Mixed collar dating- need relationship advice please!!

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine the type of man OP really wants being interested in a mid-40s woman with a young child, no career and who is still married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:your post is sort of a challenging read, OP. Setting that aside, what do you mean by "mixed-collar"? My understanding is that term refers to two different kinds of job categories, with physical labor being the differentiating factor: blue collar jobs involve physical labor & white color jobs don't.

Your boyfriend has a blue collar job, but you write that you've been a SAHM. Isn't SAHM a blue collar job? So that makes your relationship a same-color one, not a mixed-color one.

Hope that helps.

Ha, good point. Check yourself OP.

Good point. Yes, a SAHM would be a blue collar job. signed a woman.

[Anonymous]

Move on. The differences will be more noticeable in the long run.

[Anonymous]

It is striking that you place a priority on his earning without earning money yourself. You married (it sounds like) for money the first time and now you are thinking about planning to do it again? Did you learn anything? Can you gently take a step back and ask yourself why as an able bodied adult you should be exempt from even attempting to take care of yourself even for a bit? Or to place an expectation or demand on him that you yourself do not adhere to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Move on. The differences will be more noticeable in the long run.

+1000. One the novelty wears off and the sex slows, all you’re left with are the differences.

[Anonymous]

OP, get yourself a career. This will solve a lot of issues at once: you’ll feel a lot better being able to support yourself, you’ll make more friends, you’ll be busy enough with your own work that you won’t be driven crazy if your partner works six days a week.

As for this man being able to fulfill everything that you want, no man can. That’s why we have friends for emotional support, conversation, and enjoying hobbies together. Men are good for whatever they are good for but it’s so much better not to rely on a man to fulfill all of your emotional and financial needs.

I also think that if you want to make things work with this guy, you need to unclench a little, open up your mind, and spend more time in his world.

[Anonymous]

Education alone does not earn you a collar, no matter the color.

SAH is not a job. It is work but it is not a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Education alone does not earn you a collar, no matter the color.

SAH is not a job. It is work but it is not a job.

This is correct. OP is no collar.

[Anonymous]

My bestie is a PhD with her own practice. She married a high-school educated mechanic her own age, divorced with 2 grown kids. They have been together 12 years. I have never seen her so happy and I have known her since college.

He is just as well-read as she is. He just didn't do it formally.

[Anonymous]

All the people who think that "loving to travel" is a substitute for intelligence or a personality are going to have their lives turned upside down by this pandemic. May as well date this dude without a passport.

[Anonymous]

How can you be mid 49s with a very toung child? Weird. Like uou waited until 44 to have a kid?

[Anonymous]

Why is he sleeping over if you have a kid at home?

[Anonymous]

Just my personal opinion, but I could NEVER date a man who thinks highly of our current Prez especially now, w/his handling of our current pandemic.


I cannot imagine spending any time w/someone who supports racism, divisiveness + exclusion.

Even if we never discuss politics - it would always be the elephant in the room one way or another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move on. The differences will be more noticeable in the long run.

+1000. One the novelty wears off and the sex slows, all you’re left with are the differences.

Excellent point above PP.

[Anonymous]

I would gladly trade my arrogant well educated seven figure DH for your boyfriend. He sounds amazing.

If I didn’t have 3 young kids, I would leave my DH in a heartbeat. I could care less about his prestige. I just want someone who can make me laugh and have a good time.