Evite and RSVP - Where has manners gone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Asparagus here. I was speaking to a casual large party, not an intimate event. Come on, my friends know if I’m coming to dinner for 12 because we chat.

If you are hosting large gatherings, you should be able to plan better. It’s party calculus. Yes, RSVP is the polite and correct action, but I guess some of us are human and imperfect sometimes.

Perfectly capable of party planning, so don’t act like your rudeness=host’s shortcoming.

That person is rude and trolling and no one gets her weird Asparagus jokes. When you crack a joke, if someone asks you to explain, then it is no longer a joke.

I really would like to know if there is a better way to send out invitations for a larger group of 30+ besides evite, and not text each one individually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Asparagus rant. You invite 20 kids to a bday party. 12 reply yes, 2 maybe, 3 no and 3 don’t RSVP. How many gift bags do you purchase? 17. You don’t count the No’s. You assume the maybes and you have buffer for unexpected siblings or non/late RSVPs. You return unused items if you care to. It’s just not that hard unless you are gifting final sale designer footwear.

I’ve hosted countless kids bday parties and I’ve never not had a gift bag for all nor had so many leftovers I became the kid bday party nazi. Some of y’all need serious fun in your lives. It’s a party. Be a gracious host.

Even for a troll, you seem way too obsessed with this thread, like as if someone personally called you out for your non RSVP and rudeness and lack of manners. With your attitude, you must be a joy to hang out with.

Instead of harping on kids parties and goody bags, maybe you should give out ideas for an adult party where the return gifts are more expensive and 15 people out of 50 did not reply and the party date is nearing. Or better yet, send your address, we will buy return gifts for everybody invited and send you the cheque, since you are so gracious.

[Anonymous]

I know RSVPs aren’t an exact science. You have to be a little flexible

So true! But the guest better show humility and grovel some, if they've messed up and later want to come. And the guest better understand if the answer is, it's no longer convenient.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, Evite is a spammy way to give away your friends' emails to a company without their permission and then require them to look at ads while viewing your invite because you were too cheap to buy one or send an email.

I don't think it's very polite to send Evites in the first place. So I would back away from calling people who don't respond to them rude, as it is hypocritical.

Haven’t read all the replies, but THIS!!!

Do NOT put your friends’ emails into some random website!

So beyond rude.

Just send them an email. Copy and paste it to everyone, or put everyone in BCC.

If I am going to send an email to 20 or 30 people anyways, I would rather use evite to do that. It gives them the option to update number of guests, change the RSVP and they don't have to text or email me either. I could monitor just the evite.

Evite has the option of sending it through text or email. Would you rather I did that to make my work easier? Maybe you would like receiving spam texts instead of spam emails? As a host, if I am inviting friends and acquaintances and colleagues for an event, I do not want to go back and forth with you via text.

We were recently invited to a 50th birthday party and the evite was sent through text. We clicked the link and RSVPed. The event was informal but had a lot of people. I can just imagine the host texting and going back and forth with 30 families.

Those of you texting must have a lot of time on your hands.

You should at least tell people when you’re asking for their email that you plan to give it to companies who literally make their money by selling those emails to spammers.

[Anonymous]

Evite is just so low class

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Evite is just so low class

Says the one who texts.

[Anonymous]

Nobody who uses evite for anything but a kids party has zero room to talk about manners, class, etiquette, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Evite is just so low class

Says the one who texts.

You should just send a BCC email.

Evites and texting for party invitations are both low class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Evite is just so low class

Says the one who texts.

You should just send a BCC email.

Evites and texting for party invitations are both low class.

And anybody who emails 50 people is just plain stupid. You have a tool that helps both you and the recipient. They can change their response, change the number of guests, all without emailing you and wondering if you saw it. As far as the spamming goes, I hope those of you who are talking about it are not on facebook, whatsapp, twitter, instagram, snapchat etc.

Not a single person in this thread has given a better alternative to evite for larger number of guests. All I see are evite is low class, evite is for kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Evite is just so low class

Says the one who texts.

You should just send a BCC email.

Evites and texting for party invitations are both low class.

As if email is so superior and high class. LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody who uses evite for anything but a kids party has zero room to talk about manners, class, etiquette, etc.

Email, evite, text, mail is just a means to send the invite. People who do not RSVP, irrespective of how the invite was sent out, because they are so full of themselves, or waiting to see if something better comes along before saying Yes or No have no manners, class or etiquette and are rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Evite is just so low class

Says the one who texts.

You should just send a BCC email.

Evites and texting for party invitations are both low class.

As if email is so superior and high class. LOL.

My thoughts exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Evite is just so low class

Says the one who texts.

You should just send a BCC email.

Evites and texting for party invitations are both low class.

And anybody who emails 50 people is just plain stupid. You have a tool that helps both you and the recipient. They can change their response, change the number of guests, all without emailing you and wondering if you saw it. As far as the spamming goes, I hope those of you who are talking about it are not on facebook, whatsapp, twitter, instagram, snapchat etc.

Not a single person in this thread has given a better alternative to evite for larger number of guests. All I see are evite is low class, evite is for kids.

But you are still giving Evite other peoples' email addresses without their permission. I am not signing up people for facebook, snapcaht, twitter, etc without their permission. It's not a good comparison.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got an evite for a party 6 weeks in advance. I can’t plan my life that far out. I had every intention of rsvp-ing closet to the date, but I forgot, and apparently they didn’t send reminders or they went to spam. I realized the party was last weekend—oops.

Shockingly, people send invites early, so that you specifically CAN plan the event into your life. It's actually pretty simple. You decide whether you want to come and RSVP. If yes, you put it on your calendar and make no other conflicting plans. If no, then you are still free to decide that "something better" might come along and you have not antagonized someone who likes you enough to invite you to their event.

Do you think that this generation is the first to be busy? Or that somehow your activities are more important than responding to friends? Back in the day, to RSVP, you had to whip out the stationary and write an actual note and mail it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody who uses evite for anything but a kids party has zero room to talk about manners, class, etiquette, etc.

Email, evite, text, mail is just a means to send the invite. People who do not RSVP, irrespective of how the invite was sent out, because they are so full of themselves, or waiting to see if something better comes along before saying Yes or No have no manners, class or etiquette and are rude.

If it’s an “adult” party and you’re using evite, I assume you are throwing a chips-and-Helluva-good-dip/Bring Your Own Beer level “event” that people don’t actually need to confirm. Like, if you order extra Dominos because I didn’t condescend to answer, oh well.