Husband Criticizing Me

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Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Ok, I see why you annoy your husband.

You will have to take the baby to the doctor. You will need a 6 week checkup.

OP here. Actually no we won’t. My husband found a service where the pediatrician and doctors come to your house. He did not want our baby in a doctors office.

Your husband sounds nuts.

Don’t believe the OP, I doubt any of this is real except her buying 2K plus of house junk. So her husband works 24/7, hates boxes delivery, wants a clean house always, and hires magical doctors and pediatricians so the OP never leaves the house. Or is it just that her husband called her out for her ridiculous spending? The easiest answer is the right answer.

OP here. It is true but you don’t have to believe me.

I never said my husband works 24/7. I said he works 11-12 hour days. We agreed that because I’m staying home, I will taking care of the bulk of parenting and household work. I did most of it before we got pregnant because he works more and makes a substantial amount of money compared to me. He has never liked clutter and hates a messy house. His mom is the same way.

Not sure why you are saying “ magical doctors”. There are services here doctors will come to your home, much like a midwife does.

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Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Ok, I see why you annoy your husband.

You will have to take the baby to the doctor. You will need a 6 week checkup.

OP here. Actually no we won’t. My husband found a service where the pediatrician and doctors come to your house. He did not want our baby in a doctors office.

Your husband sounds nuts.

Don’t believe the OP, I doubt any of this is real except her buying 2K plus of house junk. So her husband works 24/7, hates boxes delivery, wants a clean house always, and hires magical doctors and pediatricians so the OP never leaves the house. Or is it just that her husband called her out for her ridiculous spending? The easiest answer is the right answer.

OP here. It is true but you don’t have to believe me.

I never said my husband works 24/7. I said he works 11-12 hour days. We agreed that because I’m staying home, I will taking care of the bulk of parenting and household work. I did most of it before we got pregnant because he works more and makes a substantial amount of money compared to me. He has never liked clutter and hates a messy house. His mom is the same way.

Not sure why you are saying “ magical doctors”. There are services here doctors will come to your home, much like a midwife does.

OP here. He did not want our newborn going to a doctors office with the pandemic. I agree.

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Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Ok, I see why you annoy your husband.

You will have to take the baby to the doctor. You will need a 6 week checkup.

OP here. Actually no we won’t. My husband found a service where the pediatrician and doctors come to your house. He did not want our baby in a doctors office.

Your husband sounds nuts.

OP here. He’s being safe. A doctors office is a breeding ground for germs. Why take a baby to a pediatricians office if we can have one come in the comfort of our home? It’s much safer. Many people do it when they go through midwifery care.

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Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Ok, I see why you annoy your husband.

You will have to take the baby to the doctor. You will need a 6 week checkup.

OP here. Actually no we won’t. My husband found a service where the pediatrician and doctors come to your house. He did not want our baby in a doctors office.

Your husband sounds nuts.

OP here. He’s being safe. A doctors office is a breeding ground for germs. Why take a baby to a pediatricians office if we can have one come in the comfort of our home? It’s much safer. Many people do it when they go through midwifery care.

Are you giving birth at home too?

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Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Ok, I see why you annoy your husband.

You will have to take the baby to the doctor. You will need a 6 week checkup.

OP here. Actually no we won’t. My husband found a service where the pediatrician and doctors come to your house. He did not want our baby in a doctors office.

Does the OB bring his/her own stirrups?

Do they isolate from everyone else?

I don’t believe you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Ok, I see why you annoy your husband.

You will have to take the baby to the doctor. You will need a 6 week checkup.

OP here. Actually no we won’t. My husband found a service where the pediatrician and doctors come to your house. He did not want our baby in a doctors office.

Your husband sounds nuts.

OP here. He’s being safe. A doctors office is a breeding ground for germs. Why take a baby to a pediatricians office if we can have one come in the comfort of our home? It’s much safer. Many people do it when they go through midwifery care.

That same doctor is visiting other homes, including homes where COVID could be present.

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There are people who don't know how to have a conversation. They only know how to battle. OP is one of these people. Instead of hearing and listening to what people are saying ,she is coming up with a retort as to how she is right and they are wrong.
But, she can never contemplate that someone is saying something valid, because she is not hearing it.
Her way of "communicating" is to parry with some witty retort, insist she is right. You see, you are always wrong, because she never heard a word you said!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are people who don't know how to have a conversation. They only know how to battle. OP is one of these people. Instead of hearing and listening to what people are saying ,she is coming up with a retort as to how she is right and they are wrong.
But, she can never contemplate that someone is saying something valid, because she is not hearing it.
Her way of "communicating" is to parry with some witty retort, insist she is right. You see, you are always wrong, because she never heard a word you said!

Yep, I can see why her DH is annoyed.

Why bother even posting?

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OMG. PEOPLE. Stop picking on her! So what, she made a different choice and gripes about it. Bully Bettys don’t need a response to every challenge they write to you, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:There are people who don't know how to have a conversation. They only know how to battle. OP is one of these people. Instead of hearing and listening to what people are saying ,she is coming up with a retort as to how she is right and they are wrong.
But, she can never contemplate that someone is saying something valid, because she is not hearing it.
Her way of "communicating" is to parry with some witty retort, insist she is right. You see, you are always wrong, because she never heard a word you said!

She is (understandably) defensive, in my opinion. But — I was too chicken to post in general parenting many moons ago when I was pregnant. Far too emotional to risk offense here.

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Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Ok, I see why you annoy your husband.

You will have to take the baby to the doctor. You will need a 6 week checkup.

OP here. Actually no we won’t. My husband found a service where the pediatrician and doctors come to your house. He did not want our baby in a doctors office.

Your husband sounds nuts.

OP here. He’s being safe. A doctors office is a breeding ground for germs. Why take a baby to a pediatricians office if we can have one come in the comfort of our home? It’s much safer. Many people do it when they go through midwifery care.

Are you giving birth at home too?

OP here. No. I’m too old for that. We will be in a hospital because I’m 35.

[Anonymous]

OP, you and hubby need to get on the same page or as much as you can. Stupid stuff like this festers on both sides, leads to resentment, and will set you both up for divorce or marital misery. Part of it will be on him to tone down criticism and part on you to tone down the hoarding.

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Anonymous wrote:There are people who don't know how to have a conversation. They only know how to battle. OP is one of these people. Instead of hearing and listening to what people are saying ,she is coming up with a retort as to how she is right and they are wrong.
But, she can never contemplate that someone is saying something valid, because she is not hearing it.
Her way of "communicating" is to parry with some witty retort, insist she is right. You see, you are always wrong, because she never heard a word you said!

Yeah I know these people, know-it-all’s who have to get the last word in because they’re right and we just don’t get it. I feel bad for her husband and she’s in for a HUGE reality check when the baby comes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Ok, I see why you annoy your husband.

You will have to take the baby to the doctor. You will need a 6 week checkup.

OP here. Actually no we won’t. My husband found a service where the pediatrician and doctors come to your house. He did not want our baby in a doctors office.

Does the OB bring his/her own stirrups?

Do they isolate from everyone else?

I don’t believe you.

OP here. I never said I wasn’t going to the doctor. I said our baby was not. I will be going to my OB for appointments. We will have a pediatrician come to our house for our baby.

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Anonymous wrote:There are people who don't know how to have a conversation. They only know how to battle. OP is one of these people. Instead of hearing and listening to what people are saying ,she is coming up with a retort as to how she is right and they are wrong.
But, she can never contemplate that someone is saying something valid, because she is not hearing it.
Her way of "communicating" is to parry with some witty retort, insist she is right. You see, you are always wrong, because she never heard a word you said!

OP here. I’m simply responding to the questions or comments. You can take it as defensive if you want.

I do find it funny in the two posts that someone linked, people were jumping on the male OP and basically saying his wife was so smart and well prepared for doing basically the same as I am doing. I wonder if people just like to attack the OP on these threads, regardless of the question. Like they need the drama and satisfaction. You don’t have to respond or look at my thread if it’s not a topic you like.