Drafted letter to other woman’s husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.

Yes you did need to know, and sadly those people should have told you right away. It would have saved you a lot of time.

Be thankful and hopefully you'll investigate someone's past before getting serious. There are red flags with cheaters that many women ignore.

not to mention saving her from a potential STI/STD. good lord.

What are the actual odds the OP was at risk for getting something? The “public health” argument is kind of bs. The OP and any cheated-on people (btdt) are enraged and really hurt. The letter OP will send is for revenge, not much more. But she is totally kidding herself if she doesn’t get at her actual monster, her DH, who sounds more horrible than the average DCUM villain DH by a lot.

To be fair, the woman he was with who was screwing random men she met on the Internet for years in her family home while husband was at work and kids were at school also sounds more horrible than the average slut. Both sound awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.

Yes you did need to know, and sadly those people should have told you right away. It would have saved you a lot of time.

Be thankful and hopefully you'll investigate someone's past before getting serious. There are red flags with cheaters that many women ignore.

not to mention saving her from a potential STI/STD. good lord.

What are the actual odds the OP was at risk for getting something? The “public health” argument is kind of bs. The OP and any cheated-on people (btdt) are enraged and really hurt. The letter OP will send is for revenge, not much more. But she is totally kidding herself if she doesn’t get at her actual monster, her DH, who sounds more horrible than the average DCUM villain DH by a lot.

To be fair, the woman he was with who was screwing random men she met on the Internet for years in her family home while husband was at work and kids were at school also sounds more horrible than the average slut. Both sound awful.

I'd say the risk is pretty high for people like that, particularly asymptomatic HPV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.

Yes you did need to know, and sadly those people should have told you right away. It would have saved you a lot of time.

Be thankful and hopefully you'll investigate someone's past before getting serious. There are red flags with cheaters that many women ignore.

not to mention saving her from a potential STI/STD. good lord.

What are the actual odds the OP was at risk for getting something? The “public health” argument is kind of bs. The OP and any cheated-on people (btdt) are enraged and really hurt. The letter OP will send is for revenge, not much more. But she is totally kidding herself if she doesn’t get at her actual monster, her DH, who sounds more horrible than the average DCUM villain DH by a lot.

To be fair, the woman he was with who was screwing random men she met on the Internet for years in her family home while husband was at work and kids were at school also sounds more horrible than the average slut. Both sound awful.

At least he wasn't doing it in his OWN home like his AP. But, yeah, awful.

[Anonymous]

^Ah and she never confessed. He got into therapy in his own, I believe from past thread, prior to breaking up with the AP and confessed everything to his wife. The AP is still living the lifestyle and lying to her spouse.

I will tell you the feeling of revenge is immensely satisfying, OP. Nothing wrong if that is your motivation, particularly with no apology or remorse for your feelings.