Attracted to daughter's friend's dad

[Anonymous]

I'm happily married with kids and I find one of my kid's friend's mom attractive. She's perhaps mid-late 30s and looks like Kelly Preston. She's beautiful. My wife knows it too. We mentioned it when our kids first started having play dates.

Finding people attractive isn't a crime. Everyone here bashing the OP need to get a life. Stop hating on others just to pick yourselves up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: Do your knuckles hit the ground when you walk?

I am relatively new to the thread and I don't have time to re-read the full six pages; can you say why you think the OP is so awful?

If it is merely because she answered honestly that she is hotter than the Coach's wife, I see nothing wrong with that. Whether she is actually hotter or not, that sort of confidence is sexy.

She’s a married mom whose mind should be on her kid and marriage and not in the swirl of having the hots for the coach, thinking about her hotness compared to the coach’s wife and writing all about it here. It’s tacky. If the shoe was on the other foot and OPs husband was hot for the kid’s ballet teacher or whatever OP would be pissed.

Your post that she drags her knuckles seems a bit harsh. There are tons of married people who are devoted to their spouses and children, yet feel attraction to other Moms/Dads who we see in our daily routine at kids' school and sports. The OP sharing her feelings anonymously on a board like this could be considered a waste of time or tacky, but that is basically what these boards are for, and a lot of people, including you, seem to enjoy reading and commenting. Give the girl a break!
OP - I am with you on this - thank you for sharing your feelings and it is normal and healthy that you have them!

+1. these boards are one of few safe places to express these kinds of crushes, which are extremely normal. it's totally taboo to talk about it in real life. been there, OP.

[Anonymous]

I have had little crushes on a number of people over the years and I have never acted on them and it doesn’t take long for me to get over it. I never talk about them with anyone because I don’t consider it to be a big deal. I have a wonderful husband but I’m not dead!

[Anonymous]

Bang him. He might be your soul mate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure dads who lead the Boy Scout troop don't get this kid of attention from the moms.

Boy Scout dads are dorks. Most of them didn’t get laid until grad school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure dads who lead the Boy Scout troop don't get this kid of attention from the moms.

Boy Scout dads are dorks. Most of them didn’t get laid until grad school.

Coaches (especially running coaches) are disproportionately in good shape.

The Boy Scout dads, no.

[Anonymous]

If OP had said she was hotter than the guys wife in the OP, that wouldn’t have been cool, but she isn’t the one who brought it up.

I agree with posters who say this is normal, don’t try to suppress your feelings (and by that I mean don’t try to just not have a crush, that will just make it worse), but don’t blow them out if proportion. Let your brain move on to the next shiny thing. Like planning a trip somewhere exciting with your husband.

[Anonymous]

Or, have a nice romantic hookup with your husband, while fantasizing about the track coach. Trust me, he will probably be doing his own fantasizing about the cute Mom he met at back to school night or at the bus stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fathers who do more than the bare minimal are always more attractive to moms.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or, have a nice romantic hookup with your husband, while fantasizing about the track coach. Trust me, he will probably be doing his own fantasizing about the cute Mom he met at back to school night or at the bus stop.

Yup. This is how you stay with the same person for 40+ years!

[Anonymous]

I think it's funny that all these coaches think they are so hot and moms are flirting with them all the time. It takes a certain kind of bravado/confidence to coach youth sports--when often (usually) the coaches know very very little about the sport and anyone can sign up to do it. It's probably the same false confidence that makes them think moms are flirting/hitting on them when they are just being normal and friendly.

Have never found a youth dad-coach crushable but am always fake nice to them so my kids get treated well and we don't burn bridges and am also appreciative of the effort and volunteerism. I have found other kids' dads crushable and the young professional paid coaches in some sports.

[Anonymous]

No big deal! Enjoy the crush and the rush it gives. It’s no big deal to crush on a hot dad. Don’t take it any further and respect his marriage. The fantasy is better than the real thing, anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I think it's funny that all these coaches think they are so hot and moms are flirting with them all the time. It takes a certain kind of bravado/confidence to coach youth sports--when often (usually) the coaches know very very little about the sport and anyone can sign up to do it. It's probably the same false confidence that makes them think moms are flirting/hitting on them when they are just being normal and friendly.

Have never found a youth dad-coach crushable but am always fake nice to them[i] so my kids get treated well and we don't burn bridges and am also appreciative of the effort and volunteerism. I have found other kids' dads crushable and the young professional paid coaches in some sports.

Why not just be nice. Not sure why you have to fake that. Dad's (and mom's) coach to coach and be with their kids. Most are nice or they would not invest the time and energy. I coached a lot. Never thought I was hit on/crushed on (and I am in shape and good looking), and that never crossed my mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:but am always fake nice to them so my kids get treated well and we don't burn bridges and am also appreciative of the effort and volunteerism. I have found other kids' dads crushable and the young professional paid coaches in some sports.

So you're one of those lazy parents who want to drop off their kids and leave. Or just sit there and play with your phone for an hour. Nice parenting.

[Anonymous]

So you're one of those lazy parents who want to drop off their kids and leave. Or just sit there and play with your phone for an hour. Nice parenting.

we can't all be "Coaches" who focus only on putting our own kids in the best positions and ignore the rest of the team