Evite and RSVP - Where has manners gone?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got an evite for a party 6 weeks in advance. I can’t plan my life that far out. I had every intention of rsvp-ing closet to the date, but I forgot, and apparently they didn’t send reminders or they went to spam. I realized the party was last weekend—oops.

Why not? If you have nothing on that date, you RSVP yes (if it’s something you want to go to) and then that’s the thing you do that day.

This is not hard.

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Y'all are out of your minds. 6 weeks out, I have no idea what my work schedule will be. I don't even know if I will be in this geographic location on that day (because: WORK). I can't say yes to you that far in advance.

Then say no. See how that works?

Or there’s usually a reply by date that is closer to the event date. But again, if you can’t respond “yes” by the RSVP date, then simply send regrets. Spare the host your “If X then Y, and carry the 3 Remainder 2, and maybe I’ll grace you with my presence.” Don’t do that. Nobody cares, everyone is busy, in or out.

LOVE THIS... YES!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Asparagus here again. Yes, I assumed we are talking about larger parties. Yes, there is a calculus. Ask any event planner. You invite 100, count on 70% as a basic baseline and use the RSVPs to adjust as well as factoring in other variables. Location, COVID, draw, etc…

I’m not rude. The opposite. I gratuitously invite anyone who arrives and I’ve never run out of asparagus nor had 736367373 spears left over. Some of you need to learn how to throw a party.

You are rude. People shouldn't be asked to go through both the expense of purchasing food for you and the work to prepare additional dishes to feed people who can't be bothered to 1) decide if they want to come; and 2) press the button on the screen.

Yes, people are human and make mistakes. Everyone gets that. But you are rationalizing and blaming the host, rather than telling people to apologize when they make a mistake. We are also talking about trends where maybe half to 3/4 of people don't respond, or click "Maybe" or wait until the last few days to respond, etc. Societal breakdown.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody who uses evite for anything but a kids party has zero room to talk about manners, class, etiquette, etc.

Email, evite, text, mail is just a means to send the invite. People who do not RSVP, irrespective of how the invite was sent out, because they are so full of themselves, or waiting to see if something better comes along before saying Yes or No have no manners, class or etiquette and are rude.

If it’s an “adult” party and you’re using evite, I assume you are throwing a chips-and-Helluva-good-dip/Bring Your Own Beer level “event” that people don’t actually need to confirm. Like, if you order extra Dominos because I didn’t condescend to answer, oh well.

Well, you ASSume wrong. Not everyone drinks beer and not every event is a fun event. Have you ever heard of cultural events? Those require planning too and you either respond a Yes or a No. We also don't have time to entertain entitled people like you. You are not that important and the event will go on without you, but don't show up if you haven't responded.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody who uses evite for anything but a kids party has zero room to talk about manners, class, etiquette, etc.

Email, evite, text, mail is just a means to send the invite. People who do not RSVP, irrespective of how the invite was sent out, because they are so full of themselves, or waiting to see if something better comes along before saying Yes or No have no manners, class or etiquette and are rude.

If it’s an “adult” party and you’re using evite, I assume you are throwing a chips-and-Helluva-good-dip/Bring Your Own Beer level “event” that people don’t actually need to confirm. Like, if you order extra Dominos because I didn’t condescend to answer, oh well.

Were you raised in a barn? You have no tact, grace or manners. Your parents failed you.

[Anonymous]

I stand my ground. You host a large party, you need to understand the party calculus. Expecting 100% RSVPs is a fools errand in planning. If you hosted more, you’d just know this. Come on people, everyone intends to RSVP, people are busy, you figure it out as host.

No one signed up for your party. It’s an invite. Be chill. You got this. Folks stating they’d turn people away at the door for not RSVPing is so gauche. Fine, judge them and then have fun with them.

No, I was not bitterly rejected from some event. I find this all hilarious. I RSVP like the rest mostly but I’m not perfect here. Great hosts know how to plan. And yes, it’s on the host.

A missed point - it’s the eager beavers who reply yes and no show whom are the rudest socially. Commit or don’t. I’ve said before that’s a 5-10% crew at a large non-wedding party.

Asparagus

[Anonymous]

We all get Larla got “sick” last minute when your RSVPed Yes 6 weeks ago. When the other non-committal Maybe fam of 4 shows up, it’s a wash.

Seriously, party planning isn’t that hard. Unless you require an exact number of asparagus spears to entertain. Or maybe you are burnt because less ppl show up to what you thought was the event of the century???

Maybe they wanted to watch Squid Game vs. listen to Elton John play the piano in your garden? Maybe you judge?

[Anonymous]

Don't include the location in the invite. If the invitee wants to come, they have to make contact to find out where the event is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um, Evite is a spammy way to give away your friends' emails to a company without their permission and then require them to look at ads while viewing your invite because you were too cheap to buy one or send an email.

I don't think it's very polite to send Evites in the first place. So I would back away from calling people who don't respond to them rude, as it is hypocritical.

Haven’t read all the replies, but THIS!!!

Do NOT put your friends’ emails into some random website!

So beyond rude.

Just send them an email. Copy and paste it to everyone, or put everyone in BCC.

If I am going to send an email to 20 or 30 people anyways, I would rather use evite to do that. It gives them the option to update number of guests, change the RSVP and they don't have to text or email me either. I could monitor just the evite.

Evite has the option of sending it through text or email. Would you rather I did that to make my work easier? Maybe you would like receiving spam texts instead of spam emails? As a host, if I am inviting friends and acquaintances and colleagues for an event, I do not want to go back and forth with you via text.

We were recently invited to a 50th birthday party and the evite was sent through text. We clicked the link and RSVPed. The event was informal but had a lot of people. I can just imagine the host texting and going back and forth with 30 families.

Those of you texting must have a lot of time on your hands.

You should at least tell people when you’re asking for their email that you plan to give it to companies who literally make their money by selling those emails to spammers.

Everyone I know uses evite. Birthday parties, showers, retirement parties. Guess we’re all low class.

[Anonymous]

What happened to more personal invitations? This reliance on technology and computers to invite people to your home is just so awful. That’s why people don’t respond.

[Anonymous]

So what is the preferred method of inviting someone?
I actually like evite, never been spammed, I remove people if they don't rsvp by deadline so they don't get reminders about the event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, Evite is a spammy way to give away your friends' emails to a company without their permission and then require them to look at ads while viewing your invite because you were too cheap to buy one or send an email.

I don't think it's very polite to send Evites in the first place. So I would back away from calling people who don't respond to them rude, as it is hypocritical.

Haven’t read all the replies, but THIS!!!

Do NOT put your friends’ emails into some random website!

So beyond rude.

Just send them an email. Copy and paste it to everyone, or put everyone in BCC.

If I am going to send an email to 20 or 30 people anyways, I would rather use evite to do that. It gives them the option to update number of guests, change the RSVP and they don't have to text or email me either. I could monitor just the evite.

Evite has the option of sending it through text or email. Would you rather I did that to make my work easier? Maybe you would like receiving spam texts instead of spam emails? As a host, if I am inviting friends and acquaintances and colleagues for an event, I do not want to go back and forth with you via text.

We were recently invited to a 50th birthday party and the evite was sent through text. We clicked the link and RSVPed. The event was informal but had a lot of people. I can just imagine the host texting and going back and forth with 30 families.

Those of you texting must have a lot of time on your hands.

You should at least tell people when you’re asking for their email that you plan to give it to companies who literally make their money by selling those emails to spammers.

Everyone I know uses evite. Birthday parties, showers, retirement parties. Guess we’re all low class.

White trash

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, Evite is a spammy way to give away your friends' emails to a company without their permission and then require them to look at ads while viewing your invite because you were too cheap to buy one or send an email.

I don't think it's very polite to send Evites in the first place. So I would back away from calling people who don't respond to them rude, as it is hypocritical.

Haven’t read all the replies, but THIS!!!

Do NOT put your friends’ emails into some random website!

So beyond rude.

Just send them an email. Copy and paste it to everyone, or put everyone in BCC.

If I am going to send an email to 20 or 30 people anyways, I would rather use evite to do that. It gives them the option to update number of guests, change the RSVP and they don't have to text or email me either. I could monitor just the evite.

Evite has the option of sending it through text or email. Would you rather I did that to make my work easier? Maybe you would like receiving spam texts instead of spam emails? As a host, if I am inviting friends and acquaintances and colleagues for an event, I do not want to go back and forth with you via text.

We were recently invited to a 50th birthday party and the evite was sent through text. We clicked the link and RSVPed. The event was informal but had a lot of people. I can just imagine the host texting and going back and forth with 30 families.

Those of you texting must have a lot of time on your hands.

You should at least tell people when you’re asking for their email that you plan to give it to companies who literally make their money by selling those emails to spammers.

Everyone I know uses evite. Birthday parties, showers, retirement parties. Guess we’re all low class.

Yes.

[Anonymous]

If evite is wrong, I don't want to be right.

Cue Walker Hayes Fancy Like

[Anonymous]

An actual real party. Mail me an invitation with a return addressed envelope with postage on it. A nice card where I can check off if attending with a due date.

Second tier party like kids party a postcard from a store type card with info and a phone number to reply.

Third tier an evite yea if getting beers or a zoom meeting maybe. I honestly ignore them if I can. It is a passive aggressive invite. I got one for a wedding for a third cousin in another state. Low class

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An actual real party. Mail me an invitation with a return addressed envelope with postage on it. A nice card where I can check off if attending with a due date.

Second tier party like kids party a postcard from a store type card with info and a phone number to reply.

Third tier an evite yea if getting beers or a zoom meeting maybe. I honestly ignore them if I can. It is a passive aggressive invite. I got one for a wedding for a third cousin in another state. Low class

How many casual parties have you been invited to where invitations were actually mailed? Unless it is a wedding invite, I don't see the need to get this formal. Everyone we know uses evite for causal get togethers, kids parties, milestone parties. Even the last 2 wedding invitations we received were sent through email (everything was at theknot.com)