Drafted letter to other woman’s husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Strategically thinking, I would not send it. At this point, you have some small degree of leverage over this woman, with her knowing that you can always tell her husband. You lose that as soon as you communicate with him. Once you lose that leverage, there’s nothing to stop her from lashing out at you if she is in anyway part of your community. Or even if she is not. While completely explicable and she has brought consequences upon herself, sending the letter is an act of aggression Even if deserved. Regardless how deserve, no, be ready for aggression to be met with counter aggression. Perhaps in ways you would not expect. Toward your kids, toward your employer, toward your spouse, you just don’t know. Just be ready for it. And remember, she is a serial cheater, so doesn’t feel bound to tell the truth. I would be very careful.

+1. I've seen this play out a lot. When you have the leverage you can demand a lot. But as soon as you play your hand, you lose all power.

[Anonymous]

What does the letter say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous or not- it will be obvious who the sender iss

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you assume he doesn't already know?

She’s had multiple and is a pathological, manipulative liar. He’s clueless. She plans to divorce him and make him think it’s his fault.

You only care to punish.

Worry about your own life.

Fix that, and their lives will soon be in your rear view mirror

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you do it anonymously?

That’s my plan. My name and cheaters name are not being used, nor is anything traceable.

Coward.

Sign your name.

[Anonymous]

Agree with both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you do it anonymously?

That’s my plan. My name and cheaters name are not being used, nor is anything traceable.

Worst and weakest idea.

I honestly don't care if you tell the husband, but doing it anonymously is cowardly.
I also think your assumptions about the other woman and what you think you KNOW about her are likely to be wrong. Where did you get your information, your husband? He's not trustworthy, either.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand. If your plan is to testify in court to what you saw, and this will be a mtter of public record, then why not sign your name now?

Why all the burner-phone anonymity tasks, if your intent is to go public anyway?

[Anonymous]

If you’re gonna blow up my world, you’d better sign your name and be ready to show me proof/tell me to my face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Strategically thinking, I would not send it. At this point, you have some small degree of leverage over this woman, with her knowing that you can always tell her husband. You lose that as soon as you communicate with him. Once you lose that leverage, there’s nothing to stop her from lashing out at you if she is in anyway part of your community. Or even if she is not. While completely explicable and she has brought consequences upon herself, sending the letter is an act of aggression Even if deserved. Regardless how deserve, no, be ready for aggression to be met with counter aggression. Perhaps in ways you would not expect. Toward your kids, toward your employer, toward your spouse, you just don’t know. Just be ready for it. And remember, she is a serial cheater, so doesn’t feel bound to tell the truth. I would be very careful.

+1. I've seen this play out a lot. When you have the leverage you can demand a lot. But as soon as you play your hand, you lose all power.

NP
what are some specific things you can demand when you have leverage over the AP? money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re gonna blow up my world, you’d better sign your name and be ready to show me proof/tell me to my face.

Weird. I would want to know. If somebody sent details in a letter, you bet your @ss I’m investigating. It’s always true. Middle aged people aren’t sending spite letters. If am email or phone call happens telling you your spouse is stepping out, you be best advised to believe it...and demand answers. I would do some investigating before showing my hand.

You seem oddly angry. I would not kill the messenger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re gonna blow up my world, you’d better sign your name and be ready to show me proof/tell me to my face.

Weird. I would want to know. If somebody sent details in a letter, you bet your @ss I’m investigating. It’s always true. Middle aged people aren’t sending spite letters. If am email or phone call happens telling you your spouse is stepping out, you be best advised to believe it...and demand answers. I would do some investigating before showing my hand.

You seem oddly angry. I would not kill the messenger.

Anonymous is not a messenger. It’s a cowards way out.

I’m not angry, never cheated or been cheated on to my knowledge. If you send me a letter you’d better leave a way for me to contact you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you send via email or certified letter (signature required)? It was a multi-year affair, unprotected sex. He deserves to know.

I sent mine registered, certified mail requiring her and only her signature. I forget what that is called but you can do it. I was afraid her husband, who was banging my wife, would intercept it.

Ask me if you want to know more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re gonna blow up my world, you’d better sign your name and be ready to show me proof/tell me to my face.

LOL who are you again? The AP? And you're making demands of the OP? LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re gonna blow up my world, you’d better sign your name and be ready to show me proof/tell me to my face.

Weird. I would want to know. If somebody sent details in a letter, you bet your @ss I’m investigating. It’s always true. Middle aged people aren’t sending spite letters. If am email or phone call happens telling you your spouse is stepping out, you be best advised to believe it...and demand answers. I would do some investigating before showing my hand.

You seem oddly angry. I would not kill the messenger.

Anonymous is not a messenger. It’s a cowards way out.

I’m not angry, never cheated or been cheated on to my knowledge. If you send me a letter you’d better leave a way for me to contact you.

Or what?