55 y.o. Female - no desire to date, what’s my problem

[Anonymous]

You sound like a bunch of women trying to make being alone sound okay. I fear for you in your old age if you are all alone and running low on money. Not a good place to be. Family is the most important thing all of us have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in this age range and I completely disagree with most of the posters here.

I think having a companion and partner is one of the greatest joys of life, and definitely worth seeking. It doesn’t have to be a marriage, but the intimacy of a relationship with a man gives me so much more than the friendship that I have with women.

I think women’s declining libido is mostly related to their boredom with their spouse. The impact of menopause and sex drive is overrated, and closely related to women’s boredom. I know many menopausal women who have active sex lives, and the ones who do are into their partners or dating.

Sex and intimacy with a partner is so, so much better than with yourself. Sorry it is just so much better than doing it solo.

Relationships bring a lot of disappointments and heartbreak. But they are also what make life living for. I have a lot of other things in my life, but I will always want a partner to share my life with. I’ve been married for 25 years and these are some of my observations.

How often do you “do it solo”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in this age range and I completely disagree with most of the posters here.

I think having a companion and partner is one of the greatest joys of life, and definitely worth seeking. It doesn’t have to be a marriage, but the intimacy of a relationship with a man gives me so much more than the friendship that I have with women.

I think women’s declining libido is mostly related to their boredom with their spouse. The impact of menopause and sex drive is overrated, and closely related to women’s boredom. I know many menopausal women who have active sex lives, and the ones who do are into their partners or dating.

Sex and intimacy with a partner is so, so much better than with yourself. Sorry it is just so much better than doing it solo.

Relationships bring a lot of disappointments and heartbreak. But they are also what make life living for. I have a lot of other things in my life, but I will always want a partner to share my life with. I’ve been married for 25 years and these are some of my observations.

How often do you “do it solo”?

NP - I’ve been married 33 years and throughout my sexual history I often don’t have orgasms when having sex. I love my husband and we have sex at least twice a week and I really enjoy it but I need to fly solo to O often just after he finishes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bunch of women trying to make being alone sound okay. I fear for you in your old age if you are all alone and running low on money. Not a good place to be. Family is the most important thing all of us have.

I appreciate your fear, but can assure you with certainty, not even knowing you, that I have more money than you. I have a family, too! Several wonderful kids, great siblings parents nieces and nephews. I have a great group of friends.

I'm just not interested in getting married. How that affronts you perplexes me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in this age range and I completely disagree with most of the posters here.

I think having a companion and partner is one of the greatest joys of life, and definitely worth seeking. It doesn’t have to be a marriage, but the intimacy of a relationship with a man gives me so much more than the friendship that I have with women.

I think women’s declining libido is mostly related to their boredom with their spouse. The impact of menopause and sex drive is overrated, and closely related to women’s boredom. I know many menopausal women who have active sex lives, and the ones who do are into their partners or dating.

Sex and intimacy with a partner is so, so much better than with yourself. Sorry it is just so much better than doing it solo.

Relationships bring a lot of disappointments and heartbreak. But they are also what make life living for. I have a lot of other things in my life, but I will always want a partner to share my life with. I’ve been married for 25 years and these are some of my observations.

How often do you “do it solo”?

NP - I’ve been married 33 years and throughout my sexual history I often don’t have orgasms when having sex. I love my husband and we have sex at least twice a week and I really enjoy it but I need to fly solo to O often just after he finishes.

Can we move married grandma bean flicker to her own topic? This one is unrelated to the subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bunch of women trying to make being alone sound okay. I fear for you in your old age if you are all alone and running low on money. Not a good place to be. Family is the most important thing all of us have.

Duh! Family is more than a husband. I may be single but I have a family (parents, a child, siblings,,,,,,,)

[Anonymous]

As a 58 year old male who has a great deal of interest in women, women should do whatever makes them happy! Live your life the way you want to, not the way someone else wants you to. I have some women golfing friends who have no interest in dating but they are fun to hang around with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bunch of women trying to make being alone sound okay. I fear for you in your old age if you are all alone and running low on money. Not a good place to be. Family is the most important thing all of us have.

What a pathetic statement. It IS okay to be alone. It's more than okay. This attitude that one cannot be single is what keeps so many people in horrible relationships.
As for old age, single doesn't mean alone, or broke. Family isn't just a spouse. Even if you're right, these aren't good reasons to marry. No one wants to marry someone who is in it for security later in life, and believe me, you can tell when they are.
And finally, one can be happily married and still end up dying all alone and poor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bunch of women trying to make being alone sound okay. I fear for you in your old age if you are all alone and running low on money. Not a good place to be. Family is the most important thing all of us have.

I appreciate your fear, but can assure you with certainty, not even knowing you, that I have more money than you. I have a family, too! Several wonderful kids, great siblings parents nieces and nephews. I have a great group of friends.

I'm just not interested in getting married. How that affronts you perplexes me.

It offends men who feel entitled to women, and it angers women who are stuck in bad relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bunch of women trying to make being alone sound okay. I fear for you in your old age if you are all alone and running low on money. Not a good place to be. Family is the most important thing all of us have.

I appreciate your fear, but can assure you with certainty, not even knowing you, that I have more money than you. I have a family, too! Several wonderful kids, great siblings parents nieces and nephews. I have a great group of friends.

I'm just not interested in getting married. How that affronts you perplexes me.

It offends men who feel entitled to women, and it angers women who are stuck in bad relationships.

Yes, and you can tell its angry incel men who dont get much sex by the comments. You men want us to want you, need us to need you, and hate us when we don't. Seething insecurity!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a 58 year old male who has a great deal of interest in women, women should do whatever makes them happy! Live your life the way you want to, not the way someone else wants you to. I have some women golfing friends who have no interest in dating but they are fun to hang around with.

Finally a guy with his wiring done correctly!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bunch of women trying to make being alone sound okay. I fear for you in your old age if you are all alone and running low on money. Not a good place to be. Family is the most important thing all of us have.

I appreciate your fear, but can assure you with certainty, not even knowing you, that I have more money than you. I have a family, too! Several wonderful kids, great siblings parents nieces and nephews. I have a great group of friends.

I'm just not interested in getting married. How that affronts you perplexes me.

It offends men who feel entitled to women, and it angers women who are stuck in bad relationships.

Yes, and you can tell its angry incel men who dont get much sex by the comments. You men want us to want you, need us to need you, and hate us when we don't. Seething insecurity!

Yeah, except the angriest responses here are the women responding to the people who posted about the good side of relationships. My guess is that it is women who want to be in a relationship but can't find anybody, and are mad at anyone who wrecks the illusion that it is all their choice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bunch of women trying to make being alone sound okay. I fear for you in your old age if you are all alone and running low on money. Not a good place to be. Family is the most important thing all of us have.

I appreciate your fear, but can assure you with certainty, not even knowing you, that I have more money than you. I have a family, too! Several wonderful kids, great siblings parents nieces and nephews. I have a great group of friends.

I'm just not interested in getting married. How that affronts you perplexes me.

It offends men who feel entitled to women, and it angers women who are stuck in bad relationships.

Yes, and you can tell its angry incel men who dont get much sex by the comments. You men want us to want you, need us to need you, and hate us when we don't. Seething insecurity!

Yeah, except the angriest responses here are the women responding to the people who posted about the good side of relationships. My guess is that it is women who want to be in a relationship but can't find anybody, and are mad at anyone who wrecks the illusion that it is all their choice.

There are definitely female incels as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bunch of women trying to make being alone sound okay. I fear for you in your old age if you are all alone and running low on money. Not a good place to be. Family is the most important thing all of us have.

I appreciate your fear, but can assure you with certainty, not even knowing you, that I have more money than you. I have a family, too! Several wonderful kids, great siblings parents nieces and nephews. I have a great group of friends.

I'm just not interested in getting married. How that affronts you perplexes me.

It offends men who feel entitled to women, and it angers women who are stuck in bad relationships.

Yes, and you can tell its angry incel men who dont get much sex by the comments. You men want us to want you, need us to need you, and hate us when we don't. Seething insecurity!

Yeah, except the angriest responses here are the women responding to the people who posted about the good side of relationships. My guess is that it is women who want to be in a relationship but can't find anybody, and are mad at anyone who wrecks the illusion that it is all their choice.

It is so true, the most bitter responses are to people who posted about the good side of a relationship.

Top of that list; the woman who typed, “without even knowing you, I can assure you I have more money than you”. Remarkable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in this age range and I completely disagree with most of the posters here.

I think having a companion and partner is one of the greatest joys of life, and definitely worth seeking. It doesn’t have to be a marriage, but the intimacy of a relationship with a man gives me so much more than the friendship that I have with women.

I think women’s declining libido is mostly related to their boredom with their spouse. The impact of menopause and sex drive is overrated, and closely related to women’s boredom. I know many menopausal women who have active sex lives, and the ones who do are into their partners or dating.

Sex and intimacy with a partner is so, so much better than with yourself. Sorry it is just so much better than doing it solo.

Relationships bring a lot of disappointments and heartbreak. But they are also what make life living for. I have a lot of other things in my life, but I will always want a partner to share my life with. I’ve been married for 25 years and these are some of my observations.

How often do you “do it solo”?

NP - I’ve been married 33 years and throughout my sexual history I often don’t have orgasms when having sex. I love my husband and we have sex at least twice a week and I really enjoy it but I need to fly solo to O often just after he finishes.

That's not solo. I asked solo. alone. nobody in the room. you.yourself.