Who pays for the date?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:after all the $$$ i spend on grooming and primping etc etc, yeah he should pay in the beginning. maybe I am old fashioned.

This is so stupid. All of your primping is optional, so a man has no obligation to “reimburse” you for it. Grow up.

Please. And you'd be outraged if a woman showed up to the date with zero makeup on, unkempt hair, sweatpants, etc. Anyway, I'm sure no woman wants to appeal to you anyway, so your opinion is irrelevant. Next!

I am a woman, you moron. But I know that my grooming decisions are entirely my responsibility. If I don’t feel like getting my brows threaded, I don’t. But if I do, I don’t expect to recoup the cost through an expense dinner. That’s a transactional relationship, and those are for sex workers.

You sound unattractive and unhinged and actually a lot like the LARPing incel guy.

Anyway... enjoy your sad life. Not everyone gets to win

Until your husband leaves you for a newer model. Then you'll wish you had some survival skills. Might be too late in life to sell your goods again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boomers arguing about this on here, meanwhile Gen Z: https://www.tiktok.com/@jayandnia/video/7030134085678812421

You cant fight the basic nature of men and women, nor should you try. Women wont put up with men unless theyre bringing financials to the table. Men want women way more than vice versa. That's just how it goes, period. Young men know this.

I hate that I agree with this, but I do. Men want it more, especially now that women don't need to rely on men to put a roof over our heads.

LOL no it just makes the men who have money more sought after. House are expensive!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel so sad for all of these women who clearly never grew up. They will always need a daddy for approval and financial support.

It has nothing to do with approval or financial support. It is a man showing a nice gesture, and a woman being able to accept it. For a
The man has to be a little more into the woman than the woman is into him- for best chances of things working out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:after all the $$$ i spend on grooming and primping etc etc, yeah he should pay in the beginning. maybe I am old fashioned.

This is so stupid. All of your primping is optional, so a man has no obligation to “reimburse” you for it. Grow up.

Please. And you'd be outraged if a woman showed up to the date with zero makeup on, unkempt hair, sweatpants, etc. Anyway, I'm sure no woman wants to appeal to you anyway, so your opinion is irrelevant. Next!

Well I'm sure your man got exactly what he paid for

I'm not sure what this means, I dont speak incel

Sure you do, but I'll spell it for you. You are bought and paid for. Seems like he went to Ross for marriage material though.

Oops. Another rage tantrum. I can only imagine how very popular with the ladies your whining and misogynistic outbursts are. Clearly mama made a winner. Accept that you're last place and move on, loser.

I'm a woman sweetheart. But my mom raised me to respect myself, have my own money, pay for the things I want/need and not be an entitled princess. See. Not so smart, again.

Uh oh. This really sounds like the rage filled incel guy that always comes on and pretends to be a woman. So predictable and funny. Lemme get the popcorn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:after all the $$$ i spend on grooming and primping etc etc, yeah he should pay in the beginning. maybe I am old fashioned.

This is so stupid. All of your primping is optional, so a man has no obligation to “reimburse” you for it. Grow up.

Please. And you'd be outraged if a woman showed up to the date with zero makeup on, unkempt hair, sweatpants, etc. Anyway, I'm sure no woman wants to appeal to you anyway, so your opinion is irrelevant. Next!

I am a woman, you moron. But I know that my grooming decisions are entirely my responsibility. If I don’t feel like getting my brows threaded, I don’t. But if I do, I don’t expect to recoup the cost through an expense dinner. That’s a transactional relationship, and those are for sex workers.

You sound unattractive and unhinged and actually a lot like the LARPing incel guy.

Anyway... enjoy your sad life. Not everyone gets to win

Until your husband leaves you for a newer model. Then you'll wish you had some survival skills. Might be too late in life to sell your goods again.

More projecting from the incel. Dont you have some virtual reality porn you could be jerking off to instead? You can distract yourself from your miserable loneliness for at least a few precious minutes with that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boomers arguing about this on here, meanwhile Gen Z: https://www.tiktok.com/@jayandnia/video/7030134085678812421

You cant fight the basic nature of men and women, nor should you try. Women wont put up with men unless theyre bringing financials to the table. Men want women way more than vice versa. That's just how it goes, period. Young men know this.

I hate that I agree with this, but I do. Men want it more, especially now that women don't need to rely on men to put a roof over our heads.

+1

Economic power for women have truly put them in the driver's seat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:after all the $$$ i spend on grooming and primping etc etc, yeah he should pay in the beginning. maybe I am old fashioned.

This is so stupid. All of your primping is optional, so a man has no obligation to “reimburse” you for it. Grow up.

Please. And you'd be outraged if a woman showed up to the date with zero makeup on, unkempt hair, sweatpants, etc. Anyway, I'm sure no woman wants to appeal to you anyway, so your opinion is irrelevant. Next!

I am a woman, you moron. But I know that my grooming decisions are entirely my responsibility. If I don’t feel like getting my brows threaded, I don’t. But if I do, I don’t expect to recoup the cost through an expense dinner. That’s a transactional relationship, and those are for sex workers.

You sound unattractive and unhinged and actually a lot like the LARPing incel guy.

Anyway... enjoy your sad life. Not everyone gets to win

Until your husband leaves you for a newer model. Then you'll wish you had some survival skills. Might be too late in life to sell your goods again.

More projecting from the incel. Dont you have some virtual reality porn you could be jerking off to instead? You can distract yourself from your miserable loneliness for at least a few precious minutes with that

I must have really struck a nerve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know one woman who always insisted on paying for her own dinner, etc. She was very successful, but had a hard time to find the right guy. She finally got married in her late thirties. Her husband works some low paying job while she works full time with no breaks. She always complains about him being lazy.

I do not understand this. Are you complaining about the “roll reversal”? So are women the only ones allowed to take low paying jobs while their husbands work the “real” job and make money? Some how I do not think you would be sympathetic to a DH who complained about never getting a break while his under employed “lazy” DW did nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know one woman who always insisted on paying for her own dinner, etc. She was very successful, but had a hard time to find the right guy. She finally got married in her late thirties. Her husband works some low paying job while she works full time with no breaks. She always complains about him being lazy.

I do not understand this. Are you complaining about the “roll reversal”? So are women the only ones allowed to take low paying jobs while their husbands work the “real” job and make money? Some how I do not think you would be sympathetic to a DH who complained about never getting a break while his under employed “lazy” DW did nothing.

There is not much logic in these posts. Just a lot of entitlement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:after all the $$$ i spend on grooming and primping etc etc, yeah he should pay in the beginning. maybe I am old fashioned.

This is so stupid. All of your primping is optional, so a man has no obligation to “reimburse” you for it. Grow up.

Please. And you'd be outraged if a woman showed up to the date with zero makeup on, unkempt hair, sweatpants, etc. Anyway, I'm sure no woman wants to appeal to you anyway, so your opinion is irrelevant. Next!

I am a woman, you moron. But I know that my grooming decisions are entirely my responsibility. If I don’t feel like getting my brows threaded, I don’t. But if I do, I don’t expect to recoup the cost through an expense dinner. That’s a transactional relationship, and those are for sex workers.

You sound unattractive and unhinged and actually a lot like the LARPing incel guy.

Anyway... enjoy your sad life. Not everyone gets to win

Until your husband leaves you for a newer model. Then you'll wish you had some survival skills. Might be too late in life to sell your goods again.

More projecting from the incel. Dont you have some virtual reality porn you could be jerking off to instead? You can distract yourself from your miserable loneliness for at least a few precious minutes with that

I must have really struck a nerve.

Oop- there he is again. I guess the VR porn just doesnt do enough. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know one woman who always insisted on paying for her own dinner, etc. She was very successful, but had a hard time to find the right guy. She finally got married in her late thirties. Her husband works some low paying job while she works full time with no breaks. She always complains about him being lazy.

I do not understand this. Are you complaining about the “roll reversal”? So are women the only ones allowed to take low paying jobs while their husbands work the “real” job and make money? Some how I do not think you would be sympathetic to a DH who complained about never getting a break while his under employed “lazy” DW did nothing.

It's not about sympathy, it's about what women will and will not tolerate on the dating market. Sorry, no one is crying over these men, lol

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

The man pays for everything relating to the date - dinner, drinks, sports tickets, snacks, peanuts, parking, tips, gas, everything. The woman's job is to look her best, have fun, and be a great companion.
After 1-3 dates, if there is mutual attraction, they hook up. If neither party ghosts, then they are officially a couple, and have an honest discussion about sharing expenses.
But if the man decides after 1 to 3 dates that he is not attracted, then he stops calling.
And, if the woman decides that she is not interested, then she either tells him that she is no longer in position to keep going out, or she makes up excuses until he gets the message.

The system is not perfect, but that is how dating has worked for a long time, and there are many happy marriages, including mine, that started off that way.

Hope that helps!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The man pays for everything relating to the date - dinner, drinks, sports tickets, snacks, peanuts, parking, tips, gas, everything. The woman's job is to look her best, have fun, and be a great companion.
After 1-3 dates, if there is mutual attraction, they hook up. If neither party ghosts, then they are officially a couple, and have an honest discussion about sharing expenses.
But if the man decides after 1 to 3 dates that he is not attracted, then he stops calling.
And, if the woman decides that she is not interested, then she either tells him that she is no longer in position to keep going out, or she makes up excuses until he gets the message.

The system is not perfect, but that is how dating has worked for a long time, and there are many happy marriages, including mine, that started off that way.

Hope that helps!

Nothing about this is codified or universal. I repudiate it entirely. If you want to put your puss on the auction block to the highest bidder, have at it, but I, another woman, find you repugnant .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a question about paying for dates! In the past I was always quick to split the bill or even pay for the date, but I am working on leading with a more feminine energy. It still feels quite awkward to me so I'd love your input.
Background:
Went on a first date on Saturday, he arranged the date and I had a fancy cocktail and appetizer and he paid. He set up the second date for next Saturday, a hockey game and he arranged it and got the tickets. I was thinking it would be nice to offer to pay for any drinks/snacks that we get there.What do you think? Should I offer or continue to let him treat me?TLR - Do you ever pay for dates or aspects of the date? What date do you start offering? Who should pay for ongoing dates? Whats the etiquette? I think I make more money than guys that I usually date also

This is kind of how things started out with DH. I paid for little things while we were dating (like snacks at the hockey game, just as a gesture of kindness and reciprocity) but for the first time in my dating life, I basically let him pay and plan things, and he did. I made more money than the guys I dated before DH, too. And now we're married, and he still brings more money to the relatioship than I...