Friend who wanted to do childcare bailed
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Anonymous
| Title says it all. My friend was so excited for her daughter to have a friend to play with in the mornings. My first day was Tuesday. Everything went well according to my friend. She said my son was behaved well. She sent lot's of videos. I sent a text message yesterday and Facebook message today confirming she's still ok with doing childcare and I haven't heard anything from her. I am assuming she's too embarrassed to tell me? We always communicate through Facebook. I have to scramble to get childcare now for Friday and going forward. I guess it's better that thing's fell through in the beginning but really how hard is it to say no? I did not beg her to do childcare. She really wanted to open a home daycare so naturally I thought of her. Would you be upset? |
Anonymous
| Strange. Has she been posting elsewhere online? If not, I'd be worried something happened vs she bailed |
Anonymous
| Were you paying her? |
Anonymous
| Upset is unimportant. Why does it matter if people agree that they would be upset? Sorry you have this problem. It's unfortunate. Good luck. |
Anonymous
Op. No she didn't want me to pay her! My son was only with her for 4 hour's yesterday. I texted her in the evening to confirm things were ok and she did not respond. I also sent her a Facebook message this morning. She is active on Facebook. I told her I would really like to pay an in home daycare rate but she said no. I thought I would buy her gift cards and things like that to show my appreciation. I am trying not to freak out but I have work on Friday. I need reliable childcare. My friend was so excited to do this. |
Anonymous
| Find different childcare OP. I would be upset because she doesn't have the balls to tell you that she can't do it anymore. |
Anonymous
If you were paying her, she was taking on a job and it would be unprofessional to not follow thru and give no notice. If she was doing this as a favor, the expectations are lower, but you should still let a person know if you reversed on something you said you would do that was very important/crucial. Like if I said, no problem, I’ll mail out your bill, I’m on the way to the post office and then suddenly another thing superseded and I never got to go. It’s on me to communicate back to you that I thought I could do this but can’t. Not to leave you thinking everything is great and suddenly you get an overdue notice for the bill. |
Anonymous
Well that's absurd, of course she should be paid. And trust me...4 hours with 2 toddlers is a LONG as$ time |
Anonymous
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She sounds immature and overwhelmed. It stinks. I would be annoyed, think less of this person in general, but ultimately I'd let it go.
If you need reliable child care, you'll need to find someone else. |
Anonymous
Paid or not this woman should communicate. If she overextended, then she needs to use her words. |
Anonymous
I would end a friendship over this OP. She's really flakey and has left you in a very bad spot. |
Anonymous
| Why don’t you go ahead and call her? |
Anonymous
| You weren't paying her? Seriously? |
Anonymous
| Are you sure she didn't just ignore your messages because everything is going fine and she thought she made that clear? If I tell someone "yes it's fine" and they keep asking, I start ignoring. |
Anonymous
This. |