AGAIN for those in the back with hearing aids.


NO WOMAN IN THE CATEGORIES DESCRIBED BY OP WANTS TO BE A SUGAR MOMMA.

The terms "giving, pampering, and generous" are used by women as CHUMP REPELLENT to WEED OUT the freeloaders, the hobos, the narcissists, and men who are looking to use single moms and other WOMEN for their money and security.

Carry on.

+1 and it makes OP, a chump, uncomfortable, because he was planning on being a good-for-nothing and is caught off-guard by women having standards.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've been a sugar daddy and "dated" many women in their 20s. There are some women on such sites (for sugar dating specifically) who are clearly just focused on money, and I avoid them. The others are looking more for the excitement or they don't like their options among men their age. The money I'm sure is nice too, but often didn't seem like their primary focus.

Why would women want this? I just don't get it. An old dad. Someone with different experiences than you. Someone who will die before you. Someone with previous relationships you have to live up to. No thanks.

Many of those women likely never had a father or at least never had a strong father figure in their life. They to older men to fulfill the void of not having a father.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Its an era of equality, pay for your share or don’t go on dates, do overtime to earn more.

Oh okay as soon as you do your equal share with being pregnant, delivering and breast feeding multiple children, waking up all night every night for years, cleaning up after children’s and a spouse, staying home with sick kids and taking them to the doctor, going to school events and teacher conferences, managing school projects and supervising homework, social life and kids transportation needs until they are 18, managing childcare and household help if any, doing their wardrobes and toys, managing their extracurriculars and friendships, grocery shopping for a family, cooking and packing three meals a day for a family, taking care of cars and animals and home maintenance, planning and packing for all vacations/travel, organizing and executing all holidays and family memories, taking all the career compromises /setbacks and challenges involved in doing all this while working full time, and very possibly (and in my case) managing finances and taxes. See how that works? Why the hell do men think they are entitled to do nothing but work their job and f*ck their women?

Welcome to the real world. This is called being an adult and a parent.

Agreed. Why do so few men seem to get that? They externalize all the parenting and adulthood tasks onto women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would also like to date someone generous and giving as those as personality traits I value. I won't go on a second date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first (usually just a coffee or a drink). That being said, I am not looking for a sugar daddy...just someone who can support himself and doesn't nickel and dime in relationships. I make 250k+/year, and I am also very generous.

Women like you are a dime and dozen and high value men don’t want women like you.

There are many fewer “high value men” than high earning men would like to believe. It’s not about high income, surprise surprise.

And WTH makes a woman "high value", in your mind??? Mad shopping skills, and the ability to light a match to her husband's paycheck?? GTFO. Woman here.

Some of you women should be positively ashamed of your lazy, meaningless existence, frankly.

+1. I pray for my sons because the morals women today are trash. All of these young girls on social media celebrating the fact they are gold diggers, cheat on me, and do only fans. So much morals and self-respect. You’re not a baddie because you take your clothes off or can get a 6 figure man. You all are toxic immature babies.

Here’s the funny thing about social media. It shows you more of what gets a rise out of you. My TikTok is full of moms making cute bento boxes for their kids, cooking dinner for their family, and cleaning and organizing their homes, because I like that kind of wholesome content. You, on the other hand, get some perverse pleasure out of content made by Only Fans sex workers, so you see a ton of that. Then you conclude that society’s morals are failing? No. Your morals are failing. You’re the one on an IV drip of social media rage bait. Fix yourself and you’ll fix your media stream.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let me say it AGAIN for those in the back with hearing aids.


NO WOMAN IN THE CATEGORIES DESCRIBED BY OP WANTS TO BE A SUGAR MOMMA.

The terms "giving, pampering, and generous" are used by women as CHUMP REPELLENT to WEED OUT the freeloaders, the hobos, the narcissists, and men who are looking to use single moms and other WOMEN for their money and security.

Carry on.

+1 and it makes OP, a chump, uncomfortable, because he was planning on being a good-for-nothing and is caught off-guard by women having standards.

You are both ignorant.

What person is using a single money for her money and security? Most single mothers have neither of those things. Men may look at single mothers as easier and try to get laid, but they are not looking at them for money and security.

As for the rest, women wanting a sugar daddy far exceeds men looking for a sugar mamma. Those women, and many women, are looking for men to support them in exchange for sex. Those are clearly code works for a sugar baby or escort.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let me say it AGAIN for those in the back with hearing aids.


NO WOMAN IN THE CATEGORIES DESCRIBED BY OP WANTS TO BE A SUGAR MOMMA.

The terms "giving, pampering, and generous" are used by women as CHUMP REPELLENT to WEED OUT the freeloaders, the hobos, the narcissists, and men who are looking to use single moms and other WOMEN for their money and security.

Carry on.

+1 and it makes OP, a chump, uncomfortable, because he was planning on being a good-for-nothing and is caught off-guard by women having standards.

Most single mothers don’t have money or security. It sounds like you’re one of these women and are offended by OPs definition of women like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me say it AGAIN for those in the back with hearing aids.


NO WOMAN IN THE CATEGORIES DESCRIBED BY OP WANTS TO BE A SUGAR MOMMA.

The terms "giving, pampering, and generous" are used by women as CHUMP REPELLENT to WEED OUT the freeloaders, the hobos, the narcissists, and men who are looking to use single moms and other WOMEN for their money and security.

Carry on.

+1 and it makes OP, a chump, uncomfortable, because he was planning on being a good-for-nothing and is caught off-guard by women having standards.

You are both ignorant.

What person is using a single money for her money and security? Most single mothers have neither of those things. Men may look at single mothers as easier and try to get laid, but they are not looking at them for money and security.

As for the rest, women wanting a sugar daddy far exceeds men looking for a sugar mamma. Those women, and many women, are looking for men to support them in exchange for sex. Those are clearly code works for a sugar baby or escort.

You don’t think men use single women for their financial resources? Lol. I wish that were true, but I know a lot of women who get trapped by freeloading men using them for a place to stay. You may not be familiar with this because you live in a privileged bubble where men are successful, but I come from a more rust belt-y place where women who have stable jobs in healthcare are more likely to be providers than the men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me say it AGAIN for those in the back with hearing aids.


NO WOMAN IN THE CATEGORIES DESCRIBED BY OP WANTS TO BE A SUGAR MOMMA.

The terms "giving, pampering, and generous" are used by women as CHUMP REPELLENT to WEED OUT the freeloaders, the hobos, the narcissists, and men who are looking to use single moms and other WOMEN for their money and security.

Carry on.

+1 and it makes OP, a chump, uncomfortable, because he was planning on being a good-for-nothing and is caught off-guard by women having standards.

Most single mothers don’t have money or security. It sounds like you’re one of these women and are offended by OPs definition of women like you.

Ha! I’m a happily married woman with a high income (biglaw). But I know enough about the world to know there are plenty of freeloading men taking advantage of single moms. Plenty.

[Anonymous]

Wrong. Your ex should be supporting your child but the house is expense is yours and yours alone.

NP. This is actually insane. Part of supporting a child that he helped create is contributing to the child’s housing expense, one of the child’s most basic needs. Any parent (man or woman) that tries to avoid that obligation is a complete loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been a sugar daddy and "dated" many women in their 20s. There are some women on such sites (for sugar dating specifically) who are clearly just focused on money, and I avoid them. The others are looking more for the excitement or they don't like their options among men their age. The money I'm sure is nice too, but often didn't seem like their primary focus.

I love the idea that you think dating you is somehow “exciting”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me say it AGAIN for those in the back with hearing aids.


NO WOMAN IN THE CATEGORIES DESCRIBED BY OP WANTS TO BE A SUGAR MOMMA.

The terms "giving, pampering, and generous" are used by women as CHUMP REPELLENT to WEED OUT the freeloaders, the hobos, the narcissists, and men who are looking to use single moms and other WOMEN for their money and security.

Carry on.

+1 and it makes OP, a chump, uncomfortable, because he was planning on being a good-for-nothing and is caught off-guard by women having standards.

Most single mothers don’t have money or security. It sounds like you’re one of these women and are offended by OPs definition of women like you.

Ha! I’m a happily married woman with a high income (biglaw). But I know enough about the world to know there are plenty of freeloading men taking advantage of single moms. Plenty.

^^^ this.

And it’s not just money. Men exploit single moms for childcare when they don’t want to do the minimum court-required work to look after their own kids. They use them for housing, housework, and string them along because of how their “crazy ex” has turned them off marriage. A smart single mom filters these people out by stating your front they they expect to receive as well as give.

As for the 20-somethings…they can see you’re middle aged trying to date a 20-something. They want to make it clear to you it’s not because they find you so “exciting”