Attracted to daughter's friend's dad

[Anonymous]

the phenomenon of team Mom's developing crushes on their son or daughter's coach is very real. I am a Dad coach and the Moms on my team are always super friendly, and it feels like a combination of general friendliness and gratitude, but also an element of flirting (and possibly fantasy) sprinkled in.

My wife is well aware and she knows that nothing will happen, and we actually joke with each other along the lines "Cole's Mom was awfully friendly today" or, "Zach's Mom sure looked good in her tennis skirt." Fortunately my own wife is far hotter than the other Moms, and she knows it, so jealousy is not an issue.

But I would be willing to bet that the DCUM community has seen a million Coach/Mom hookups - and from this thread, I'm guessing that the next one is gonna happen soon! OP, please report back when it does!

[Anonymous]

OP: Do your knuckles hit the ground when you walk?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the phenomenon of team Mom's developing crushes on their son or daughter's coach is very real. I am a Dad coach and the Moms on my team are always super friendly, and it feels like a combination of general friendliness and gratitude, but also an element of flirting (and possibly fantasy) sprinkled in.

My wife is well aware and she knows that nothing will happen, and we actually joke with each other along the lines "Cole's Mom was awfully friendly today" or, "Zach's Mom sure looked good in her tennis skirt." Fortunately my own wife is far hotter than the other Moms, and she knows it, so jealousy is not an issue.

But I would be willing to bet that the DCUM community has seen a million Coach/Mom hookups - and from this thread, I'm guessing that the next one is gonna happen soon! OP, please report back when it does!

In all sincerity, I'm glad your wife isn't concerned. That said, the "if you're hot you won't be cheated on" isn't a guarantee. Think of all of the beautiful celebs who have been cheated on and the AP is not good looking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apart from ensuring my wealth makes it to my kids, it’s utter nonsense that any of us want to F the same person and no one else for 40+ years. Nobody likes this. Not one person.

We no longer live in the Victorian age. F the coach if he’s DTF.

We’ve been married 34 years and I am very happy to F just my husband. On Saturday night we were just getting started and he said “let’s try something new” and I said “what?” and then we got out of bed and I will avoid being explicit but he got me going so fast that I soon moved us on a different path that really got him going. We ended up back in bed and it just kept going. It was nothing kinky or bizarre but it was just so different it felt like first time sex. You should try it!

Our sex life wasn't in a rut but it needed freshening up. We are now empty nesters and that has allowed us to move beyond the bedroom and standard fun. We feel like newlyweds!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the phenomenon of team Mom's developing crushes on their son or daughter's coach is very real. I am a Dad coach and the Moms on my team are always super friendly, and it feels like a combination of general friendliness and gratitude, but also an element of flirting (and possibly fantasy) sprinkled in.

My wife is well aware and she knows that nothing will happen, and we actually joke with each other along the lines "Cole's Mom was awfully friendly today" or, "Zach's Mom sure looked good in her tennis skirt." Fortunately my own wife is far hotter than the other Moms, and she knows it, so jealousy is not an issue.

But I would be willing to bet that the DCUM community has seen a million Coach/Mom hookups - and from this thread, I'm guessing that the next one is gonna happen soon! OP, please report back when it does!

In all sincerity, I'm glad your wife isn't concerned. That said, the "if you're hot you won't be cheated on" isn't a guarantee. Think of all of the beautiful celebs who have been cheated on and the AP is not good looking.

There are actually a lot of reasons why my wife need not be concerned or jealous, but it is hard to list them all in a DCUM post, so I just went with the one that seemed to fit the thread. But in all sincerity, thanks for your concern!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: Do your knuckles hit the ground when you walk?

I am relatively new to the thread and I don't have time to re-read the full six pages; can you say why you think the OP is so awful?

If it is merely because she answered honestly that she is hotter than the Coach's wife, I see nothing wrong with that. Whether she is actually hotter or not, that sort of confidence is sexy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the phenomenon of team Mom's developing crushes on their son or daughter's coach is very real. I am a Dad coach and the Moms on my team are always super friendly, and it feels like a combination of general friendliness and gratitude, but also an element of flirting (and possibly fantasy) sprinkled in.

My wife is well aware and she knows that nothing will happen, and we actually joke with each other along the lines "Cole's Mom was awfully friendly today" or, "Zach's Mom sure looked good in her tennis skirt." Fortunately my own wife is far hotter than the other Moms, and she knows it, so jealousy is not an issue.

But I would be willing to bet that the DCUM community has seen a million Coach/Mom hookups - and from this thread, I'm guessing that the next one is gonna happen soon! OP, please report back when it does!

In all sincerity, I'm glad your wife isn't concerned. That said, the "if you're hot you won't be cheated on" isn't a guarantee. Think of all of the beautiful celebs who have been cheated on and the AP is not good looking.

There are actually a lot of reasons why my wife need not be concerned or jealous, but it is hard to list them all in a DCUM post, so I just went with the one that seemed to fit the thread. But in all sincerity, thanks for your concern!

PP here. Glad to hear it! I read enough negative talk about marriages here that it's refreshing to read your post.

[Anonymous]

Some hormones could be off kilter and making you act this way. Any other strange feelings lately or emotional regulation difficulties?

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure dads who lead the Boy Scout troop don't get this kid of attention from the moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure dads who lead the Boy Scout troop don't get this kid of attention from the moms.

Excellent point. right or wrong, the same forces that cause he hot girls in high school and college to be drawn to athletes are part of the equation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure dads who lead the Boy Scout troop don't get this kid of attention from the moms.

Excellent point. right or wrong, the same forces that cause he hot girls in high school and college to be drawn to athletes are part of the equation.

The irony of all of this is that I learned way more valuable life skills in Boy Scouts than I ever learned in childhood sports. And I played varsity high school sports, including qualifying for state-level competitions.

The stuff I learned in Boy Scouts - outdoor/wilderness skills, home improvement & tool use, how to keep a budget and personal finance, cooking & first aid - I use pretty much every week of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP has a rush and she's asking how to stop the crush. Someone asked if she were hotter than the wife, she thought about it and replied yes. What's the big deal?

Yes, OP has a crush big friggin deal ! OP is the one making it into a big deal , by creating this OMG HE"S SO hot how do I stop this !!! Attention thinking thread and then engaging in the hotter than his wife nonsense.

This may come as a surprise to you and OP, bu most adults get over crushes they just pass, if you conduct yourself as an adult. People who have trouble with this are attention seekers like OP or people who want more and just call it a "crush".

You're here (I'm guilty too)responding to her post. She probably just needs a distraction (I'm procrastinating while working), hence the post. As long as she doesn't act on it I see no reason to shame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: Do your knuckles hit the ground when you walk?

I am relatively new to the thread and I don't have time to re-read the full six pages; can you say why you think the OP is so awful?

If it is merely because she answered honestly that she is hotter than the Coach's wife, I see nothing wrong with that. Whether she is actually hotter or not, that sort of confidence is sexy.

She’s a married mom whose mind should be on her kid and marriage and not in the swirl of having the hots for the coach, thinking about her hotness compared to the coach’s wife and writing all about it here. It’s tacky. If the shoe was on the other foot and OPs husband was hot for the kid’s ballet teacher or whatever OP would be pissed.

[Anonymous]

^^ and the title says OP is attracted to the coach, not just that she thinks he’s hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: Do your knuckles hit the ground when you walk?

I am relatively new to the thread and I don't have time to re-read the full six pages; can you say why you think the OP is so awful?

If it is merely because she answered honestly that she is hotter than the Coach's wife, I see nothing wrong with that. Whether she is actually hotter or not, that sort of confidence is sexy.

She’s a married mom whose mind should be on her kid and marriage and not in the swirl of having the hots for the coach, thinking about her hotness compared to the coach’s wife and writing all about it here. It’s tacky. If the shoe was on the other foot and OPs husband was hot for the kid’s ballet teacher or whatever OP would be pissed.

Your post that she drags her knuckles seems a bit harsh. There are tons of married people who are devoted to their spouses and children, yet feel attraction to other Moms/Dads who we see in our daily routine at kids' school and sports. The OP sharing her feelings anonymously on a board like this could be considered a waste of time or tacky, but that is basically what these boards are for, and a lot of people, including you, seem to enjoy reading and commenting. Give the girl a break!
OP - I am with you on this - thank you for sharing your feelings and it is normal and healthy that you have them!