Husband Criticizing Me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you and hubby need to get on the same page or as much as you can. Stupid stuff like this festers on both sides, leads to resentment, and will set you both up for divorce or marital misery. Part of it will be on him to tone down criticism and part on you to tone down the hoarding.

OP here. We are very happy. I’m not a hoarder. I have bought in bulk this time to make things easier on myself, but I normally never shop like this. It’s usually only enough for 1-2 weeks when I shop regularly. My husband has always had issues with clutter. Even dishes in the sink or an unmade bed annoys him. I try to be mindful and let that not happen, but I will be doing most of the parenting and household work when the baby comes. He can live with it. That’s part of having a baby. There will be baby stuff and I don’t be able to keep everything clean all of the time.

[Anonymous]

I'm far from a minimalist, but I agree with your husband. Stockpiling 6 months of goods in your condo sounds crazy. Especially if you know he wants Why not just get everything delivered? Nowadays you can literally have anything you want delivered to your door.

[Anonymous]

^^Ooops, hit post without editing. Should say: **Especially if you know he hates clutter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm far from a minimalist, but I agree with your husband. Stockpiling 6 months of goods in your condo sounds crazy. Especially if you know he wants Why not just get everything delivered? Nowadays you can literally have anything you want delivered to your door.

Didn’t you hear, PP? The husband ALSO does not like boxes delivered according to the OP lolz

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm far from a minimalist, but I agree with your husband. Stockpiling 6 months of goods in your condo sounds crazy. Especially if you know he wants Why not just get everything delivered? Nowadays you can literally have anything you want delivered to your door.

Didn’t you hear, PP? The husband ALSO does not like boxes delivered according to the OP lolz

oh jesus!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are people who don't know how to have a conversation. They only know how to battle. OP is one of these people. Instead of hearing and listening to what people are saying ,she is coming up with a retort as to how she is right and they are wrong.
But, she can never contemplate that someone is saying something valid, because she is not hearing it.
Her way of "communicating" is to parry with some witty retort, insist she is right. You see, you are always wrong, because she never heard a word you said!

OP here. I’m simply responding to the questions or comments. You can take it as defensive if you want.

I do find it funny in the two posts that someone linked, people were jumping on the male OP and basically saying his wife was so smart and well prepared for doing basically the same as I am doing. I wonder if people just like to attack the OP on these threads, regardless of the question. Like they need the drama and satisfaction. You don’t have to respond or look at my thread if it’s not a topic you like.

Yep, yep. Like I said....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Our condo is not that small. We put most of the stuff in our walk-in closet in the third bedroom that is an office/guest room. I should have clarified that I spent $5k in total for everything for the baby and the household. I went to Costco and doubled what we normally buy. I spent about $1500 there. I got necessities like toilet paper, garbage bags, laundry stuff, bathing stuff ( we buy almost everything from there), frozen fruits/veggies, and bulk stuff like oils, canned products, granola bars, etc. I spent the rest on stuff from Target ( our usual but doubled), and the rest of the stuff from our baby registry. I also got a stroller travel system and The Snoo within the $5k. The nursery was separate and we spent about $2k on it.

OP here. I think all of this stuff is reasonable.

VERY reasonable!! I have three kids and trust me, you will LOVE having all this stuff at your fingertips. Good job!!

[Anonymous]

OP, you are pregnant, you are a bit ... let's chalk it up to hormones, shall we?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was dumb to buy all this in advance. You’re two able bodied people who will be more than able to run to the store in the next 6 months and in fact will want to. You made a mistake, so stop expecting him to be glad.

On the other hand he needs to calm down. Nesting is real and $5k including a snoo, stroller, and carseat is not crazy.

Gee, my husband was more interested in riding his bike and seeing his brother then he was helping out. Sounds like OP's husband is similar so she's making her life easier. Smart.

[Anonymous]

OP you sound very defensive, try to listen to your DH concerns. I think he is stressed about the finances, 7k is a good chunk of change and the baby is not here yet, not sure what your HHI is but some of the items you mentioned like the snoo, uppa system are high end. Agree on the budget/finances now, it does not matter what the internet thinks, only thing that matters is a compromise that works for both of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol you sound insufferable and a hoarder. I’m a minimalist and had our first in our 800 sq ft apt and ordered maybe like a week of extra stuff. You know your life doesn’t end right lol?! Like you can order shit while nursing and while baby naps. I would be livid if I was your husband and not even about the money, just the ridiculous hoard of stuff.

Minimalism is a cult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol you sound insufferable and a hoarder. I’m a minimalist and had our first in our 800 sq ft apt and ordered maybe like a week of extra stuff. You know your life doesn’t end right lol?! Like you can order shit while nursing and while baby naps. I would be livid if I was your husband and not even about the money, just the ridiculous hoard of stuff.

Minimalism is a cult.

I’m the poster of this comment, sorry you’re a hoarder, enjoy your junk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are people who don't know how to have a conversation. They only know how to battle. OP is one of these people. Instead of hearing and listening to what people are saying ,she is coming up with a retort as to how she is right and they are wrong.
But, she can never contemplate that someone is saying something valid, because she is not hearing it.
Her way of "communicating" is to parry with some witty retort, insist she is right. You see, you are always wrong, because she never heard a word you said!

OP here. I’m simply responding to the questions or comments. You can take it as defensive if you want.

I do find it funny in the two posts that someone linked, people were jumping on the male OP and basically saying his wife was so smart and well prepared for doing basically the same as I am doing. I wonder if people just like to attack the OP on these threads, regardless of the question. Like they need the drama and satisfaction. You don’t have to respond or look at my thread if it’s not a topic you like.

Yep, yep. Like I said....

Mmmmhmmmmmm yup.

[Anonymous]

I think that you spending the money all at once would be a bit much for me to see, even if we discussed purchasing the items. I also hate clutter so seeing that stuff just laying around and possibly not get used would suck too. I can see holding those items in your Amazon cart and purchasing as needed. I mean seriously, things get delivered the next day now.

[Anonymous]

Are you even vaccinating your baby?