Evite and RSVP - Where has manners gone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what is the preferred method of inviting someone?
I actually like evite, never been spammed, I remove people if they don't rsvp by deadline so they don't get reminders about the event.

Same here. I like evite. It is easier to manage. The people who are texting dozens of people are probably not computer savvy so they rely on text and write down who is coming. The ones who are mailing invitations are behind the times.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, Evite is a spammy way to give away your friends' emails to a company without their permission and then require them to look at ads while viewing your invite because you were too cheap to buy one or send an email.

I don't think it's very polite to send Evites in the first place. So I would back away from calling people who don't respond to them rude, as it is hypocritical.

Haven’t read all the replies, but THIS!!!

Do NOT put your friends’ emails into some random website!

So beyond rude.

Just send them an email. Copy and paste it to everyone, or put everyone in BCC.

If I am going to send an email to 20 or 30 people anyways, I would rather use evite to do that. It gives them the option to update number of guests, change the RSVP and they don't have to text or email me either. I could monitor just the evite.

Evite has the option of sending it through text or email. Would you rather I did that to make my work easier? Maybe you would like receiving spam texts instead of spam emails? As a host, if I am inviting friends and acquaintances and colleagues for an event, I do not want to go back and forth with you via text.

We were recently invited to a 50th birthday party and the evite was sent through text. We clicked the link and RSVPed. The event was informal but had a lot of people. I can just imagine the host texting and going back and forth with 30 families.

Those of you texting must have a lot of time on your hands.

You should at least tell people when you’re asking for their email that you plan to give it to companies who literally make their money by selling those emails to spammers.

Everyone I know uses evite. Birthday parties, showers, retirement parties. Guess we’re all low class.

White trash

What are you even talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An actual real party. Mail me an invitation with a return addressed envelope with postage on it. A nice card where I can check off if attending with a due date.

Second tier party like kids party a postcard from a store type card with info and a phone number to reply.

Third tier an evite yea if getting beers or a zoom meeting maybe. I honestly ignore them if I can. It is a passive aggressive invite. I got one for a wedding for a third cousin in another state. Low class

Said by someone who hasn't been to a party since 1999.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What happened to more personal invitations? This reliance on technology and computers to invite people to your home is just so awful. That’s why people don’t respond.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Um, Evite is a spammy way to give away your friends' emails to a company without their permission and then require them to look at ads while viewing your invite because you were too cheap to buy one or send an email.

I don't think it's very polite to send Evites in the first place. So I would back away from calling people who don't respond to them rude, as it is hypocritical.

Some of us are not stuck in the 80s and doing paper invites.

Some of us are also not stuck in 2002 and doing Evites.

And you think texting is a better way to reach 50 people?

Lol yeah - what are you all using instead? Evite corrals the responses and sends a reminder to everyone for me. That is helpful

Paperless Post or an email and a Google spreadsheet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would rather do paper invites. If people forget to respond to a paper invitation, they've forgotten about the party and for sure won't come. With evite, you get reminders even if you have RSVPed no or forgotten to RSVP. I have had parents show up who RSVPed no on an evite and I wondered if this was why.

I don't want a paper invite. Then I have to type in the persons cell or email to respond. Not that its hard, but it's annoying. And the invite might get lost and I won't know time/date/location. Evite or bust. That way I can just click and be done with it. I haven't received a paper invite in years, it's all electronic invites.

You sound....lazy. How hard is it to (a) snap a picture of the invitation and (b) put it in your calendar (paper, google, outlook, whatever it is that you use)?

[Anonymous]

It's weird to me that people use Evite. I create an invitation in Canva or Photoshop and email and/or text it out to invitees.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:An actual real party. Mail me an invitation with a return addressed envelope with postage on it. A nice card where I can check off if attending with a due date.

Second tier party like kids party a postcard from a store type card with info and a phone number to reply.

Third tier an evite yea if getting beers or a zoom meeting maybe. I honestly ignore them if I can. It is a passive aggressive invite. I got one for a wedding for a third cousin in another state. Low class

How many casual parties have you been invited to where invitations were actually mailed? Unless it is a wedding invite, I don't see the need to get this formal. Everyone we know uses evite for causal get togethers, kids parties, milestone parties. Even the last 2 wedding invitations we received were sent through email (everything was at theknot.com)

+1 but I don’t exactly run in the cotillion crowd! (Direct quote from my mom, 1993, when I asked what cotillion and country clubs are: “you’ll never need to worry about them, sweetheart; they don’t take Jews.”)

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Anonymous wrote:I would rather do paper invites. If people forget to respond to a paper invitation, they've forgotten about the party and for sure won't come. With evite, you get reminders even if you have RSVPed no or forgotten to RSVP. I have had parents show up who RSVPed no on an evite and I wondered if this was why.

I don't want a paper invite. Then I have to type in the persons cell or email to respond. Not that its hard, but it's annoying. And the invite might get lost and I won't know time/date/location. Evite or bust. That way I can just click and be done with it. I haven't received a paper invite in years, it's all electronic invites.

You sound....lazy. How hard is it to (a) snap a picture of the invitation and (b) put it in your calendar (paper, google, outlook, whatever it is that you use)?

No. Get with the times. The evite haters are a minority. For casual get togethers they are entirely appropriate. I don’t want a crappy paper invite sent home in my kids backpack. Way too many papers get sent home already. Save the trees.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:An actual real party. Mail me an invitation with a return addressed envelope with postage on it. A nice card where I can check off if attending with a due date.

Second tier party like kids party a postcard from a store type card with info and a phone number to reply.

Third tier an evite yea if getting beers or a zoom meeting maybe. I honestly ignore them if I can. It is a passive aggressive invite. I got one for a wedding for a third cousin in another state. Low class

How many casual parties have you been invited to where invitations were actually mailed? Unless it is a wedding invite, I don't see the need to get this formal. Everyone we know uses evite for causal get togethers, kids parties, milestone parties. Even the last 2 wedding invitations we received were sent through email (everything was at theknot.com)

+1 but I don’t exactly run in the cotillion crowd! (Direct quote from my mom, 1993, when I asked what cotillion and country clubs are: “you’ll never need to worry about them, sweetheart; they don’t take Jews.”)

Sorry for sounding naive, but I have never heard this before. What does this joke mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's weird to me that people use Evite. I create an invitation in Canva or Photoshop and email and/or text it out to invitees.

It doesn’t literally have to be evite. Any electronic invite will do over text or paper for casual get togethers. People are being way too literal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's weird to me that people use Evite. I create an invitation in Canva or Photoshop and email and/or text it out to invitees.

Some of us don't want to to the extra work when we have a tool to use for that. Other than the spamming part, how different is this? If someone wants to come, they have to RSVP either ways? As a recipient of an invite, I would rather click the evite and s yes than have a conversation via text.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, Evite is a spammy way to give away your friends' emails to a company without their permission and then require them to look at ads while viewing your invite because you were too cheap to buy one or send an email.

I don't think it's very polite to send Evites in the first place. So I would back away from calling people who don't respond to them rude, as it is hypocritical.

Some of us are not stuck in the 80s and doing paper invites.

Some of us are also not stuck in 2002 and doing Evites.

And you think texting is a better way to reach 50 people?

Lol yeah - what are you all using instead? Evite corrals the responses and sends a reminder to everyone for me. That is helpful

Paperless Post or an email and a Google spreadsheet.

But isn't that what evite does - send to your email?

[Anonymous]

where has??? manners gone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They may not have gotten the email or they forgot. Reach out to them. I don't bother to RSVP as if you knew me the answer is no with covid.

Curious why you dont rsvp no?