DS Suffers Socially Because His Mom Doesn't Make friends With Other Moms

[Anonymous]

Get involved, op. Ask your son who his friends are, and invite one or two of them to join you guys at a trampoline place some Saturday afternoon. Put him in cub scouts and volunteer to be a den leader. Be the change agent here.

[Anonymous]

Does she share your attitude toward the other parents? If so, I can see why she would be excluded.

[Anonymous]

This question sounds familiar ... does it to anybody else? OP, I think you may be a troll.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, I'm still laughing at junior league. Can't get past that.

[Anonymous]

My ex is insufferable, and so other women tend to avoid her.

[Anonymous]

JUNIOR LEAGUE? OFFS. What is this, 1952? The things you are describing are things women did to keep busy because they didn't have jobs.

Your ex wife has a job, and commitments, and what sounds like most of the physical custody. If you want your son to be friends with the Junior League set, buy a membership to a country club and take him there.

If you just want him to have more friends, have him join Scouts or soccer, and YOU volunteer to lead the den or coach the team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:JUNIOR LEAGUE? OFFS. What is this, 1952? The things you are describing are things women did to keep busy because they didn't have jobs.

Your ex wife has a job, and commitments, and what sounds like most of the physical custody. If you want your son to be friends with the Junior League set, buy a membership to a country club and take him there.

If you just want him to have more friends, have him join Scouts or soccer, and YOU volunteer to lead the den or coach the team.

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[Anonymous]

Haven’t you posted this before?!

If you want your kid to make friends- sign him up for activities. That is how most kids make friends and keep busy.

Your ex wife works- most moms do- she does not have time for this crap. Most moms don’t.

Yes there is probably a SAHM contingent who gets together with their kids a lot. There is at most schools. This will end soon as kids start to choose their own friends. And anyway- the SAHM do not hang out at junior league lol! They volunteer a lot at school, and hang out at overpriced fitness classes. In the summer they hang out at the country club pools. Your ex wife does not have time for these things- she works.

And the point is- it does not matter anyway- “mom centric” kid friendships will end very soon either way.

[Anonymous]

What the heck is the junior league? I thought we were in 21st century!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:JUNIOR LEAGUE? OFFS. What is this, 1952? The things you are describing are things women did to keep busy because they didn't have jobs.

Your ex wife has a job, and commitments, and what sounds like most of the physical custody. If you want your son to be friends with the Junior League set, buy a membership to a country club and take him there.

If you just want him to have more friends, have him join Scouts or soccer, and YOU volunteer to lead the den or coach the team.

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If you want your kid hanging out with that group, join a country club and pay for a summer nanny to take him there to hang out at the pool.

Otherwise sign him up for soccer, little league, swim team- whatever. Even better if you volunteer to coach.

This will not matter much longer anyway- by 4th/5th grade kids choose their own friends. Many of these “mom and kid groups” disband- the kids end up not wanting to be friends with each other anymore and want to choose their own friends.

[Anonymous]

Stop blaming her. If you want someone to be friends with the kids parents, do it yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex is insufferable, and so other women tend to avoid her.

OP sounds insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course, trash the husband! Encourage your ex to sign him up for team activities such as basketball or little league or anything that involves a lot of children.

People with penises can also sign up children for activities and transport them there.

Not if they don't live locally.

If this is OP and you care so much about your kid, move closer and facilitate his development personally.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you are local, you can get involved to facilitate friendships. If you’re not local, then your choice to absent yourself from your child’s life means you don’t get a say in this stuff. She’s your ex, you have zero control over her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course, trash the husband! Encourage your ex to sign him up for team activities such as basketball or little league or anything that involves a lot of children.

People with penises can also sign up children for activities and transport them there.

Not if they don't live locally.

That seems to be a choice you made. You then give up the right to complain about activities not being to your liking.