Evite and RSVP - Where has manners gone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve posted before on the topic. Your RSVP request is not my #1. If you require an exact headcount to plan a shindig, you are the problem. You lack party calculus and you are neither fun nor chill.

I usually RSVP and have a 90% hit here, but cracks, slips….

Do you even know how to entertain? Be fun? Or are you more worried about the precise number of asparagus spears?

This is terrible, you suck. For a dinner party, yes! If you can’t come, the host will invite somebody else. What do you want them to do, set a place for you just in case and then have it sit there empty? For a larger seated dinner or a cocktail party, sure, one missing RSVP is no big deal (although it will suck for your table mates when your empty seat is at their table). But when you have 10, 20 missing RSVPs it’s really a problem.

I’m blown away by how rude you are, tbh. If you’re not going to RSVP you should at least feel bad about it.

+1

You are the epitome of a rude guest.

[Anonymous]

Who says "party calculus"?
I doubt anyone is inviting this pretentious person to parties anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve posted before on the topic. Your RSVP request is not my #1. If you require an exact headcount to plan a shindig, you are the problem. You lack party calculus and you are neither fun nor chill.

I usually RSVP and have a 90% hit here, but cracks, slips….

Do you even know how to entertain? Be fun? Or are you more worried about the precise number of asparagus spears?

This is terrible, you suck. For a dinner party, yes! If you can’t come, the host will invite somebody else. What do you want them to do, set a place for you just in case and then have it sit there empty? For a larger seated dinner or a cocktail party, sure, one missing RSVP is no big deal (although it will suck for your table mates when your empty seat is at their table). But when you have 10, 20 missing RSVPs it’s really a problem.

I’m blown away by how rude you are, tbh. If you’re not going to RSVP you should at least feel bad about it.

+1

You are the epitome of a rude guest.

I think you are talking about different kinds of parties. I don’t think we are talking about seated dinner parties - this is an evite thread!!

[Anonymous]

Asparagus here again. Yes, I assumed we are talking about larger parties. Yes, there is a calculus. Ask any event planner. You invite 100, count on 70% as a basic baseline and use the RSVPs to adjust as well as factoring in other variables. Location, COVID, draw, etc…

I’m not rude. The opposite. I gratuitously invite anyone who arrives and I’ve never run out of asparagus nor had 736367373 spears left over. Some of you need to learn how to throw a party.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got an evite for a party 6 weeks in advance. I can’t plan my life that far out. I had every intention of rsvp-ing closet to the date, but I forgot, and apparently they didn’t send reminders or they went to spam. I realized the party was last weekend—oops.

Why not? If you have nothing on that date, you RSVP yes (if it’s something you want to go to) and then that’s the thing you do that day.

This is not hard.

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Y'all are out of your minds. 6 weeks out, I have no idea what my work schedule will be. I don't even know if I will be in this geographic location on that day (because: WORK). I can't say yes to you that far in advance.

So just say no? Not everyone has this WORK problem. There will never be a system that works for everyone.

It’s fine with me. Above, I was told to say yes because I had nothing planned. I get the sense nobody can win with the bitter Betties on here.

Well you should respond no because you sound like a pain in the ass, but in general, the point is just respond one way or the other. Nobody cares about your personal sob story. In or out, that's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Asparagus here again. Yes, I assumed we are talking about larger parties. Yes, there is a calculus. Ask any event planner. You invite 100, count on 70% as a basic baseline and use the RSVPs to adjust as well as factoring in other variables. Location, COVID, draw, etc…

I’m not rude. The opposite. I gratuitously invite anyone who arrives and I’ve never run out of asparagus nor had 736367373 spears left over. Some of you need to learn how to throw a party.

Or you know, you could just respond. You need to learn how to do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Asparagus here again. Yes, I assumed we are talking about larger parties. Yes, there is a calculus. Ask any event planner. You invite 100, count on 70% as a basic baseline and use the RSVPs to adjust as well as factoring in other variables. Location, COVID, draw, etc…

I’m not rude. The opposite. I gratuitously invite anyone who arrives and I’ve never run out of asparagus nor had 736367373 spears left over. Some of you need to learn how to throw a party.

Stop referring to yourself as asparagus, you idiot.

[Anonymous]

Ha! Asparagus back. It’s a ref to an old DCUM thread.

Point is. Of course you RSVP. Sometimes humans don’t so plan for that at a large event. The hardest part of party calculus is figuring out the Yes RSVPs who no show. That’s around 5-10% depending on the event.

Take your hand, move it around your backside and pull the stick out. You are throwing a party! Or stand by the door ticking off your list of who showed up and didn’t RSVP and who RSVPed Yes and didn’t come - sounds fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, Evite is a spammy way to give away your friends' emails to a company without their permission and then require them to look at ads while viewing your invite because you were too cheap to buy one or send an email.

I don't think it's very polite to send Evites in the first place. So I would back away from calling people who don't respond to them rude, as it is hypocritical.

Haven’t read all the replies, but THIS!!!

Do NOT put your friends’ emails into some random website!

So beyond rude.

Just send them an email. Copy and paste it to everyone, or put everyone in BCC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, Evite is a spammy way to give away your friends' emails to a company without their permission and then require them to look at ads while viewing your invite because you were too cheap to buy one or send an email.

I don't think it's very polite to send Evites in the first place. So I would back away from calling people who don't respond to them rude, as it is hypocritical.

Haven’t read all the replies, but THIS!!!

Do NOT put your friends’ emails into some random website!

So beyond rude.

Just send them an email. Copy and paste it to everyone, or put everyone in BCC.

If I am going to send an email to 20 or 30 people anyways, I would rather use evite to do that. It gives them the option to update number of guests, change the RSVP and they don't have to text or email me either. I could monitor just the evite.

Evite has the option of sending it through text or email. Would you rather I did that to make my work easier? Maybe you would like receiving spam texts instead of spam emails? As a host, if I am inviting friends and acquaintances and colleagues for an event, I do not want to go back and forth with you via text.

We were recently invited to a 50th birthday party and the evite was sent through text. We clicked the link and RSVPed. The event was informal but had a lot of people. I can just imagine the host texting and going back and forth with 30 families.

Those of you texting must have a lot of time on your hands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Asparagus here again. Yes, I assumed we are talking about larger parties. Yes, there is a calculus. Ask any event planner. You invite 100, count on 70% as a basic baseline and use the RSVPs to adjust as well as factoring in other variables. Location, COVID, draw, etc…

I’m not rude. The opposite. I gratuitously invite anyone who arrives and I’ve never run out of asparagus nor had 736367373 spears left over. Some of you need to learn how to throw a party.

Stop referring to yourself as asparagus, you idiot.

+1

Who refers to themselves as something they read on a thread and no one knows WTF they are referencing here. And that party calculus is grating on my nerves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um, Evite is a spammy way to give away your friends' emails to a company without their permission and then require them to look at ads while viewing your invite because you were too cheap to buy one or send an email.

I don't think it's very polite to send Evites in the first place. So I would back away from calling people who don't respond to them rude, as it is hypocritical.

Some of us are not stuck in the 80s and doing paper invites.

Some of us are also not stuck in 2002 and doing Evites.

And you think texting is a better way to reach 50 people?

You are inviting 50 people to your kid's birthday party? LOL

The topic is not just about kids parties. It is about any party where evite is used.

I like a previous poster am genuinely interested if people are using text to invite a large group of people for an informal event. Do you all really text 50 people? Isn't evite easier? If not evite, what do you use? Is there another option besides texting, because I for one am not going to text 50 people to invite them. Keeping track of that would be a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Asparagus here again. Yes, I assumed we are talking about larger parties. Yes, there is a calculus. Ask any event planner. You invite 100, count on 70% as a basic baseline and use the RSVPs to adjust as well as factoring in other variables. Location, COVID, draw, etc…

I’m not rude. The opposite. I gratuitously invite anyone who arrives and I’ve never run out of asparagus nor had 736367373 spears left over. Some of you need to learn how to throw a party.

Stop referring to yourself as asparagus, you idiot.

+1

Who refers to themselves as something they read on a thread and no one knows WTF they are referencing here. And that party calculus is grating on my nerves.

I suppose you like scrolling and did not read the entire thread. For you, the annoying quote option. I bet you limit guests to 2 spears.

[Anonymous]

Asparagus rant. You invite 20 kids to a bday party. 12 reply yes, 2 maybe, 3 no and 3 don’t RSVP. How many gift bags do you purchase? 17. You don’t count the No’s. You assume the maybes and you have buffer for unexpected siblings or non/late RSVPs. You return unused items if you care to. It’s just not that hard unless you are gifting final sale designer footwear.

I’ve hosted countless kids bday parties and I’ve never not had a gift bag for all nor had so many leftovers I became the kid bday party nazi. Some of y’all need serious fun in your lives. It’s a party. Be a gracious host.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Asparagus here. I was speaking to a casual large party, not an intimate event. Come on, my friends know if I’m coming to dinner for 12 because we chat.

If you are hosting large gatherings, you should be able to plan better. It’s party calculus. Yes, RSVP is the polite and correct action, but I guess some of us are human and imperfect sometimes.

Perfectly capable of party planning, so don’t act like your rudeness=host’s shortcoming.