Attracted to daughter's friend's dad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And? People have crushes. Hardly a unique thing, OP, or even worthy of a post. Just don't embarrass yourself.

This, but someone will come along and tell you, PP, not to be "a downer" like they did to the PP above who reminded OP not to actually flirt with the guy. You and that PP are both right, though. A lot of cute commentary on here, but the reality is crushes are fine when they stay inside your head, and not fine when you end up making the subject of the crush feel awkward, and yourself look foolish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter went to K and 1st with this kid and they became friends. I met the kid's dad a few times and found him generally attractive. Nice. Friendly. In good shape. The usual. Then COVID-19 came and of course everyone was at home for 1.5 years. Anyway, this fall school started and I noticed his daughter wasn't at the school anymore (well, my daughter noticed she wasn't in the same class). Fast forward to this past week and I'm dropping my daughter off for track camp and he's one of the lead coaches! I see his daughter there and our kids start talking. Then we spoke for a few minutes and I felt like I was around an old college crush or something. Now that he's my daughter's coach he's even hotter! I can't stop thinking about him. I know that's bad. Very bad. But, why is he hotter now just because I found out he coaches? I seriously have not stopped thinking about him since yesterday. Help.

Is this a fairly common type of crush? Your kid’s coaches? When I was in my twenties I volunteered as a youth hockey coach. I had a pretty regular fling with one of the moms. It certainly made the away and travel games entertaining! At the time it seemed like we were being pretty sneaky about it but it kept escalating and getting more risky. I’m sure some tongues were wagging or some people suspected it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter went to K and 1st with this kid and they became friends. I met the kid's dad a few times and found him generally attractive. Nice. Friendly. In good shape. The usual. Then COVID-19 came and of course everyone was at home for 1.5 years. Anyway, this fall school started and I noticed his daughter wasn't at the school anymore (well, my daughter noticed she wasn't in the same class). Fast forward to this past week and I'm dropping my daughter off for track camp and he's one of the lead coaches! I see his daughter there and our kids start talking. Then we spoke for a few minutes and I felt like I was around an old college crush or something. Now that he's my daughter's coach he's even hotter! I can't stop thinking about him. I know that's bad. Very bad. But, why is he hotter now just because I found out he coaches? I seriously have not stopped thinking about him since yesterday. Help.

Is this a fairly common type of crush? Your kid’s coaches? When I was in my twenties I volunteered as a youth hockey coach. I had a pretty regular fling with one of the moms. It certainly made the away and travel games entertaining! At the time it seemed like we were being pretty sneaky about it but it kept escalating and getting more risky. I’m sure some tongues were wagging or some people suspected it.

I think you mistook this thread for the Penthouse Forum. Nice start to your fantasy porn though. The bit about how it escalated and got riskier will be soooo hawt!

[Anonymous]

No harm in looking, but if you want to stop the crush, think of the kids. Specifically think of how your life would be if you rewound back to when you were in elementary school if your mom was lusting after your coach, or worse yet, cheated on your dad. Kids are smart and pick up on these things. Even if she doesn’t understand it now, your daughter will remember and will harbor bad feelings about it later. Your job as a mom is to contribute as much as you reasonably can to your child’s well being. Pining for or going after the kid’s coach is the total opposite of that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter went to K and 1st with this kid and they became friends. I met the kid's dad a few times and found him generally attractive. Nice. Friendly. In good shape. The usual. Then COVID-19 came and of course everyone was at home for 1.5 years. Anyway, this fall school started and I noticed his daughter wasn't at the school anymore (well, my daughter noticed she wasn't in the same class). Fast forward to this past week and I'm dropping my daughter off for track camp and he's one of the lead coaches! I see his daughter there and our kids start talking. Then we spoke for a few minutes and I felt like I was around an old college crush or something. Now that he's my daughter's coach he's even hotter! I can't stop thinking about him. I know that's bad. Very bad. But, why is he hotter now just because I found out he coaches? I seriously have not stopped thinking about him since yesterday. Help.

Are you hotter than his wife?

OP here. Yes, I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s with the criticism? If OP was a man attracted to a mom, everyone would say that’s normal and that all men fantasize about other women.

Too many people on their high horse "acting" as if they are perfect. Almost everyone married dreams about someone else. Doesn't matter how attractive you are, once you're married for years and years you run into others who you will find attractive. This doesn't mean you try and act on them. But, being attracted to someone else even when married is perfectly normal. Very few people marry their perfect partner. VERY FEW! So, what she is feeling is normal. Plus, dads who are in good shape and good looking and help out with sports is a major turn on for moms. Yes, dad coaches get bonus points.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They have track teams for 2nd graders???

Exactly! I have never heard 2nd grade or even elementary track. BS alert.

Either you don't have kids or you don't have kids in sports. Google "youth track" or "youth running" and insert your town". There are clubs everywhere. My kids started tennis and softball at age 4. They did basketball at age 7.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter went to K and 1st with this kid and they became friends. I met the kid's dad a few times and found him generally attractive. Nice. Friendly. In good shape. The usual. Then COVID-19 came and of course everyone was at home for 1.5 years. Anyway, this fall school started and I noticed his daughter wasn't at the school anymore (well, my daughter noticed she wasn't in the same class). Fast forward to this past week and I'm dropping my daughter off for track camp and he's one of the lead coaches! I see his daughter there and our kids start talking. Then we spoke for a few minutes and I felt like I was around an old college crush or something. Now that he's my daughter's coach he's even hotter! I can't stop thinking about him. I know that's bad. Very bad. But, why is he hotter now just because I found out he coaches? I seriously have not stopped thinking about him since yesterday. Help.

Are you hotter than his wife?

OP here. Yes, I am.

Gross. Never ever claim to be a kind loving person. You are not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter went to K and 1st with this kid and they became friends. I met the kid's dad a few times and found him generally attractive. Nice. Friendly. In good shape. The usual. Then COVID-19 came and of course everyone was at home for 1.5 years. Anyway, this fall school started and I noticed his daughter wasn't at the school anymore (well, my daughter noticed she wasn't in the same class). Fast forward to this past week and I'm dropping my daughter off for track camp and he's one of the lead coaches! I see his daughter there and our kids start talking. Then we spoke for a few minutes and I felt like I was around an old college crush or something. Now that he's my daughter's coach he's even hotter! I can't stop thinking about him. I know that's bad. Very bad. But, why is he hotter now just because I found out he coaches? I seriously have not stopped thinking about him since yesterday. Help.

Are you hotter than his wife?

OP here. Yes, I am.

HAHAHAHA. OP, I have news for you. We get it, you think he is as good as yours, and if your family is blown apart why shouldn't somebody else's be? He's not interested. He is nice to everyone, but he is a real arsehole behind closed doors. His family of origin (all) has multiple problems, including untreated anger issues and depression, which are the least of it. Well before I existed. You think you can change him. Good luck with that.

On second thought - if you are that adamant, you are made for each other, and will get everything you ask for, and more. He and his issues are someone else's problem, at last. Don't count on "his" money though, because it is not his, it is mine and came from my family. He and his family are leeches. Surprise! "Hot", indeed!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No harm in looking, but if you want to stop the crush, think of the kids. Specifically think of how your life would be if you rewound back to when you were in elementary school if your mom was lusting after your coach, or worse yet, cheated on your dad. Kids are smart and pick up on these things. Even if she doesn’t understand it now, your daughter will remember and will harbor bad feelings about it later. Your job as a mom is to contribute as much as you reasonably can to your child’s well being. Pining for or going after the kid’s coach is the total opposite of that.

OP's kids are going to absolutely despise OP, if they don't already.

[Anonymous]

We are in peak fall sports season right now with my kids in soccer, flag football and baseball so I seem to spend my weekends going from game to game. There are a lot of good looking dads there both coaching and on the sidelines and some of them are very crushable but that’s about it. I love my husband and we had an amazing time in and out of bed last night so I’m not going anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter went to K and 1st with this kid and they became friends. I met the kid's dad a few times and found him generally attractive. Nice. Friendly. In good shape. The usual. Then COVID-19 came and of course everyone was at home for 1.5 years. Anyway, this fall school started and I noticed his daughter wasn't at the school anymore (well, my daughter noticed she wasn't in the same class). Fast forward to this past week and I'm dropping my daughter off for track camp and he's one of the lead coaches! I see his daughter there and our kids start talking. Then we spoke for a few minutes and I felt like I was around an old college crush or something. Now that he's my daughter's coach he's even hotter! I can't stop thinking about him. I know that's bad. Very bad. But, why is he hotter now just because I found out he coaches? I seriously have not stopped thinking about him since yesterday. Help.

Are you hotter than his wife?

OP here. Yes, I am.

Can you give us a rundown?

Maybe if you play your cards right you can get a little one on one time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are in peak fall sports season right now with my kids in soccer, flag football and baseball so I seem to spend my weekends going from game to game. There are a lot of good looking dads there both coaching and on the sidelines and some of them are very crushable but that’s about it. I love my husband and we had an amazing time in and out of bed last night so I’m not going anywhere.

With this season being the first of sports being back, everyone wanted their kids in sport clubs. I kids were on two wait lists and I signed up two hours after registration was open. It was crazy this fall season. Luckily we were able to get on teams for baseball and running. There are some fairly attractive dads who coach club sports. Perfectly normal to see them as attractive. But, everyone seems to miss something the poster said. She knew him from before because their kids were in school together. They didn't use meet and she had a "crush" on him then. This simply increased the attraction. Nothing wrong with that. Crushes are normal. From what she posted I don't read that she is looking to make a move on him. She's just expressing her feelings. Stop killing her for doing so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter went to K and 1st with this kid and they became friends. I met the kid's dad a few times and found him generally attractive. Nice. Friendly. In good shape. The usual. Then COVID-19 came and of course everyone was at home for 1.5 years. Anyway, this fall school started and I noticed his daughter wasn't at the school anymore (well, my daughter noticed she wasn't in the same class). Fast forward to this past week and I'm dropping my daughter off for track camp and he's one of the lead coaches! I see his daughter there and our kids start talking. Then we spoke for a few minutes and I felt like I was around an old college crush or something. Now that he's my daughter's coach he's even hotter! I can't stop thinking about him. I know that's bad. Very bad. But, why is he hotter now just because I found out he coaches? I seriously have not stopped thinking about him since yesterday. Help.

Are you hotter than his wife?

OP here. Yes, I am.

HAHAHAHA. OP, I have news for you. We get it, you think he is as good as yours, and if your family is blown apart why shouldn't somebody else's be? He's not interested. He is nice to everyone, but he is a real arsehole behind closed doors. His family of origin (all) has multiple problems, including untreated anger issues and depression, which are the least of it. Well before I existed. You think you can change him. Good luck with that.

On second thought - if you are that adamant, you are made for each other, and will get everything you ask for, and more. He and his issues are someone else's problem, at last. Don't count on "his" money though, because it is not his, it is mine and came from my family. He and his family are leeches. Surprise! "Hot", indeed!

Did you even read the opening post? You people need to stop making things up and reading into things. All she said was she was thinking about him. She said nothing of them be partners or whatever. People like you just want to hate on others, and if there's not enough there to hate on you just make things up to hate on. You're no better than politicians who lie just to get attention. Take a lesson in reading.

[Anonymous]

On second thought - if you are that adamant, you are made for each other, and will get everything you ask for, and more. He and his issues are someone else's problem, at last. Don't count on "his" money though, because it is not his, it is mine and came from my family. He and his family are leeches. Surprise! "Hot", indeed!

What are you reading? Are you even responding to the same thread? LOL.