He's in a relationship...so what's his intention when he flirts?

[Anonymous]

Someone I work with flirts with me but I know for a fact that he is in a relationship (not married).

- Gives a lot of compliments
- Saying he enjoys my company
- Saying things like "you always look nice," "I like your shoes" and "you have a nice smile"
- Invades my personal space (for example, pointing at a line of text on a clipboard that was sitting on my lap)
- Stood over me looking down at me before hugging me without warning
- Squeezing my shoulder in a supportive way
- Suggesting I go to the gym alone (when we were talking about exercise)
- Sitting close to me and leaning in
- Touching my hand
- Grabbing my hand and fiddling with one of my rings
- Telling me about his personal life
- Bragging about finances
- Gave me elevator eyes once

Is this inappropriate behavior for someone in a relationship? Does he want something more from me? Is this over the line or could it just be innocent flirting?

[Anonymous]

Creepy! Stay away from and tell him is behavior is extremely inappropriate!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone I work with flirts with me but I know for a fact that he is in a relationship (not married).

- Gives a lot of compliments
- Saying he enjoys my company
- Saying things like "you always look nice," "I like your shoes" and "you have a nice smile"
- Invades my personal space (for example, pointing at a line of text on a clipboard that was sitting on my lap)
- Stood over me looking down at me before hugging me without warning
- Squeezing my shoulder in a supportive way
- Suggesting I go to the gym alone (when we were talking about exercise)
- Sitting close to me and leaning in
- Touching my hand
- Grabbing my hand and fiddling with one of my rings
- Telling me about his personal life
- Bragging about finances
- Gave me elevator eyes once

Is this inappropriate behavior for someone in a relationship? Does he want something more from me? Is this over the line or could it just be innocent flirting?

Surely you don’t need us to tell you it’s inappropriate. The only thing he hasn’t done (yet) is tell you about his sexual prowess.

[Anonymous]

Your just something to pass the day.

[Anonymous]

Surely you don’t need us to tell you it’s inappropriate. The only thing he hasn’t done (yet) is tell you about his sexual prowess.

So is there no chance in your mind that his intentions are innocent? He certainly has made me feel funny, but there was nothing he did that was so over the top that I felt that I could be 100% certain of what he was trying to get across.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he wants to trade her for you. Kinda sounds like you'd be OK with that, or you would have shut him down long ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Surely you don’t need us to tell you it’s inappropriate. The only thing he hasn’t done (yet) is tell you about his sexual prowess.

So is there no chance in your mind that his intentions are innocent? He certainly has made me feel funny, but there was nothing he did that was so over the top that I felt that I could be 100% certain of what he was trying to get across.

Nope! No way! No how! How old are you, OP?

[Anonymous]

You like him don’t ya? “Wink” “wink”

[Anonymous]

Are you trying to get someone to say he’s a good guy?

[Anonymous]

His ego needs regular fluffing. Please distance yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone I work with flirts with me but I know for a fact that he is in a relationship (not married).

- Gives a lot of compliments
- Saying he enjoys my company
- Saying things like "you always look nice," "I like your shoes" and "you have a nice smile"
- Invades my personal space (for example, pointing at a line of text on a clipboard that was sitting on my lap)
- Stood over me looking down at me before hugging me without warning
- Squeezing my shoulder in a supportive way
- Suggesting I go to the gym alone (when we were talking about exercise)
- Sitting close to me and leaning in
- Touching my hand
- Grabbing my hand and fiddling with one of my rings
- Telling me about his personal life
- Bragging about finances
- Gave me elevator eyes once

Is this inappropriate behavior for someone in a relationship? Does he want something more from me? Is this over the line or could it just be innocent flirting?

Surely you don’t need us to tell you it’s inappropriate. The only thing he hasn’t done (yet) is tell you about his sexual prowess.

That’s for the office party or a happy hour. It will happen.

[Anonymous]

I’ve never heard of “elevator eyes.” Off to google it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never heard of “elevator eyes.” Off to google it.

Aaahhh, okay. Yes, this guy is inappropriate, geez. Are you attracted to him? Is the flirting mutual? If there’s a mutual “thing” between you that’s been growing and escalating then I wouldn’t call this sexual harassment, though his behavior sounds cheesy, inappropriate and over-the-top. And if he has a GF then he’s an a-hole. BUT if this is one-sided then it’s definitely harassment and you should set boundaries and tell him he is making you uncomfortable.

The fact that your primary concern is that he has a GF makes me wonder if you are attracted to this guy and want confirmation that he is indeed hitting on you.

[Anonymous]

He’s a weirdo.

[Anonymous]

Is his first name Joe?