Attracted to daughter's friend's dad

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter went to K and 1st with this kid and they became friends. I met the kid's dad a few times and found him generally attractive. Nice. Friendly. In good shape. The usual. Then COVID-19 came and of course everyone was at home for 1.5 years. Anyway, this fall school started and I noticed his daughter wasn't at the school anymore (well, my daughter noticed she wasn't in the same class). Fast forward to this past week and I'm dropping my daughter off for track camp and he's one of the lead coaches! I see his daughter there and our kids start talking. Then we spoke for a few minutes and I felt like I was around an old college crush or something. Now that he's my daughter's coach he's even hotter! I can't stop thinking about him. I know that's bad. Very bad. But, why is he hotter now just because I found out he coaches? I seriously have not stopped thinking about him since yesterday. Help.

Are you hotter than his wife?

OP here. Yes, I am.

HAHAHAHA. OP, I have news for you. We get it, you think he is as good as yours, and if your family is blown apart why shouldn't somebody else's be? He's not interested. He is nice to everyone, but he is a real arsehole behind closed doors. His family of origin (all) has multiple problems, including untreated anger issues and depression, which are the least of it. Well before I existed. You think you can change him. Good luck with that.

On second thought - if you are that adamant, you are made for each other, and will get everything you ask for, and more. He and his issues are someone else's problem, at last. Don't count on "his" money though, because it is not his, it is mine and came from my family. He and his family are leeches. Surprise! "Hot", indeed!

Did you even read the opening post? You people need to stop making things up and reading into things. All she said was she was thinking about him. She said nothing of them be partners or whatever. People like you just want to hate on others, and if there's not enough there to hate on you just make things up to hate on. You're no better than politicians who lie just to get attention. Take a lesson in reading.

She's comparing himself to his wife that's beyond crush and fantasy territory.

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Exactly.

WHACKO.

The only "whacko" here are the people making stuff up so they can hate on someone else. Feels like Congress in here.

She literally replied that she's hotter than his wife. That shows that she's already allowed herself to make comparisons, to put herself into the she's better category, that's the kind of thing that takes a harmless crush into inappropriate flirting and affair territory.

Most married adults have had a crush on someone else at some point. It's not a big deal and this most people don't bother writing a thread about it. If you get to thread writing territory it's like you are obsessing over the person and making it into more than it should be.

[Anonymous]

Apart from ensuring my wealth makes it to my kids, it’s utter nonsense that any of us want to F the same person and no one else for 40+ years. Nobody likes this. Not one person.

We no longer live in the Victorian age. F the coach if he’s DTF.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter went to K and 1st with this kid and they became friends. I met the kid's dad a few times and found him generally attractive. Nice. Friendly. In good shape. The usual. Then COVID-19 came and of course everyone was at home for 1.5 years. Anyway, this fall school started and I noticed his daughter wasn't at the school anymore (well, my daughter noticed she wasn't in the same class). Fast forward to this past week and I'm dropping my daughter off for track camp and he's one of the lead coaches! I see his daughter there and our kids start talking. Then we spoke for a few minutes and I felt like I was around an old college crush or something. Now that he's my daughter's coach he's even hotter! I can't stop thinking about him. I know that's bad. Very bad. But, why is he hotter now just because I found out he coaches? I seriously have not stopped thinking about him since yesterday. Help.

Are you hotter than his wife?

OP here. Yes, I am.

HAHAHAHA. OP, I have news for you. We get it, you think he is as good as yours, and if your family is blown apart why shouldn't somebody else's be? He's not interested. He is nice to everyone, but he is a real arsehole behind closed doors. His family of origin (all) has multiple problems, including untreated anger issues and depression, which are the least of it. Well before I existed. You think you can change him. Good luck with that.

On second thought - if you are that adamant, you are made for each other, and will get everything you ask for, and more. He and his issues are someone else's problem, at last. Don't count on "his" money though, because it is not his, it is mine and came from my family. He and his family are leeches. Surprise! "Hot", indeed!

Did you even read the opening post? You people need to stop making things up and reading into things. All she said was she was thinking about him. She said nothing of them be partners or whatever. People like you just want to hate on others, and if there's not enough there to hate on you just make things up to hate on. You're no better than politicians who lie just to get attention. Take a lesson in reading.

She's comparing himself to his wife that's beyond crush and fantasy territory.

+1

Exactly.

WHACKO.

The only "whacko" here are the people making stuff up so they can hate on someone else. Feels like Congress in here.

She literally replied that she's hotter than his wife. That shows that she's already allowed herself to make comparisons, to put herself into the she's better category, that's the kind of thing that takes a harmless crush into inappropriate flirting and affair territory.

Most married adults have had a crush on someone else at some point. It's not a big deal and this most people don't bother writing a thread about it. If you get to thread writing territory it's like you are obsessing over the person and making it into more than it should be.

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Grow up, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Apart from ensuring my wealth makes it to my kids, it’s utter nonsense that any of us want to F the same person and no one else for 40+ years. Nobody likes this. Not one person.

We no longer live in the Victorian age. F the coach if he’s DTF.

I feel bad (not badly; I’m kind of a stickler for proper grammar) for you dude. I am DTF my spouse 24/7 and every corner of every room of the house. Muy caliente, senor! 🔥🔥🔥

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apart from ensuring my wealth makes it to my kids, it’s utter nonsense that any of us want to F the same person and no one else for 40+ years. Nobody likes this. Not one person.

We no longer live in the Victorian age. F the coach if he’s DTF.

Not true at all for all people. Might be true for you and your spouse, and that’s fine, of course, but don’t assume that your experience means that everyone else has the same experience.

My spouse and I have been married for 38 years and we are DTF each other quite regularly. So, we represent at least two people who are very happy with the person we chose decades ago, and I know quite a few couples who have been married a similar amount of time who are also very happy together.

So, going forward, understand that you can’t necessarily assume that not one other person has had a different experience in life than you have had.

[Anonymous]

OP has a rush and she's asking how to stop the crush. Someone asked if she were hotter than the wife, she thought about it and replied yes. What's the big deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now I'm feeling kind of rejected. I was a rec soccer coach for 10 years, and I never noticed any of the mom's flirting with me. In the looks department, I'm not God's gift to anything, but I'm certainly not ugly or fat. Oh, well. Probably for the best. I'm happily married and have a good relationship with my kids. Guess I should be grateful not to have the temptation.

Thank you for your service, and for contributing to the betterment (not the degeneration) of our community.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has a rush and she's asking how to stop the crush. Someone asked if she were hotter than the wife, she thought about it and replied yes. What's the big deal?

Yes, OP has a crush big friggin deal ! OP is the one making it into a big deal , by creating this OMG HE"S SO hot how do I stop this !!! Attention thinking thread and then engaging in the hotter than his wife nonsense.

This may come as a surprise to you and OP, bu most adults get over crushes they just pass, if you conduct yourself as an adult. People who have trouble with this are attention seekers like OP or people who want more and just call it a "crush".

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OP revealed way too many personal details, even if she changed some parts. Or maybe she wants him to see this.

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Anonymous wrote:My younger brother is a widower and a soccer coach and he jokes about how some of the soccer moms come on to him and often call him. On weekends when they have games and the dads are there the moms might wave at best. It’s different during the week.

Unless he's actually sleeping with them, I'd say they're just conniving Type A strivers shamelessly flirting with him so their kid gets more playing time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid runs youth track. The lead coach is new this year for my kid's group. He is attractive and ran track in high school and college and is still clearly fit. Starting out my kid's group had only two parent volunteers to help. Now, there are six. All woman .

Sad. If six beer bellied dads grouped up on a female coach like that they'd be called out for the losers they are.

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Nope. I’m also happily married and we all have a wandering eye. It’s the normal. But your meet cute story of 40 years is always funny. I suppose you close your eyes more…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has a rush and she's asking how to stop the crush. Someone asked if she were hotter than the wife, she thought about it and replied yes. What's the big deal?

There is no big deal. Some people here just like creating drama and making things up so they have a reason to live.

OP should just keep going on her day. She never mentioned making a move on the person. All she stated was she had a crush. That's it. Many married people have crushes on others. It's normal. But, some here want to make her a villain because it makes them feel better about themselves.

One thing I've learned about these forums...75% of the people here have low self esteem and are very insecure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid runs youth track. The lead coach is new this year for my kid's group. He is attractive and ran track in high school and college and is still clearly fit. Starting out my kid's group had only two parent volunteers to help. Now, there are six. All woman .

Sad. If six beer bellied dads grouped up on a female coach like that they'd be called out for the losers they are.

You surprised by the double standard? Imagine six husbands who volunteer for their kid's volleyball team where the coach is a 6' blond Victoria Secret look alike. Yeah, they would be destroyed by the man-hating woman here.

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Anonymous wrote:Apart from ensuring my wealth makes it to my kids, it’s utter nonsense that any of us want to F the same person and no one else for 40+ years. Nobody likes this. Not one person.

We no longer live in the Victorian age. F the coach if he’s DTF.

We’ve been married 34 years and I am very happy to F just my husband. On Saturday night we were just getting started and he said “let’s try something new” and I said “what?” and then we got out of bed and I will avoid being explicit but he got me going so fast that I soon moved us on a different path that really got him going. We ended up back in bed and it just kept going. It was nothing kinky or bizarre but it was just so different it felt like first time sex. You should try it!