Why are some woman okay with being “the other woman”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Low self esteem. Prior trauma.

^This and mental disorders (bipolar, BPD, NPD, histrionic personality disorder, depression, addiction).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low self esteem. Prior trauma.

^This and mental disorders (bipolar, BPD, NPD, histrionic personality disorder, depression, addiction).

Family of origin issues. Cheaters beget cheaters. It’s what they learn is normal.

[Anonymous]

How are they okay that he goes home and screws his wife? That’s gross. And these guys aren’t celibate at home, no matter what they say.

[Anonymous]

Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've never slept with a married man, to my knowledge. That said, the sexism and judgement here is hilarious.

If I were to sleep with a married man it would not be because I thought he loved me and I loved the thrill, wouldnt be because of my daddy issues or deep emotional wounds......it would be because I wanted him, physically. I wanted to have sex with him and take him as a lover.

I'd love him going back home to get his ego massaged, his underwear washed, and his mothers christmas present bought from his wife, I have no time for such things.

That's you. There are many that actively look for 'mate poaching'. I don't know why. I mean...they are getting a liar and a cheater, but they want the wife's lifestyle.

My exH's AP was 100% this person. Not only was she my friend, but she complained constantly that her husband didn't make enough money for her to cut back at work. She wanted him to leave his secure government job for private sector SO badly. My exH made at least 4 times hers and she wanted my lifestyle. Not even close to how it worked out for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

Some of them are currently the wife of the farmer. They hope and dream the emperor will take them in an exit affair. Emperors will not marry the servant farmers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was the other woman when I first met my now DH. I was freshly separated and not looking for anything serious. We had instant chemistry and I hadn’t been intimate with my exH for years. I just wanted the thrill of being attracted to someone and that person desiring me. We had great sex and I would’ve been fine with that in the beginning.

I didn’t really think about his wife at all. He said they had a bad marriage and were no longer intimate. She was happy being a roommate and he wasn’t. A month after we met, now DH said he was leaving his wife. I didn’t ask him to. He decided on his own he’d had enough and was falling in love with me. He told his wife the following month and 6 months later their divorce was finalized. After I developed feeling for DH, I wouldn’t have been happy to remain the other woman. However, he didn’t want to hurt his wife, so we remained a secret while the divorce was pending. I didn’t mind as I didn’t want to cause her pain if it could be avoided. After his divorce he moved to live with me. No kids in their marriage so he just moved on with his life. We’re now married and happy together.

People have asked me if I’m worried he’ll cheat on me. It is always a possibility. I know now that if are no longer intimate that we shouldn’t be together. I’d hope we’d discuss and work on it. If we couldn’t fix it, then we should divorce. Life is too short to stay in a bad marriage.

I hope you don't have kids with this mentality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've never slept with a married man, to my knowledge. That said, the sexism and judgement here is hilarious.

If I were to sleep with a married man it would not be because I thought he loved me and I loved the thrill, wouldnt be because of my daddy issues or deep emotional wounds......it would be because I wanted him, physically. I wanted to have sex with him and take him as a lover.

I'd love him going back home to get his ego massaged, his underwear washed, and his mothers christmas present bought from his wife, I have no time for such things.

That's you. There are many that actively look for 'mate poaching'. I don't know why. I mean...they are getting a liar and a cheater, but they want the wife's lifestyle.

My exH's AP was 100% this person. Not only was she my friend, but she complained constantly that her husband didn't make enough money for her to cut back at work. She wanted him to leave his secure government job for private sector SO badly. My exH made at least 4 times hers and she wanted my lifestyle. Not even close to how it worked out for her.

Ex's AP wanted our location in the city and the multiple homes we owned, vacations we took instead of her boring life right outside the beltway with a husband that never wanted to go out with her. Didn't work out to good for her since ex was just looking for a free bang.

[Anonymous]

Funny that you put her down, but your husbands reaction was to put his penis inside of her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny that you put her down, but your husbands reaction was to put his penis inside of her

That’s what men do to whores that offer it up for free without even having to spring for dinner or a hotel. Too bad her own husband won’t put her penis in her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never slept with a married man, to my knowledge. That said, the sexism and judgement here is hilarious.

If I were to sleep with a married man it would not be because I thought he loved me and I loved the thrill, wouldnt be because of my daddy issues or deep emotional wounds......it would be because I wanted him, physically. I wanted to have sex with him and take him as a lover.

I'd love him going back home to get his ego massaged, his underwear washed, and his mothers christmas present bought from his wife, I have no time for such things.

Thank you for having the most reasonable answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've never slept with a married man, to my knowledge. That said, the sexism and judgement here is hilarious.

If I were to sleep with a married man it would not be because I thought he loved me and I loved the thrill, wouldnt be because of my daddy issues or deep emotional wounds......it would be because I wanted him, physically. I wanted to have sex with him and take him as a lover.

I'd love him going back home to get his ego massaged, his underwear washed, and his mothers christmas present bought from his wife, I have no time for such things.

That's you. There are many that actively look for 'mate poaching'. I don't know why. I mean...they are getting a liar and a cheater, but they want the wife's lifestyle.

My exH's AP was 100% this person. Not only was she my friend, but she complained constantly that her husband didn't make enough money for her to cut back at work. She wanted him to leave his secure government job for private sector SO badly. My exH made at least 4 times hers and she wanted my lifestyle. Not even close to how it worked out for her.

Girl, same

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny that you put her down, but your husbands reaction was to put his penis inside of her

That’s what men do to whores that offer it up for free without even having to spring for dinner or a hotel. Too bad her own husband won’t put her penis in her.

No, that's what YOUR man did to her. Not all men. But you know, brag away about your houses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny that you put her down, but your husbands reaction was to put his penis inside of her

That’s what men do to whores that offer it up for free without even having to spring for dinner or a hotel. Too bad her own husband won’t put her penis in her.

No, that's what YOUR man did to her. Not all men. But you know, brag away about your houses.

DP. In all honesty, the ho did it to him too.

At least, the other pp left and has the houses. Ho is back to the drawing board.