Mixed collar dating- need relationship advice please!!

[Anonymous]

if he does manual labor for you maybe keep him around as an FWB. Do you have a service entrance?

[Anonymous]

OP if you're not even divorced you should really focus on that, as well as parenting your kid. You're clearly unstable right now.

[Anonymous]

Do this guy a favor and break up.
You sound exhausting.

[Anonymous]

At least he has a job and works for his money, which is more than you can say for yourself.

Your post is ALL about you and how he doesn’t meet your needs. Nothing about what he may want or need. That says a lot about you, that you expect him to fit your mold but admit you have zero interest in even trying to fit his.

[Anonymous]

There is no answer anyone can provide because you are the one who will live and create a life with him or not. There are other threads on this you can view. But this early in, if you are having these feelings, (versus being really in love and focusing on that) it doesn't sound like a great fit because you are picking him apart. Your writing suggests you are not that into him.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you are enjoying what he offers you, what you experience, what you receive, etc. I hear very little about what you give or who he is as a person separate from your standards. You sound quite self absorbed.

[Anonymous]

Probably won't work. I think relationships like this (two very different people) can work, but you seem to have a lot of concerns/questions. This is your gut talking. Listen to your gut and move on for his sake and yours.

[Anonymous]

As an educated person who has been married to a man with less education happily for decades, but in a "partnership" marriage, where we both actively earn, and are friends at heart, I cannot say, becauseyou are looking to be taken care of, you are used to being "comfortable" and your stance is passive, like this is what he earns, this is how he visits me, my son, etc. So probably not going to work because your tendency is to view him as the one who should be hustling to please you. On multiple levels

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:if he does manual labor for you maybe keep him around as an FWB. Do you have a service entrance?

The best laugh I've had from DCUM in a looong time! Thanks!

To answer OPs question - no. No future here. Enjoy the sex while it lasts.

[Anonymous]

My guess is that it's novel for you, maybe the sex is good, etc. But, anything beyond that...it won't work.

[Anonymous]

Based on a few other couples I've known, it could work if you both shared one defining outside-the-bedroom passion.

In the cases where I've seen this work it is church/religion, which also provides a friends group.

[Anonymous]

You are already suggesting he is not quite enough....at a time when relationships are the easiest and you are likely having the most sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As an educated person who has been married to a man with less education happily for decades, but in a "partnership" marriage, where we both actively earn, and are friends at heart, I cannot say, becauseyou are looking to be taken care of, you are used to being "comfortable" and your stance is passive, like this is what he earns, this is how he visits me, my son, etc. So probably not going to work because your tendency is to view him as the one who should be hustling to please you. On multiple levels

this. +100.

OP sounds super selfish and focused on herself. He has participated in her activities and interests, and although she said she's willing to try his stuff, she's already decided she's not interested. I can't imagine wanting to be with somebody I disrespected as much as OP disrespects her BF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an educated person who has been married to a man with less education happily for decades, but in a "partnership" marriage, where we both actively earn, and are friends at heart, I cannot say, becauseyou are looking to be taken care of, you are used to being "comfortable" and your stance is passive, like this is what he earns, this is how he visits me, my son, etc. So probably not going to work because your tendency is to view him as the one who should be hustling to please you. On multiple levels

this. +100.

OP sounds super selfish and focused on herself. He has participated in her activities and interests, and although she said she's willing to try his stuff, she's already decided she's not interested. I can't imagine wanting to be with somebody I disrespected as much as OP disrespects her BF.

Yes, long term I suspected that he would grow weary of her displeasure, and disrespect (spoken and unspoken) and then treat her poorly.

[Anonymous]

This can’t work unless you’d be happy living in his world. He won’t be able to fit in in yours.