Who smokes weed at 8 in the morning to start their Monday telework day?

[Anonymous]

I have PTSD and am a daily cannabis user. I also have an MBA and work in a serious, conservative field and would never DREAM of using before work.

There’s substance use and there’s substance abuse. Your wife, OP, is a substance abuser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I sympathize op, but you need to respect her journey. Do you need to leave? Maybe. I would exhaust many other options including special hvac filtration systems, house renovation, etc. all cheaper than divorce.

40 lbs seems a bit petty. Do you still have a sex life? Could you meet a fit marathon vegetarian to spend the rest of your life with? Maybe. Would she have other qualities that annoyed you? Absolutely. Would she have the shared history and child you have? Nope.

OPs BMI is literally one point less than his wife's. He is a total hypocrite.

Muscle weighs more than fat. BMI is a garbage calculation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she might have anxiety from living with you, based on your posts in this thread.

The fact your teen is defending her from you is a pretty bad sign.

I agree.

She has a right to do it. You have a right to decide whether you want to stay married to someone who does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have PTSD and am a daily cannabis user. I also have an MBA and work in a serious, conservative field and would never DREAM of using before work.

There’s substance use and there’s substance abuse. Your wife, OP, is a substance abuser.

But she says it helps her with her creativity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m with you, OP.

First, no one should have to live with smoker. She knew you didn’t want to. Not fair to you.

Second, what she is doing is a fireable offense.

Third, it’s not good for her health and is a bad example to your kids.

I would not bring up the 40 pounds. Just don’t go there. I would also like to add if she’s tall, and she was like 120 and skinny when you met, she still within the healthy weight range and it’s not a normal for a middle-age woman who said kids especially to gain weight.

Since you did go there, she was 5'9" 152 when I met here. I was fine with her not being skinny. Medium is quite alright to me. She now weighs about 195. I'm pretty sure that's also out of the healthy weight range.

I'm 5'9" 185, about the same as when we met.

I think overeating is another way of self-medicating, but I don't want to piss off the pro-weed and pro-fat people all in one thread.

you realize that you are quite overweight? Your BMI is 27.3. Hers is 28.8. You’re both overweight. She was a healthy weight when you started dating, you were overweight and are still over weight. So she just caught up to you.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think she might have anxiety from living with you, based on your posts in this thread.

The fact your teen is defending her from you is a pretty bad sign.

Teens will usually defend the mom who breast fed them until they were three, wiped their ass until they were ten, and buys them everything they ask for without having to do a single household chore for 14+ years.

Are you OP?

Lots to unpack here.

Yes, I am OP. I'll also say that when mom has "educated" her teen for many years about the wonderful thing that weed is (but only after you're 25, when your brain is fully developed!), it's not really a stretch that your teen would be defending your doing it.

It sounds like you don't llke her, or how your kids are being raised (but you live there too, so what is your part in this?) then you should leave. She may not need to smoke any more!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I sympathize op, but you need to respect her journey. Do you need to leave? Maybe. I would exhaust many other options including special hvac filtration systems, house renovation, etc. all cheaper than divorce.

40 lbs seems a bit petty. Do you still have a sex life? Could you meet a fit marathon vegetarian to spend the rest of your life with? Maybe. Would she have other qualities that annoyed you? Absolutely. Would she have the shared history and child you have? Nope.

OPs BMI is literally one point less than his wife's. He is a total hypocrite.

Muscle weighs more than fat. BMI is a garbage calculation.

Hahaha are you OP? What a hypocrite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I sympathize op, but you need to respect her journey. Do you need to leave? Maybe. I would exhaust many other options including special hvac filtration systems, house renovation, etc. all cheaper than divorce.

40 lbs seems a bit petty. Do you still have a sex life? Could you meet a fit marathon vegetarian to spend the rest of your life with? Maybe. Would she have other qualities that annoyed you? Absolutely. Would she have the shared history and child you have? Nope.

OPs BMI is literally one point less than his wife's. He is a total hypocrite.

Muscle weighs more than fat. BMI is a garbage calculation.

Hahaha are you OP? What a hypocrite.

Hahaha, say whatever you like. Men have more muscle mass than woman, especially those who lift weights and work out daily when compared to women who do not.

Even my wife will freely admit that I'm far fitter than her, and readily showers me with compliments regarding my fitness level (for my age, mid-50's.) She used to run marathons and dream of being a personal trainer. I just want a reasonable facsimile of the person I married back, so I can shower her with compliments on her fitness level, age-adjusted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My gross deadbeat neighbors do this. They are harshly judged.

1
"Do not judge, or you too will be judged.
2
For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
3
"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?"

- Matthew 7: 1-3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My gross deadbeat neighbors do this. They are harshly judged.

1
"Do not judge, or you too will be judged.
2
For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
3
"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?"

- Matthew 7: 1-3

Oh good lord, who let the Jesus freak in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have PTSD and am a daily cannabis user. I also have an MBA and work in a serious, conservative field and would never DREAM of using before work.

There’s substance use and there’s substance abuse. Your wife, OP, is a substance abuser.

Are you saying there is no medicinal reason to treat in the am?

[Anonymous]

You clearly have contempt for your wife. That is the number one predictor for divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have PTSD and am a daily cannabis user. I also have an MBA and work in a serious, conservative field and would never DREAM of using before work.

There’s substance use and there’s substance abuse. Your wife, OP, is a substance abuser.

Are you saying there is no medicinal reason to treat in the am?

I am saying that the drawbacks of being “high” at work negate any benefit gained from cannabis use. It’s like using a painkiller - it may be necessary, but you have to consider how it will affect your other obligations.

I only use after I’ve met my obligations for the day.

CBD provides most of the same benefits of cannabis without the intoxicating effects, so that’s a good alternative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have PTSD and am a daily cannabis user. I also have an MBA and work in a serious, conservative field and would never DREAM of using before work.

There’s substance use and there’s substance abuse. Your wife, OP, is a substance abuser.

Are you saying there is no medicinal reason to treat in the am?

I am saying that the drawbacks of being “high” at work negate any benefit gained from cannabis use. It’s like using a painkiller - it may be necessary, but you have to consider how it will affect your other obligations.

I only use after I’ve met my obligations for the day.

CBD provides most of the same benefits of cannabis without the intoxicating effects, so that’s a good alternative.

People respond differently to THC. Not everyone gets "intoxicated" by it and you can't assume that being high necessarily negatively impacts someone's job performance. It depends on the person and on the job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You clearly have contempt for your wife. That is the number one predictor for divorce.

I love her, but hate her weed smoking. Just as she loves me but hates it when I leave the medicine cabinet door open and starts screaming at my about it. Whereas, I'm perfectly ok if she forgets to close the medicine cabinet door.