Drafted letter to other woman’s husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

No, she won't leave her husband because she is too busy blaming the other woman.

[Anonymous]

Better question: did the other woman’s husband kick her out if the house or leave?

Or is she still riding the Ashley Madison rodeo? Senior style.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

I actually know thees people. Don't ask. I heard that they talked it out and now their marriage is closer than ever. They also have an order of protection in the works for the OP that will be served to her shortly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

I actually know thees people. Don't ask. I heard that they talked it out and now their marriage is closer than ever. They also have an order of protection in the works for the OP that will be served to her shortly.

They best be careful. If you lie about a material fact in a restraining order case (that is, one likely to influence a judge), you're vulnerable to prosecution by the county/district attorney for felony perjury. You may also be prosecuted in civil court (sued) by the person you lie about (for defamation, false light, fraud, etc.).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

I actually know thees people. Don't ask. I heard that they talked it out and now their marriage is closer than ever. They also have an order of protection in the works for the OP that will be served to her shortly.

In 3 months he was over finding out there were strange men banging his wife in their guest room while he was at work for four years?

Wow. Marriage therapist experts say it takes a minimum of 2-5 years and lots of individual and couples therapy to even remotely recover from a betrayal of that magnitude. Dude must still be in shock or didn’t get the true story. Chump

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

I actually know thees people. Don't ask. I heard that they talked it out and now their marriage is closer than ever. They also have an order of protection in the works for the OP that will be served to her shortly.

In 3 months he was over finding out there were strange men banging his wife in their guest room while he was at work for four years?

Wow. Marriage therapist experts say it takes a minimum of 2-5 years and lots of individual and couples therapy to even remotely recover from a betrayal of that magnitude. Dude must still be in shock or didn’t get the true story. Chump

Or that are lying about being "closer than ever" ... It does take time and therapy to get over a trauma like that, but it is possible. But 3 months in, the betrayed is still probably in shock and pretending to love their spouse, and shouting out (over social media, most likely) how much they love their spouse, buying them gifts, going on vacations. All while feeling a lot of anger, numbness, and shame.

Or, more likely, the PP doesn't actually know the couple in question. This forum is anonymous. It could be anybody. "I heard they talked it out and now they are closer than ever" .... sounds like gossip to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

I actually know thees people. Don't ask. I heard that they talked it out and now their marriage is closer than ever. They also have an order of protection in the works for the OP that will be served to her shortly.

In 3 months he was over finding out there were strange men banging his wife in their guest room while he was at work for four years?

Wow. Marriage therapist experts say it takes a minimum of 2-5 years and lots of individual and couples therapy to even remotely recover from a betrayal of that magnitude. Dude must still be in shock or didn’t get the true story. Chump

Or that are lying about being "closer than ever" ... It does take time and therapy to get over a trauma like that, but it is possible. But 3 months in, the betrayed is still probably in shock and pretending to love their spouse, and shouting out (over social media, most likely) how much they love their spouse, buying them gifts, going on vacations. All while feeling a lot of anger, numbness, and shame.

Or, more likely, the PP doesn't actually know the couple in question. This forum is anonymous. It could be anybody. "I heard they talked it out and now they are closer than ever" .... sounds like gossip to me.

Agree. Might not be about the same couple. There is no man on the planet that would accept the fact strange men were being let into his house (and they had kids) to screw his wife while he was at work for multiple years and be closer to ever than her in 3 months from D-day. In fact, affairs that take place in the home are the most traumatic to recover from—-studies estimate only 1-2% get over that.

Sounds like gossip or another couple with a different story, or yeah wife admitted to something but not the real deal.

[Anonymous]

If they are "closer than ever" now that just means they both hate the AP. Mutual hatred of the AP is all they likely have in common now, so milk it for all it's worth. Hatred is a sad basis for a marriage, but maybe a tiny bit better than hating each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they are "closer than ever" now that just means they both hate the AP. Mutual hatred of the AP is all they likely have in common now, so milk it for all it's worth. Hatred is a sad basis for a marriage, but maybe a tiny bit better than hating each other.

Yeah. Until the shock wears off and realizes who the hell he is married to and the pubes in the guest bedroom bathroom are another man’s.

He should install some hidden nest cameras in his house going forward and slap a tracker on her car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

I actually know thees people. Don't ask. I heard that they talked it out and now their marriage is closer than ever. They also have an order of protection in the works for the OP that will be served to her shortly.

I’m curious about the order of protection. It’s quite hard to get one without meeting some sort of relationship test. And what would the basis be? Her sending a single letter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

I actually know thees people. Don't ask. I heard that they talked it out and now their marriage is closer than ever. They also have an order of protection in the works for the OP that will be served to her shortly.

I’m curious about the order of protection. It’s quite hard to get one without meeting some sort of relationship test. And what would the basis be? Her sending a single letter?

The only person I've ever known who was able to get a temporary (I think it was 30 or 90 days) Order was because her fiancee's ex-wife was threatening her on her phone and social media and even at her workplace - and showed up at her house, etc. It seemed terrifying and possibly escalating towards terrible violence.

And even then, it was only temporary. You have to go to court, get an attorney, prove your case, document clearly why the person is a danger to your safety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

I actually know thees people. Don't ask. I heard that they talked it out and now their marriage is closer than ever. They also have an order of protection in the works for the OP that will be served to her shortly.

I’m curious about the order of protection. It’s quite hard to get one without meeting some sort of relationship test. And what would the basis be? Her sending a single letter?

The only person I've ever known who was able to get a temporary (I think it was 30 or 90 days) Order was because her fiancee's ex-wife was threatening her on her phone and social media and even at her workplace - and showed up at her house, etc. It seemed terrifying and possibly escalating towards terrible violence.

And even then, it was only temporary. You have to go to court, get an attorney, prove your case, document clearly why the person is a danger to your safety.

There is a hearing and the person your accusing attends too. So if you are lying or hiding anything it will come out. And that’s felony perjury and the party can sue you for libel, defamation, etc. You don’t get to make false accusations and not have actual evidence. And, let’s face it if you are a person coming in with flinty evidence saying some guy’s wife you f@cked for several years is now telling the truth about you—that ain’t gonna fly. And, you are a known liar by default so your credibility is already in question.

I think the anonymous pp is trying to scare the anonymous OP so OP won’t call her husband and tell him about her affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

I actually know thees people. Don't ask. I heard that they talked it out and now their marriage is closer than ever. They also have an order of protection in the works for the OP that will be served to her shortly.

I’m curious about the order of protection. It’s quite hard to get one without meeting some sort of relationship test. And what would the basis be? Her sending a single letter?

The only person I've ever known who was able to get a temporary (I think it was 30 or 90 days) Order was because her fiancee's ex-wife was threatening her on her phone and social media and even at her workplace - and showed up at her house, etc. It seemed terrifying and possibly escalating towards terrible violence.

And even then, it was only temporary. You have to go to court, get an attorney, prove your case, document clearly why the person is a danger to your safety.

There is a hearing and the person your accusing attends too. So if you are lying or hiding anything it will come out. And that’s felony perjury and the party can sue you for libel, defamation, etc. You don’t get to make false accusations and not have actual evidence. And, let’s face it if you are a person coming in with flinty evidence saying some guy’s wife you f@cked for several years is now telling the truth about you—that ain’t gonna fly. And, you are a known liar by default so your credibility is already in question.

I think the anonymous pp is trying to scare the anonymous OP so OP won’t call her husband and tell him about her affair.

I'm the PP. I don't even know what you're talking about. If someone is threatening someone's life or beating them, then you can get an Order of Protection if you have proof. Otherwise, you cannot. Ask any victim of domestic abuse.

The rest of your post is too weird to understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

I actually know thees people. Don't ask. I heard that they talked it out and now their marriage is closer than ever. They also have an order of protection in the works for the OP that will be served to her shortly.

In 3 months he was over finding out there were strange men banging his wife in their guest room while he was at work for four years?

Wow. Marriage therapist experts say it takes a minimum of 2-5 years and lots of individual and couples therapy to even remotely recover from a betrayal of that magnitude. Dude must still be in shock or didn’t get the true story. Chump

Or that are lying about being "closer than ever" ... It does take time and therapy to get over a trauma like that, but it is possible. But 3 months in, the betrayed is still probably in shock and pretending to love their spouse, and shouting out (over social media, most likely) how much they love their spouse, buying them gifts, going on vacations. All while feeling a lot of anger, numbness, and shame.

Or, more likely, the PP doesn't actually know the couple in question. This forum is anonymous. It could be anybody. "I heard they talked it out and now they are closer than ever" .... sounds like gossip to me.

Agree. Might not be about the same couple. There is no man on the planet that would accept the fact strange men were being let into his house (and they had kids) to screw his wife while he was at work for multiple years and be closer to ever than her in 3 months from D-day. In fact, affairs that take place in the home are the most traumatic to recover from—-studies estimate only 1-2% get over that.

Sounds like gossip or another couple with a different story, or yeah wife admitted to something but not the real deal.

No way a dude is over that revelation in 90 days. Give me a break

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

I actually know thees people. Don't ask. I heard that they talked it out and now their marriage is closer than ever. They also have an order of protection in the works for the OP that will be served to her shortly.

I’m curious about the order of protection. It’s quite hard to get one without meeting some sort of relationship test. And what would the basis be? Her sending a single letter?

The only person I've ever known who was able to get a temporary (I think it was 30 or 90 days) Order was because her fiancee's ex-wife was threatening her on her phone and social media and even at her workplace - and showed up at her house, etc. It seemed terrifying and possibly escalating towards terrible violence.

And even then, it was only temporary. You have to go to court, get an attorney, prove your case, document clearly why the person is a danger to your safety.

You are so wrong. With a temporary order of protection, you don't need an attorney, you don't have to prove anything and you don't have to testify in court. It's a one-party action where you state this person is a danger to you and they grant it automatically. To get it extended, possibly permanently, then the other party has his/her day in court if they choose to show up.