Drafted letter to other woman’s husband

[Anonymous]

^ temporary order lasts 1 week.

If you have been injured by the act of someone else, you should provide photographs or medical reports of your injuries to the Judge. In addition, you should preserve any electronic evidence which is relevant to your case. This may include text messages or emails.

Sending a letter to someone detailing an affair or calling them on the phone (especially when it’s all true anyways and no threats are being made to the betrayed spouse they are telling) is not going to rise to the occasion of a protective order of any kind. Just because the cheater is made to face their actions is not a case for a protective order. That’s crazy talk. A person is free to knock on somebody’s door as well. Unless threats are made -warning a cheater to stay away from your family is also not a harmful act.

I love how the cheater thinks she’s a victim.

[Anonymous]

She can’t stop OP from calling her husband or sending him a letter to tell him about her long affair in their house. Just like OP couldn’t stop her from banging her husband when she didn’t know she existed. The lack of control and fear she could be ratted out any day is what she’s worried about. Tough sh*t for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

No, she won't leave her husband because she is too busy blaming the other woman.

OP is a psychotic loser who couldn’t even hold onto someone who willingly repeatedly effed someone she’s so much better than. He’s going to eventually leave her and the world as a whole will ask what took him so long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

No, she won't leave her husband because she is too busy blaming the other woman.

OP is a psychotic loser who couldn’t even hold onto someone who willingly repeatedly effed someone she’s so much better than. He’s going to eventually leave her and the world as a whole will ask what took him so long.

Hmm. She’s at least better than the whore lying behind their spouse’s back and f@cking people unprotected the first time she meets them in the family’s home. Spending the last decade on Ashley Madison. That woman is going to need to re-sleeve her vag.

[Anonymous]

OP- if you are even on this thread anymore—a personal phone call with just the facts is the best way to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

No, she won't leave her husband because she is too busy blaming the other woman.

OP is a psychotic loser who couldn’t even hold onto someone who willingly repeatedly effed someone she’s so much better than. He’s going to eventually leave her and the world as a whole will ask what took him so long.

Hmm. She’s at least better than the whore lying behind their spouse’s back and f@cking people unprotected the first time she meets them in the family’s home. Spending the last decade on Ashley Madison. That woman is going to need to re-sleeve her vag.

Why did her husband cheat on her for 4 years? How could he? - is a question absolutely no one will ever ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.

Okay, your friends told you AFTER you were divorced. That’s pretty unnecessary as no good can come from it since you’re already separated. This is different. This guy is married and does not know his wife is cheating. I would want to know if I was in his shoes. At a minimum he won’t be blindsided by divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

I actually know thees people. Don't ask. I heard that they talked it out and now their marriage is closer than ever. They also have an order of protection in the works for the OP that will be served to her shortly.

In 3 months he was over finding out there were strange men banging his wife in their guest room while he was at work for four years?

Wow. Marriage therapist experts say it takes a minimum of 2-5 years and lots of individual and couples therapy to even remotely recover from a betrayal of that magnitude. Dude must still be in shock or didn’t get the true story. Chump

Or that are lying about being "closer than ever" ... It does take time and therapy to get over a trauma like that, but it is possible. But 3 months in, the betrayed is still probably in shock and pretending to love their spouse, and shouting out (over social media, most likely) how much they love their spouse, buying them gifts, going on vacations. All while feeling a lot of anger, numbness, and shame.

Or, more likely, the PP doesn't actually know the couple in question. This forum is anonymous. It could be anybody. "I heard they talked it out and now they are closer than ever" .... sounds like gossip to me.

Agree. Might not be about the same couple. There is no man on the planet that would accept the fact strange men were being let into his house (and they had kids) to screw his wife while he was at work for multiple years and be closer to ever than her in 3 months from D-day. In fact, affairs that take place in the home are the most traumatic to recover from—-studies estimate only 1-2% get over that.

Sounds like gossip or another couple with a different story, or yeah wife admitted to something but not the real deal.

Yeah, I can’t imagine getting over that in 3 months.

An affair that happened in hotels or the AP’s house is bad enough, but knowing your spouse was cheating in YOUR house, in your bed? That’s a whole other level of betrayal.

I don’t believe this poster. At a minimum they would need to move before they could start to recover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ temporary order lasts 1 week.

If you have been injured by the act of someone else, you should provide photographs or medical reports of your injuries to the Judge. In addition, you should preserve any electronic evidence which is relevant to your case. This may include text messages or emails.

Sending a letter to someone detailing an affair or calling them on the phone (especially when it’s all true anyways and no threats are being made to the betrayed spouse they are telling) is not going to rise to the occasion of a protective order of any kind. Just because the cheater is made to face their actions is not a case for a protective order. That’s crazy talk. A person is free to knock on somebody’s door as well. Unless threats are made -warning a cheater to stay away from your family is also not a harmful act.

I love how the cheater thinks she’s a victim.

And again, you are so wrong. You can get a temporary protective order against anyone for nearly any reason. Making it permanent when the hearing comes up is another story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP left her husband yet?

No, she won't leave her husband because she is too busy blaming the other woman.

OP is a psychotic loser who couldn’t even hold onto someone who willingly repeatedly effed someone she’s so much better than. He’s going to eventually leave her and the world as a whole will ask what took him so long.

That's a really weird take on this....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- if you are even on this thread anymore—a personal phone call with just the facts is the best way to do it.

She's been going on and on about this for many months. She won't ever confront this woman or divorce her pos husband. Therein lies the real problem.

OP you have a horrible husband and you should do whatever you can to get yourself and kids away from him. Those kind of women are everywhere, he'll simply find another down the road.

That's what you should be posting, steps you've taken to move or move him out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- if you are even on this thread anymore—a personal phone call with just the facts is the best way to do it.

She's been going on and on about this for many months. She won't ever confront this woman or divorce her pos husband. Therein lies the real problem.

OP you have a horrible husband and you should do whatever you can to get yourself and kids away from him. Those kind of women are everywhere, he'll simply find another down the road.

That's what you should be posting, steps you've taken to move or move him out.

Agree. Old unhappy middle-aged married whores are a dime a dozen. She provided a free hole and free place to bang. He didn’t even have to spend a $1 like at the massage parlor.

There are an endless supply of those old SAHMs on affair websites.

I’d want to know if it were my spouse, but you do what you need to heal. Don’t worry about some old slut. Focus on your own family for now and once things are settled and you are in a good place—sure pick up the phone and call the guy as a public health duty nothing more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.

Yes you did need to know, and sadly those people should have told you right away. It would have saved you a lot of time.

Be thankful and hopefully you'll investigate someone's past before getting serious. There are red flags with cheaters that many women ignore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.

Yes you did need to know, and sadly those people should have told you right away. It would have saved you a lot of time.

Be thankful and hopefully you'll investigate someone's past before getting serious. There are red flags with cheaters that many women ignore.

not to mention saving her from a potential STI/STD. good lord.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.

Yes you did need to know, and sadly those people should have told you right away. It would have saved you a lot of time.

Be thankful and hopefully you'll investigate someone's past before getting serious. There are red flags with cheaters that many women ignore.

not to mention saving her from a potential STI/STD. good lord.

What are the actual odds the OP was at risk for getting something? The “public health” argument is kind of bs. The OP and any cheated-on people (btdt) are enraged and really hurt. The letter OP will send is for revenge, not much more. But she is totally kidding herself if she doesn’t get at her actual monster, her DH, who sounds more horrible than the average DCUM villain DH by a lot.