DS Suffers Socially Because His Mom Doesn't Make friends With Other Moms

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Anonymous wrote:Are people here actually going to pretend there aren't mom clicques? I'm laughing out loud. The coffee cup clutching, Ugg boot wearing, down parka donning moms that hang out in front of the school at pick up and drop off every single day chatting?

Yeeeaah, they don't exist. lol.

That is such an accurate depiction. Though I'd add, unemployed and stretch pants. Theyre like grown up teenagers. Cringe.

Tennis, working out, volunteering at the school, etc. Yeah, all of this exists! Your kids can make friends without you being part of the mom clique, but, at the same time, friendships are also formed, at times, due to the mom cliques.

My kids ride the bus so I don’t congregate in front of the school.

I do drink coffee, wear athleisure and wear uggs. This is just typical SAHM attire. I never thought anyone would judge my bumming clothing. My parka is pretty damn ugly if I do say so myself. It keeps me warm.

I have 3 kids with active social lives. I’m in no mom cliques at school. I am active in the PTA and a room parent. I chit chat with people we know when I see th but I’m not friends with anyone from my kids’ elementary school.

Then you're "in," basically This WOH mom doesn't have time for that. And my kids ride the bus, so no congregating at carpool.

I am a WOH and also active in PTA and a Room Parent. They aren't mutually exclusive.

My commute is 45 minutes.

PP here. I spend about 2.5 hours a day commuting when you count picking up and dropping off kids on my way to and from work. If you don't count those, I still spend about 1.25 - 1.5 hours a day commuting. I do have the ability to occasionally work from home (very occasionally as I am the head of my office) and have ok PTO I can take if needed (four weeks/year). Is it just the length of commute that is your problem or do you have no flexibility?

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You’re describing social engineering, OP. I am not responsible for my children’s friendships. I teach them how to be a friend and assist with the logistics of spending time together. I’m after authentic friendships, not power and popularity.