homecoming and socially aggressive moms

[Anonymous]

Hoco 2019... The mom drama continues! Let's hear your stories...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hoco 2019... The mom drama continues! Let's hear your stories...

Actually most of the moms have really tried to stay out of their kids plans and have done a pretty good job of staying out of it but when you have a few days left and the kids still don’t have rides arranged or dinners Arranged sometimes the parents have no choice but to step in and help. Also my child asked their own date themselves but I don’t judge parents that try to help their kids with dates. Some kids are shy and need a little help in that area. I don’t judge the parents or the kids. The older I get the more I realize most parents are just trying to do their best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hoco 2019... The mom drama continues! Let's hear your stories...

It happens basically in the places you would expect. Pretty much as OP (from 2018!) describes. Micromanaging moms get worse every year - it's definitely a control issue ("the perfect this, the perfect that"...) The only one "into" the planning/drama is definitely the mom - the teens would have had a great time, regardless - maybe a better time without all the fuss. It seemed sometimes the teens resent the moms who over plan more than that mom realizes but the teen is not going to ruin mom's moment. Shouldn't it be the other way around? The Instagram/Kardashianness of the situation is significantly exacerbated, obvious and almost comical. That said, my DC had a great time - it wasn't because of the photos, venue, food, or anything but being around their friends - they could not have cared less about the other crap. What they remember years from now is who they went with, not the details of any insignificant minutiae - that's just wasted energy.

[Anonymous]

Has homecoming always been a big deal? I'm 47 and remember ring dance and prom, but don't even remember if I went to homecoming. My DD is a freshman and he had to buy her a semi formal dress, and she and her friends plan on going out to eat before as well. I honestly don't remember homecoming being a big deal at all when I was in school does this mean that between this and ring dance/prom I'm going to have to pay for six pricey dresses that she will never wear again during HS?

[Anonymous]

I think homecoming is much bigger than when we were you g op (I am same age). I also was surprised at how risqué the catholic school dresses were. Shocking actually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has homecoming always been a big deal? I'm 47 and remember ring dance and prom, but don't even remember if I went to homecoming. My DD is a freshman and he had to buy her a semi formal dress, and she and her friends plan on going out to eat before as well. I honestly don't remember homecoming being a big deal at all when I was in school does this mean that between this and ring dance/prom I'm going to have to pay for six pricey dresses that she will never wear again during HS?

It was always a thing, but the moms who now are living over the top vicariously, are just sad.

[Anonymous]

We no longer live in Northern Virginia, and our school doesn't do a homecoming dance, but I have a lot of Facebook friends from our old NoVA high school. There are a few moms who go overboard and post pictures and/or videos of their child's "ask" each and every year. And then photos of the child by themselves, with date, with group of people, etc. Every year I give thanks that we are no longer in that environment. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Our school doesn’t have homecoming. Sometimes our daughter goes to homecoming with friends from other schools. And sometimes she doesn’t.

[Anonymous]

Does this apply to DC schools, MoCo, NoVa, etc? Do these schools organize dances?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My nerd freshman kid and his nerd freshman friends from a nerd school, went bowling instead of HoCo, had a big meal at a restaurant and then came back home. Bless the lack of stress! Could not care one way or the other. If they wanted to attend they could.

+1. My nerd freshman daughter has a movie night with two friends, and pizza. She is constantly telling me that she can't wait for HS to be over, because she can't wait to get away from her classmates and their even worse parents. She is looking at ways to take summer classes so she can graduate HS a bit earlier because the people are "just so basic and so horrible". I feel her pain and I'm researching ways to help her graduate HS earlier.

+1

+10. Whitman Homecoming and the school year, in general, have been a nightmare for my Junior. I can’t wait to get her away from these thoughtless, spoiled kids.

[Anonymous]

Whitman homecoming wasn’t even a dance this year - it was an open to all festival / games night. My kids and their friends went and enjoyed, felt it was very low key.

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Anonymous wrote:Has Homecoming at your child’s school brought out the worst in some moms? I’m talking about freshman in high school with their moms talking about it constantly for weeks and working behind the scenes to plan their cchild’s dates and pre-parties. For example, one started about a month in advance, calling many even people with children who aren’t her child’s good friends, and advised her child to wait to decide until the last minute to make sure the child had the most options and could go with the “best” possible party, then posted endless pictures on social media tagging everyone. Our child was there too, so this isn’t about being excluded, but it has been eye opening to see how involved some of moms are in their teenagers’ social lives, and I wondered if this is unique to our child’s school. Maybe it is because this is the first big event of the year.

Private or public?

This sounds soooo Whitmanesque.

I would agree but I don’t think they’ve had theirs yet. Probably BCC.

[Anonymous]

It’s been a while since the kids got to have anything like this so yeah mind are going a bit crazy with excitement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think homecoming is much bigger than when we were you g op (I am same age). I also was surprised at how risqué the catholic school dresses were. Shocking actually.

If you had a child in MCPS you wouldn’t be saying that.

[Anonymous]

I just laugh and roll my eyes at those moms ... and I'm sure their husbands, when they are not away on business or at some late night work dinner do too.

I feel sorry for them, actually.