DS Suffers Socially Because His Mom Doesn't Make friends With Other Moms

[Anonymous]

My ex DW is not a girly girl. She doesn't do junior league or volunteer at food centers or any other of the things my son's friends moms do. She does not click with them at all. She's not socially awkward at all and is quite successful professionally, but she just isn't a sorority girl.

As such, my 8 year old son gets excluded from a lot of thing organized by the other moms.

How do I change this?

[Anonymous]

I would start by stop blaming her. What have you contributed?

[Anonymous]

Jesus. Do you spend YOUR spare time working at food centers or doing junior league for no financial compensation?

How about you become a cub scouts dad and have your son join and coach a team and have your son join and do all of the correspond work - emailing, arranging for snacks, scheduling activities, reserving fields etc? Since your wife is a failure at managing your sons social life how about you step up and take charge?

[Anonymous]

Of course, trash the husband! Encourage your ex to sign him up for team activities such as basketball or little league or anything that involves a lot of children.

[Anonymous]

I made friends and my children made friends by being our introverted selves, not because I volunteered at school or elsewhere, OP.

Your ideas about socializing are outdated and wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus. Do you spend YOUR spare time working at food centers or doing junior league for no financial compensation?

How about you become a cub scouts dad and have your son join and coach a team and have your son join and do all of the correspond work - emailing, arranging for snacks, scheduling activities, reserving fields etc? Since your wife is a failure at managing your sons social life how about you step up and take charge?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus. Do you spend YOUR spare time working at food centers or doing junior league for no financial compensation?

How about you become a cub scouts dad and have your son join and coach a team and have your son join and do all of the correspond work - emailing, arranging for snacks, scheduling activities, reserving fields etc? Since your wife is a failure at managing your sons social life how about you step up and take charge?

+1

THIS.

You are presumably a grown ass person too. Solve it yourself.

[Anonymous]

I see why you’re divorced. Happy for your wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course, trash the husband! Encourage your ex to sign him up for team activities such as basketball or little league or anything that involves a lot of children.

People with penises can also sign up children for activities and transport them there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course, trash the husband! Encourage your ex to sign him up for team activities such as basketball or little league or anything that involves a lot of children.

People with penises can also sign up children for activities and transport them there.

Not if they don't live locally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus. Do you spend YOUR spare time working at food centers or doing junior league for no financial compensation?

How about you become a cub scouts dad and have your son join and coach a team and have your son join and do all of the correspond work - emailing, arranging for snacks, scheduling activities, reserving fields etc? Since your wife is a failure at managing your sons social life how about you step up and take charge?

+1

THIS.

You are presumably a grown ass person too. Solve it yourself.

+3. This is your wish so make it happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex DW is not a girly girl. She doesn't do junior league or volunteer at food centers or any other of the things my son's friends moms do. She does not click with them at all. She's not socially awkward at all and is quite successful professionally, but she just isn't a sorority girl.

As such, my 8 year old son gets excluded from a lot of thing organized by the other moms.

How do I change this?

np She isn't a girly girl because she is a woman. It is the 21st century who does junior league anymore? Your son will find his friends without his mom needing to be a "girly girl" or a sorority girl. Now we all know why you are divorced!

Short answer: You can only change yourself. Your wife should not have to change herself.

[Anonymous]

How ridiculous! She doesn’t need to make friends with the other moms in the first place. This will become more and more true as the kids get older. I am not friends with my the parents of my kids’ friends, in most cases (kids are 9 & 11).

Sign your son up for activities- soccer, little league, karate- whatever. Invite kids over to play- there is likely a parent directory. Throw a big birthday party this year. Lots of things you can do. And offer to drive your son or better yet- sign up to coach. They always need volunteers.

Junior league??! That has zero to do with anything.

Your ex wife is not the problem here. What are YOU doing to facilitate your kids’ friendships?

[Anonymous]

My 8yo has plenty of friends and I dont do any of those things either.

[Anonymous]

Your ex works and the other mom's don't. It's as simple as that. At age 8 he should be signed up for team activities and not be worried about play dates.