Drafted letter to other woman’s husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. Looks pathetic.

I wouldn't think a man is pathetic if he sent me a letter telling me of an affair that his wife has with my DH, ESPECIALLY if it involved unprotected sex. This isn't an emotional issue, it's a health issue, and some "harmless" STDs can cause cancer.

I'd be grateful that I have facts and can be proactive in keeping myself healthy.

Sex was unprotected. I went through testing and it was humiliating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.

You look like an idiot if all your friends know except for you, is that really how you wanted your life to carry on? I would rather know and have the chance to live in reality, grieve, and then move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you assume he doesn't already know?

She’s had multiple and is a pathological, manipulative liar. He’s clueless. She plans to divorce him and make him think it’s his fault.

If she's planning to divorce him, he'll be free of her soon either way.

But he will not have to pay as much $ with this proof.

Only if you're willing to testify in their divorce trial. Evidence from anonymous sources that can't be verified generally isn't admissible.

Gladly

But you just said you're sending it anonymously with nothing to link it to you or your spouse. How will you testify if he can't contact you?

I will get burner phone for contact

You will have to give your real name and show up in person to testify. You can’t do it anonymously. So if you don’t want to out yourself, there no legal clue in what you’re sending.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.

You look like an idiot if all your friends know except for you, is that really how you wanted your life to carry on? I would rather know and have the chance to live in reality, grieve, and then move on.

+1

[Anonymous]

If you’re the same OP who has been posting around this woman and you had the face to face in the driveway about it?

Yeah, send it. Just get it over with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. Looks pathetic.

I wouldn't think a man is pathetic if he sent me a letter telling me of an affair that his wife has with my DH, ESPECIALLY if it involved unprotected sex. This isn't an emotional issue, it's a health issue, and some "harmless" STDs can cause cancer.

I'd be grateful that I have facts and can be proactive in keeping myself healthy.

Sex was unprotected. I went through testing and it was humiliating.

And that's why I think you should make him aware. His health is involved. Also his wallet is involved if she gets pregnant.

But DCUM gets more upset about people not wearing masks than they do about the spread of STDs, which is weird to say the least. You care about public health or you don't, there's no picking and choosing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I will tell you this. I had a DH who cheated for years and I didn't know. One friend told me about one affair and I was completely devastated. Another told me about the others once we had split up. I was devastated again and it completely crushed my confidence in myself for YEARS.

I didn't need to know about all the details, I didn't benefit at all.

Please do not send a letter to this poor man.

I have a pact with my spouse that we both do NOT want to know if the other cheated. So I would be pissed if I got this letter

That’s you. They did not have a pact. She does it all behind his back. He’s completely clueless.

I talked to her once.

PP didn’t say they had an open marriage, they said they didn’t want to know if the other cheated. I have the same agreement with my spouse - neither of us has “permission” to cheat, but if one of us did, they should either stop the affair and commit to improving the marriage (without discussing the affair) or file for divorce without mentioning the affair.

You have no clue if the other woman has a similar agreement with her spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. Looks pathetic.

I wouldn't think a man is pathetic if he sent me a letter telling me of an affair that his wife has with my DH, ESPECIALLY if it involved unprotected sex. This isn't an emotional issue, it's a health issue, and some "harmless" STDs can cause cancer.

I'd be grateful that I have facts and can be proactive in keeping myself healthy.

Sex was unprotected. I went through testing and it was humiliating.

Did you catch anything? If you didn’t, that tends to suggests she’s not carrying anything that would infect him.

[Anonymous]

^ who cares. Play with fire, you will get burned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. Looks pathetic.

I wouldn't think a man is pathetic if he sent me a letter telling me of an affair that his wife has with my DH, ESPECIALLY if it involved unprotected sex. This isn't an emotional issue, it's a health issue, and some "harmless" STDs can cause cancer.

I'd be grateful that I have facts and can be proactive in keeping myself healthy.

Sex was unprotected. I went through testing and it was humiliating.

Did you catch anything? If you didn’t, that tends to suggests she’s not carrying anything that would infect him.

Women that screw men off the Internet unprotected will catch something eventually. This guy needs to know who he is married to. She will move on to the next one...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ who cares. Play with fire, you will get burned.

And there’s the rub. This isn’t about helping him, it’s about OP lashing out at her. The sad thing is, the only thing OP is going to prove is how much real estate the other woman is taking up in OP’s head, while the other woman couldn’t care less about OP.

Sending this letter isn’t going to help you heal, OP. All it will do is destroy his world the way yours has been destroyed. I don’t know why you would want to do that to another person. Just let them have their divorce and focus on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you’re that Op. SEND IT

[Anonymous]

It will destroy her world and let him live a life of truth. Do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ who cares. Play with fire, you will get burned.

And there’s the rub. This isn’t about helping him, it’s about OP lashing out at her. The sad thing is, the only thing OP is going to prove is how much real estate the other woman is taking up in OP’s head, while the other woman couldn’t care less about OP.

Sending this letter isn’t going to help you heal, OP. All it will do is destroy his world the way yours has been destroyed. I don’t know why you would want to do that to another person. Just let them have their divorce and focus on yourself.

She can’t. She is obsessed. She has been posting about this for weeks now. This is more about stopping the cheater than protecting the husband. Well a little of both but it is mostly about shutting down the “AM SAHMwhore”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. Looks pathetic.

I wouldn't think a man is pathetic if he sent me a letter telling me of an affair that his wife has with my DH, ESPECIALLY if it involved unprotected sex. This isn't an emotional issue, it's a health issue, and some "harmless" STDs can cause cancer.

I'd be grateful that I have facts and can be proactive in keeping myself healthy.

Sex was unprotected. I went through testing and it was humiliating.

Did you catch anything? If you didn’t, that tends to suggests she’s not carrying anything that would infect him.

DP. Unless the AP is a sex worker, OP's husband's chances of catching anything life-threatening are miniscule. We're talking about your regular, white-picket-fence 'burban people and not some grunge-rock band groupies?
I'd be more worried about pregnancy, potential child support and other complications of that sort.