Evite and RSVP - Where has manners gone?

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Anonymous wrote:Um, Evite is a spammy way to give away your friends' emails to a company without their permission and then require them to look at ads while viewing your invite because you were too cheap to buy one or send an email.

I don't think it's very polite to send Evites in the first place. So I would back away from calling people who don't respond to them rude, as it is hypocritical.

Some of us are not stuck in the 80s and doing paper invites.

Some of us are also not stuck in 2002 and doing Evites.

And you think texting is a better way to reach 50 people?

You are inviting 50 people to your kid's birthday party? LOL

DP I didn't assume this was about kids parties? One of the PP was crying about not knowing her work schedule. Since adults aren't the attendees at kids parties not sure we are just talking about one type of party.

Yikes, I see that now in the original post. I just assumed no adults sent evites for parties these days. Seems dated.

[Anonymous]

I always have a "respond by" date. And it's firm. No response = they are no longer invited once the date passes.

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Anonymous wrote:I got an evite for a party 6 weeks in advance. I can’t plan my life that far out. I had every intention of rsvp-ing closet to the date, but I forgot, and apparently they didn’t send reminders or they went to spam. I realized the party was last weekend—oops.

Why not? If you have nothing on that date, you RSVP yes (if it’s something you want to go to) and then that’s the thing you do that day.

This is not hard.

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Y'all are out of your minds. 6 weeks out, I have no idea what my work schedule will be. I don't even know if I will be in this geographic location on that day (because: WORK). I can't say yes to you that far in advance.

Then say no. See how that works?

Or there’s usually a reply by date that is closer to the event date. But again, if you can’t respond “yes” by the RSVP date, then simply send regrets. Spare the host your “If X then Y, and carry the 3 Remainder 2, and maybe I’ll grace you with my presence.” Don’t do that. Nobody cares, everyone is busy, in or out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um, Evite is a spammy way to give away your friends' emails to a company without their permission and then require them to look at ads while viewing your invite because you were too cheap to buy one or send an email.

I don't think it's very polite to send Evites in the first place. So I would back away from calling people who don't respond to them rude, as it is hypocritical.

Some of us are not stuck in the 80s and doing paper invites.

Some of us are also not stuck in 2002 and doing Evites.

And you think texting is a better way to reach 50 people?

You are inviting 50 people to your kid's birthday party? LOL

DP I didn't assume this was about kids parties? One of the PP was crying about not knowing her work schedule. Since adults aren't the attendees at kids parties not sure we are just talking about one type of party.

Yikes, I see that now in the original post. I just assumed no adults sent evites for parties these days. Seems dated.

Now that I think about it, I only get evites to kids parties. Every adult party has been by text or a real paper invitation if it was a wedding or something more formal. Evite would actually be more practical than text for the causal parties. Adults should use it more. What’s a better option?

[Anonymous]

Manners are going extinct.

[Anonymous]

I’ve posted before on the topic. Your RSVP request is not my #1. If you require an exact headcount to plan a shindig, you are the problem. You lack party calculus and you are neither fun nor chill.

I usually RSVP and have a 90% hit here, but cracks, slips….

Do you even know how to entertain? Be fun? Or are you more worried about the precise number of asparagus spears?

[Anonymous]

I am pretty good about RSVPing but I have definitely missed evites in a the spam folder. Or like, a different tab. You need to send a round of texts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve posted before on the topic. Your RSVP request is not my #1. If you require an exact headcount to plan a shindig, you are the problem. You lack party calculus and you are neither fun nor chill.

I usually RSVP and have a 90% hit here, but cracks, slips….

Do you even know how to entertain? Be fun? Or are you more worried about the precise number of asparagus spears?

This is terrible, you suck. For a dinner party, yes! If you can’t come, the host will invite somebody else. What do you want them to do, set a place for you just in case and then have it sit there empty? For a larger seated dinner or a cocktail party, sure, one missing RSVP is no big deal (although it will suck for your table mates when your empty seat is at their table). But when you have 10, 20 missing RSVPs it’s really a problem.

I’m blown away by how rude you are, tbh. If you’re not going to RSVP you should at least feel bad about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve posted before on the topic. Your RSVP request is not my #1. If you require an exact headcount to plan a shindig, you are the problem. You lack party calculus and you are neither fun nor chill.

I usually RSVP and have a 90% hit here, but cracks, slips….

Do you even know how to entertain? Be fun? Or are you more worried about the precise number of asparagus spears?

Oh, FFS, what a try-hard. Spare me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always have a "respond by" date. And it's firm. No response = they are no longer invited once the date passes.

This. I’ve even turned people away at an event who didn’t rsvp (rather loudly too just to embarrass her).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got an evite for a party 6 weeks in advance. I can’t plan my life that far out. I had every intention of rsvp-ing closet to the date, but I forgot, and apparently they didn’t send reminders or they went to spam. I realized the party was last weekend—oops.

Why not? If you have nothing on that date, you RSVP yes (if it’s something you want to go to) and then that’s the thing you do that day.

This is not hard.

+1

Y'all are out of your minds. 6 weeks out, I have no idea what my work schedule will be. I don't even know if I will be in this geographic location on that day (because: WORK). I can't say yes to you that far in advance.

So just say no? Not everyone has this WORK problem. There will never be a system that works for everyone.

It’s fine with me. Above, I was told to say yes because I had nothing planned. I get the sense nobody can win with the bitter Betties on here.

[Anonymous]

Asparagus here. I was speaking to a casual large party, not an intimate event. Come on, my friends know if I’m coming to dinner for 12 because we chat.

If you are hosting large gatherings, you should be able to plan better. It’s party calculus. Yes, RSVP is the polite and correct action, but I guess some of us are human and imperfect sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Asparagus here. I was speaking to a casual large party, not an intimate event. Come on, my friends know if I’m coming to dinner for 12 because we chat.

If you are hosting large gatherings, you should be able to plan better. It’s party calculus. Yes, RSVP is the polite and correct action, but I guess some of us are human and imperfect sometimes.

Just out if curiosity, are you in your 20s? No kids?

Just sounds like a generational thing, and lack of consideration for others.

[Anonymous]

No one answered me what you’re using instead of evite - just text??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Asparagus here. I was speaking to a casual large party, not an intimate event. Come on, my friends know if I’m coming to dinner for 12 because we chat.

If you are hosting large gatherings, you should be able to plan better. It’s party calculus. Yes, RSVP is the polite and correct action, but I guess some of us are human and imperfect sometimes.

Just out if curiosity, are you in your 20s? No kids?

Just sounds like a generational thing, and lack of consideration for others.

Just sounds like someone with experience throwing parties to me - I do and I know RSVPs aren’t an exact science. You have to be a little flexible.