Could you be with a man who cheated

[Anonymous]

On his wife in the past but was deeply sorry and has learnt from it?

[Anonymous]

Only if he did years of individual therapy and had a legit reason why he did it that was not blaming his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On his wife in the past but was deeply sorry and has learnt from it?

A third of all the women on here are with a man who was married when they met and started out having an secret affair with.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. I made sure it wasn't my husband who ended his 1st marriage. Once a cheater, always a cheater. If they will do it to the first wife, they will do it to you too.

All cheaters say they are sorry..... right after they get caught.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Never.

[Anonymous]

I usually lie at first because people change and why not give them the benefit of the doubt OP. Shame me once...

[Anonymous]

You were his AP though and he swore it would be different with you, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On his wife in the past but was deeply sorry and has learnt from it?

I'd be more worried about someone who uses the word "learnt" unless they are British.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Nope. No way. They will cheat if not now then later when he’s stressed/bored/not happy etc. why bother?

[Anonymous]

Nope, never. I am not a jealous person at all because trust and honesty are critical to me.

If I don't have that trust, I have nothing.

Now if you cheated back in 8th grade, I might be a little more forgiving! In an adult relationship after the age of 18 - nope.

[Anonymous]

It depends. How long ago did it happen? What were the circumstances? Was it an ongoing affair or a one night stand? I don’t believe “once a cheater always a cheater”. I think people do grow and change. But I would definitely see it as a red flag. I would need more information.

[Anonymous]

Hell to the no. Broken moral compass = dealbreaker. I would also not believe the whole being "very sorry" about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends. How long ago did it happen? What were the circumstances? Was it an ongoing affair or a one night stand? I don’t believe “once a cheater always a cheater”. I think people do grow and change. But I would definitely see it as a red flag. I would need more information.

None of that is acceptable. People don't grow or change that much. There is no excuse for cheating.

[Anonymous]

Don't many people who are cheated on feel they get a free pass to do the same? That's what I've seen...