Mixed collar dating- need relationship advice please!!

[Anonymous]

you sound like a snob and are simply enjoying a dude from the wrong side of the tracks for a bit.

[Anonymous]

You need to try his hobbies and hang out where he lives. You both need to meet each others’ friends and families. After you do all that, you’ll know if it will work.

But you can’t do most of that until Corona time is over.

[Anonymous]

You say there's an educational gap, but based on your writing.....not too sure about that.

[Anonymous]

This will not work. They have nothing in common, no common interests, different lifestyles and hobbies. I do find it amusing that the OP who is a SAHM looks down on the hard working construction worker. And he doesn’t make enough money to satisfy her expectations.

Do yourself a favor OP, cut him loose. You will never be satisfied with what he brings to the table and you really don’t want to waste your time looking down on and judging your partner for their lack of education and vocabulary.

I can only imagine the OP on a camping trip with her conservative, Harley riding blue collar worker.

He sounds like an awesome guy, by the way, and someone I’d be very interested in dating, but I value hard work and good morality and I don’t judge people on their income and education level or whether they can keep up with my knowledge of fine wine. I judge them for their character. His is great, OP has some work to do.

[Anonymous]

In you mid-40s with a young child and you're expecting to meet someone who makes more than this man and who is anxious to listen to you talk about wine all day. Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

Just enjoy each other.

As long as he's responsible and hard working, I'd give him a serious chance.

[Anonymous]

It's not going to work so enjoy the ride while it lasts.

If I were you, I'd put this time and energy into becoming self-sufficient. You are newly single and your child is very young. Now is not the time to jump into another relationship, which you may be tempted to do , considering your limited dating experience and marriage. You are divorced without a real career; if your ex husband pays alimony, now is a great time to figure out how to stand on your own two feet financially. I say this without bitterness. Independence is a great feeling.

[Anonymous]

Please cut this great guy loose so he can make a deserving woman happy.

My DH didn’t travel much before we met, grew up in a very rural area with family who have a lot of the same interests as your man friend. Guess what? We are both open to exploring each other’s interests and learning from each other so it works. Sounds like you have no desire to do that.

[Anonymous]

watch out for latent misogyny. It's everywhere, but I grew up blue collar and many, many of the men will be sweet and romantic and then turn on you once you are hooked. You will be expected to wait on him hand and foot.

[Anonymous]

You should rethink divorcing your XH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my mid 40s and have been separated for a year and a half, have a very young child, have always been a SAHM (but am college educated)... ex husband is extremely wealthy. I have been dating a construction worker, a foreman carpenter, for 9 months now. Has grown children, and he's in his late 40s. We are serious about each other, but we have so many differences... I'm a liberal and tend to vote Democrat, he's a Republican. I enjoy traveling, wine tasting, and am a foodie.. he likes to hunt and ride Harleys.. We get along great and have a good time together. So far he has mostly existed in "my" world- hanging out where I live (inside the Beltway but not DC he's from an hour away further south in VA). He generally works 6 days a week (which sucks, my ex worked a lot but could work off hours and from home), so the time we have together we mostly do whatever my son needs me to do, or on the one day we have alone, we sleep in, go to the grocery store, hang out, etc. So far, so good. He talks about me going camping with him, riding his Harley etc but the weather is just warming up enough to do some of the things he wants to do... I said I would try both although I dont' have an interest in either. He listens to me talk about wine, visits wine shops with me, etc so he does a lot of "my" things. The longer we're together though, I feel the differences... there is obviously an educational gap, a huge one- he seems smart and to have a good head on his shoulders, but some basic things like geography, vocabulary, etc are just not there... it hasn't bothered me too much thus far because when we're together we just have a good time, we're generally not talking about anything too serious (my ex husband was serious enough). We agreed to not talk politics once LOL. So my question is, can this work? Like, can we grow old in our rocking chairs or will we have nothing to talk about? ALL of my friends have college degrees or higher and are of a certain income level and they are of the opinion that no, this cannot work. He cannot fulfill all of my needs because of the educational gap and he hasn't traveled etc... I have one friend that says if we love each other it can work and I have my friends for intellectual conversation, etc... I have extremely limited dating experience and tend to overthink everything...he is very good to me and we get along great. He makes good money, which, may not be a popular opinion, but is important to me. NOWHERE near how I used to live or what my ex made, so I'm not a gold digger- but I do want to have a modicum of standards and dont' want to struggle financially. My brain says no, but my heart says yes. I dont' have any friends or family who have dated or know blue collar men and can give me nonjudgemental advice. Please help! Any advice? And be kind, please!

Talking about wine and travel is not an intellectual conversation, FYI.

[Anonymous]

Highly unpopular opinion: sharing things in common is overrated. Does he love you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should rethink divorcing your XH.

Why did you get divorced?

[Anonymous]

Op is in her mid 40’s. Why does this relationship have to be a long-term thing? Just enjoy each other while it lasts then move on.

[Anonymous]

Dr Phil says the only thing you need to have in common is that you love each other. He says he and his wife have no interests or hobbies alike, yet they have been married for years.