55 y.o. Female - no desire to date, what’s my problem

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bunch of women trying to make being alone sound okay. I fear for you in your old age if you are all alone and running low on money. Not a good place to be. Family is the most important thing all of us have.

I appreciate your fear, but can assure you with certainty, not even knowing you, that I have more money than you. I have a family, too! Several wonderful kids, great siblings parents nieces and nephews. I have a great group of friends.

I'm just not interested in getting married. How that affronts you perplexes me.

It offends men who feel entitled to women, and it angers women who are stuck in bad relationships.

Yes, and you can tell its angry incel men who dont get much sex by the comments. You men want us to want you, need us to need you, and hate us when we don't. Seething insecurity!

Yeah, except the angriest responses here are the women responding to the people who posted about the good side of relationships. My guess is that it is women who want to be in a relationship but can't find anybody, and are mad at anyone who wrecks the illusion that it is all their choice.

Except that is your interpretation, not the truth. Some post are rude on both sides but you can't just cherry pick the 'i make more money than you post".

The fact is people are angry that divorced/single/widowed women are happy. but.But. But, i'm married and I'm happier and more fulfilled and more intimate.

But see no, they aren't. Disagreeing is not anger it's just disagreeing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and you can tell its angry incel men who dont get much sex by the comments. You men want us to want you, need us to need you, and hate us when we don't. Seething insecurity!

Gee who wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with a lovely person like you? 🙄🙄🙄

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, and you can tell its angry incel men who dont get much sex by the comments. You men want us to want you, need us to need you, and hate us when we don't. Seething insecurity!

Gee who wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with a lovely person like you? 🙄🙄🙄

Angry seething man hating women can be incredibly hot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 55 year young female, who is totally over the dating game and sex, and have zero desire to ever do either again. What the heck is my issue? I did go through menopause…….maybe that destroyed my desire? I did the online dAting thing……nothing but trouble and disappointment there. But, I’ve lost my desire to even have a life partner. I’m over it. Which I think is sad.

Anyone else go through this phase?

I haven't read through the thread at all! I'm just here to say- Girl you are SMART! Last thing you need now is a middle aged male paperweight. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you, free of that stress!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 55 year young female, who is totally over the dating game and sex, and have zero desire to ever do either again. What the heck is my issue? I did go through menopause…….maybe that destroyed my desire? I did the online dAting thing……nothing but trouble and disappointment there. But, I’ve lost my desire to even have a life partner. I’m over it. Which I think is sad.

Anyone else go through this phase?

I haven't read through the thread at all! I'm just here to say- Girl you are SMART! Last thing you need now is a middle aged male paperweight. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you, free of that stress!

And what a rich, fulfilling life it will be! Cats. Knitting. Bingo. Prevention magazine. Murder, She Wrote reruns. Brooding about ancient grievances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 55 year young female, who is totally over the dating game and sex, and have zero desire to ever do either again. What the heck is my issue? I did go through menopause…….maybe that destroyed my desire? I did the online dAting thing……nothing but trouble and disappointment there. But, I’ve lost my desire to even have a life partner. I’m over it. Which I think is sad.

Anyone else go through this phase?

I haven't read through the thread at all! I'm just here to say- Girl you are SMART! Last thing you need now is a middle aged male paperweight. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you, free of that stress!

And what a rich, fulfilling life it will be! Cats. Knitting. Bingo. Prevention magazine. Murder, She Wrote reruns. Brooding about ancient grievances.

There's nothing wrong with those things if they make the person doing them happy. Why are you so bothered by it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bunch of women trying to make being alone sound okay. I fear for you in your old age if you are all alone and running low on money. Not a good place to be. Family is the most important thing all of us have.

Wow. You do not need a husband to have a family. I have always worked. No worries about running out of money. Unlike you I am sure, I have been saving for retirement since I was 21. Being in a bad marriage following my ex’s career while mine stagnated, cost me a pretty penny. Being married cost me more than staying single. But stay in the 1960s. Oh, my grandma was widowed at 50 in the late 1970s. She had to worry about running out of money. Her husband was a doctor…and she had to worry. I have no worries whatsoever. I have family (even if I did not have kids I would still have family) and I have my own money. I’m happy and fine. Worry about yourself…no need for your inaccurate assumptions about single women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bunch of women trying to make being alone sound okay. I fear for you in your old age if you are all alone and running low on money. Not a good place to be. Family is the most important thing all of us have.

I appreciate your fear, but can assure you with certainty, not even knowing you, that I have more money than you. I have a family, too! Several wonderful kids, great siblings parents nieces and nephews. I have a great group of friends.

I'm just not interested in getting married. How that affronts you perplexes me.

It offends men who feel entitled to women, and it angers women who are stuck in bad relationships.

Yes, and you can tell its angry incel men who dont get much sex by the comments. You men want us to want you, need us to need you, and hate us when we don't. Seething insecurity!

Yeah, except the angriest responses here are the women responding to the people who posted about the good side of relationships. My guess is that it is women who want to be in a relationship but can't find anybody, and are mad at anyone who wrecks the illusion that it is all their choice.

It is so true, the most bitter responses are to people who posted about the good side of a relationship.

Top of that list; the woman who typed, “without even knowing you, I can assure you I have more money than you”. Remarkable.

She did. In response to the claim all single women end up alone without family or money- let’s not rewrite history. I hardly find it abnormal to respond to a post about ones financial future with financial info.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 55 year young female, who is totally over the dating game and sex, and have zero desire to ever do either again. What the heck is my issue? I did go through menopause…….maybe that destroyed my desire? I did the online dAting thing……nothing but trouble and disappointment there. But, I’ve lost my desire to even have a life partner. I’m over it. Which I think is sad.

Anyone else go through this phase?

I haven't read through the thread at all! I'm just here to say- Girl you are SMART! Last thing you need now is a middle aged male paperweight. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you, free of that stress!

And what a rich, fulfilling life it will be! Cats. Knitting. Bingo. Prevention magazine. Murder, She Wrote reruns. Brooding about ancient grievances.

Oh, ok you're right. I'd rather clean up an old man's mess at the table, do all his laundry, listen to him snore and claim 'I don't snore', watch him watch Fox news all day and complain complain complain...thanks for setting me on the right track!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were socialized to believe that a good life included being coupled up. Many of us have come to the realization that being a couple sucks. I think perhaps 20% of my married friends are still married and happy. Most are just not happy, many are divorced a few widowed.

Very few really want to remarry.

It was not all the great even having a partner during the raising of the kids age. Men are not helpful, they become just another child and we would rather vacation with a friend and their kids.

The whole marriage thing is a sham, congrats you "won the game".

+1

I'm 38 and I feel this so much. My husband is absolutely my 4th child. Only, if he were my child he wouldn't have turned out to be such a pig. My MIL can be credited for that. I have no desire to sleep with or vacation with an overgrown toddler that is ego-driven and controlling.

[Anonymous]

This has been a fun read! I’d love to see all the man haters meet and then be a fly on the wall and just listen in. The stories! The misery! Please keep in mind that for those of you who got divorced or are in a crappy marriage….YOU MARRIED THE LOSER! WHAT DOES THAT SAY ABOUT YOUR DECISION MAKING?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 55 year young female, who is totally over the dating game and sex, and have zero desire to ever do either again. What the heck is my issue? I did go through menopause…….maybe that destroyed my desire? I did the online dAting thing……nothing but trouble and disappointment there. But, I’ve lost my desire to even have a life partner. I’m over it. Which I think is sad.

Anyone else go through this phase?

I haven't read through the thread at all! I'm just here to say- Girl you are SMART! Last thing you need now is a middle aged male paperweight. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you, free of that stress!

And what a rich, fulfilling life it will be! Cats. Knitting. Bingo. Prevention magazine. Murder, She Wrote reruns. Brooding about ancient grievances.

Wrong. The middle aged divorced women I know have very active and fulfilling lives. They are world travelers, they spend time with children and grandchildren, they create wonderful art, they paint masterpieces, they design beautiful jewelry, they are active in politics, they start new businesses, they are very, very successful!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 55 year young female, who is totally over the dating game and sex, and have zero desire to ever do either again. What the heck is my issue? I did go through menopause…….maybe that destroyed my desire? I did the online dAting thing……nothing but trouble and disappointment there. But, I’ve lost my desire to even have a life partner. I’m over it. Which I think is sad.

Anyone else go through this phase?

I haven't read through the thread at all! I'm just here to say- Girl you are SMART! Last thing you need now is a middle aged male paperweight. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you, free of that stress!

And what a rich, fulfilling life it will be! Cats. Knitting. Bingo. Prevention magazine. Murder, She Wrote reruns. Brooding about ancient grievances.

Wrong. The middle aged divorced women I know have very active and fulfilling lives. They are world travelers, they spend time with children and grandchildren, they create wonderful art, they paint masterpieces, they design beautiful jewelry, they are active in politics, they start new businesses, they are very, very successful!

It’s amazing how many happily single women find the time to constantly post on a relationship forum how happy they are, you know, not doing relationships. As if they can’t stand the idea that someone else might succeed where they haven’t. Go be single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 55 year young female, who is totally over the dating game and sex, and have zero desire to ever do either again. What the heck is my issue? I did go through menopause…….maybe that destroyed my desire? I did the online dAting thing……nothing but trouble and disappointment there. But, I’ve lost my desire to even have a life partner. I’m over it. Which I think is sad.

Anyone else go through this phase?

I haven't read through the thread at all! I'm just here to say- Girl you are SMART! Last thing you need now is a middle aged male paperweight. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you, free of that stress!

And what a rich, fulfilling life it will be! Cats. Knitting. Bingo. Prevention magazine. Murder, She Wrote reruns. Brooding about ancient grievances.

Wrong. The middle aged divorced women I know have very active and fulfilling lives. They are world travelers, they spend time with children and grandchildren, they create wonderful art, they paint masterpieces, they design beautiful jewelry, they are active in politics, they start new businesses, they are very, very successful!

It’s amazing how many happily single women find the time to constantly post on a relationship forum how happy they are, you know, not doing relationships. As if they can’t stand the idea that someone else might succeed where they haven’t. Go be single.

Thanks for your uneeded permission!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 55 year young female, who is totally over the dating game and sex, and have zero desire to ever do either again. What the heck is my issue? I did go through menopause…….maybe that destroyed my desire? I did the online dAting thing……nothing but trouble and disappointment there. But, I’ve lost my desire to even have a life partner. I’m over it. Which I think is sad.

Anyone else go through this phase?

I haven't read through the thread at all! I'm just here to say- Girl you are SMART! Last thing you need now is a middle aged male paperweight. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you, free of that stress!

And what a rich, fulfilling life it will be! Cats. Knitting. Bingo. Prevention magazine. Murder, She Wrote reruns. Brooding about ancient grievances.

Wrong. The middle aged divorced women I know have very active and fulfilling lives. They are world travelers, they spend time with children and grandchildren, they create wonderful art, they paint masterpieces, they design beautiful jewelry, they are active in politics, they start new businesses, they are very, very successful!

It’s amazing how many happily single women find the time to constantly post on a relationship forum how happy they are, you know, not doing relationships. As if they can’t stand the idea that someone else might succeed where they haven’t. Go be single.

This is PP. I never said I was happily single. I said the middle-aged divorced women I know are happily single!