homecoming and socially aggressive moms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom: Does you school have a homecoming?

Son: A what?


End of conversation.

The.Best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has Homecoming at your child’s school brought out the worst in some moms? I’m talking about freshman in high school with their moms talking about it constantly for weeks and working behind the scenes to plan their cchild’s dates and pre-parties. For example, one started about a month in advance, calling many even people with children who aren’t her child’s good friends, and advised her child to wait to decide until the last minute to make sure the child had the most options and could go with the “best” possible party, then posted endless pictures on social media tagging everyone. Our child was there too, so this isn’t about being excluded, but it has been eye opening to see how involved some of moms are in their teenagers’ social lives, and I wondered if this is unique to our child’s school. Maybe it is because this is the first big event of the year.

+1


These moms have all girls, usually. Living vicariously. Want their daughter to be "popular" - date the "right" guy, etc. Sad. Does more damage than they know.

One daughter was in the thick of things being friends with girls with moms like that ^^. She "went to homecoming" with like 20 girls/several limos/professionally done hair and makeup and 1000% mean girl drama to last a life time. Lara's in, Stephanie's out, Ashley's in, Amelia's out, Lara's now out, Amelia's now in. DON'T EVER include Kylie....gross....

My other daughter went with three friends. Drove them and had a great time. But no social media brag photos. LOL

+1

Epic reenactment! Yes! Everyone knows who "that" mom is - and it is usually not the one who "that" mom warned you about. (bc: diversion tactic fail). LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom: Does you school have a homecoming?

Son: A what?


End of conversation.

The.Best.

+1

Yes, mom!

[Anonymous]

So laid back here.

Girl. Decided to attend the dance 12 days beforehand. Girl shopped with friend for dress and told me helicopter moms were directing their teens into dresses at the shop.

We booked a haircut the day of the dance. They all went to a diner afterward so no reservation. No flowers. She wore shoes she already owned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whitman homecoming wasn’t even a dance this year - it was an open to all festival / games night. My kids and their friends went and enjoyed, felt it was very low key.

I really like that idea. I wish that schools would just get rid of the dance part of homecoming and do something like this instead. It’s more inclusive and just more fun.

It WAS and IS a good idea! Unfortunately, half the school ate out at fancy, expensive restaurants and ran to the LIncoln Memorial the next night in Ubers on Saturday night. Totally excessive and stupid. I guess it is a 'tradition' here. Who cares. I felt sorry for kids who couldn't find groups to go with or who felt left out. What a d*mn nightmare.

Signed,

Sick of the Whitman crowd.

I am the poster above who stated Whitman SGA’s plan to forego the dance for an outdoor games night. I believe what you are saying went on Saturday night, but neither of my kids (11th/9th grade boys) had any plans on Saturday night and they didn’t bat an eye about it. I suspect less kids than you think did their own fancy event on Saturday night, but those kids just seemed more visible (probably thanks to their social engineering moms circling back to the start of this thread!).

[Anonymous]

It’s the social media. Half the purpose is to exclude others and make yourself feel superior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So laid back here.

Girl. Decided to attend the dance 12 days beforehand. Girl shopped with friend for dress and told me helicopter moms were directing their teens into dresses at the shop.

We booked a haircut the day of the dance. They all went to a diner afterward so no reservation. No flowers. She wore shoes she already owned.

Like mother like daughter.

[Anonymous]

A lot of NOVA schools have HC this weekend and my DS is going with a big group but I am totally dreading this for my other child next year (when she will be in 9th). My younger DD is not part of any group or have any real friends (topic for another thread!) and I can just foresee how painful it will be next year. I feel soooo badly for those kids who do not have groups to go with. It sucks so hard. I have been checking in with my DS currently in high school and going with a large group to consider whether his other friends have people to go with and if not, to try to invite them, cause I just hate the thought of kids seeing HC plastered all over social media and feeling left out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whitman homecoming wasn’t even a dance this year - it was an open to all festival / games night. My kids and their friends went and enjoyed, felt it was very low key.

I really like that idea. I wish that schools would just get rid of the dance part of homecoming and do something like this instead. It’s more inclusive and just more fun.

It WAS and IS a good idea! Unfortunately, half the school ate out at fancy, expensive restaurants and ran to the LIncoln Memorial the next night in Ubers on Saturday night. Totally excessive and stupid. I guess it is a 'tradition' here. Who cares. I felt sorry for kids who couldn't find groups to go with or who felt left out. What a d*mn nightmare.

Signed,

Sick of the Whitman crowd.

I am the poster above who stated Whitman SGA’s plan to forego the dance for an outdoor games night. I believe what you are saying went on Saturday night, but neither of my kids (11th/9th grade boys) had any plans on Saturday night and they didn’t bat an eye about it. I suspect less kids than you think did their own fancy event on Saturday night, but those kids just seemed more visible (probably thanks to their social engineering moms circling back to the start of this thread!).

My DD doesn’t go to Whitman but have friends that do. Her Instagram was flooded Sunday and Saturday night with Whitman kids dressed up at the memorials etc. hundreds of posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has Homecoming at your child’s school brought out the worst in some moms? I’m talking about freshman in high school with their moms talking about it constantly for weeks and working behind the scenes to plan their cchild’s dates and pre-parties. For example, one started about a month in advance, calling many even people with children who aren’t her child’s good friends, and advised her child to wait to decide until the last minute to make sure the child had the most options and could go with the “best” possible party, then posted endless pictures on social media tagging everyone. Our child was there too, so this isn’t about being excluded, but it has been eye opening to see how involved some of moms are in their teenagers’ social lives, and I wondered if this is unique to our child’s school. Maybe it is because this is the first big event of the year.

+1


These moms have all girls, usually. Living vicariously. Want their daughter to be "popular" - date the "right" guy, etc. Sad. Does more damage than they know.

This is what we experienced this year for 9th. One mom orchestrated photos at her house, undermining the kids’ plan. Then Gaslighted everyone about it.
The plans went forward let her wishes. She had a full on glamour shots session for her daughters, which were then posted to SM. It was so completely bizarre. And how she handled it will make me work to ensure I have as few interactions with this woman as possible.

Does your kid have any desire to go? My lovely DD is very much not part of the in crowd but truly seems comfortable with that (I wish I had a fraction of her steel when I was her age). She was invited to one of these gatherings because she happens to be friends with someone in group. She told me that there is no way she is going to an activity hosted by Mrs. X because the woman is crazed. Then she gave me a hug and thanked me for being normal. She did go to the dance though and said it was fun but she never has to do it again. I love this girl.

She wanted to until the lead up to the dance when mom (and then her DDs) went to crazy town. They had discussed a very low key affair but it turned out to be, well, what it was. It wasn't fun at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whitman homecoming wasn’t even a dance this year - it was an open to all festival / games night. My kids and their friends went and enjoyed, felt it was very low key.

I really like that idea. I wish that schools would just get rid of the dance part of homecoming and do something like this instead. It’s more inclusive and just more fun.

It WAS and IS a good idea! Unfortunately, half the school ate out at fancy, expensive restaurants and ran to the LIncoln Memorial the next night in Ubers on Saturday night. Totally excessive and stupid. I guess it is a 'tradition' here. Who cares. I felt sorry for kids who couldn't find groups to go with or who felt left out. What a d*mn nightmare.

Signed,

Sick of the Whitman crowd.

I am the poster above who stated Whitman SGA’s plan to forego the dance for an outdoor games night. I believe what you are saying went on Saturday night, but neither of my kids (11th/9th grade boys) had any plans on Saturday night and they didn’t bat an eye about it. I suspect less kids than you think did their own fancy event on Saturday night, but those kids just seemed more visible (probably thanks to their social engineering moms circling back to the start of this thread!).

My DD doesn’t go to Whitman but have friends that do. Her Instagram was flooded Sunday and Saturday night with Whitman kids dressed up at the memorials etc. hundreds of posts.

and there are over 2000 kids in the school …

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whitman homecoming wasn’t even a dance this year - it was an open to all festival / games night. My kids and their friends went and enjoyed, felt it was very low key.

I really like that idea. I wish that schools would just get rid of the dance part of homecoming and do something like this instead. It’s more inclusive and just more fun.

It WAS and IS a good idea! Unfortunately, half the school ate out at fancy, expensive restaurants and ran to the LIncoln Memorial the next night in Ubers on Saturday night. Totally excessive and stupid. I guess it is a 'tradition' here. Who cares. I felt sorry for kids who couldn't find groups to go with or who felt left out. What a d*mn nightmare.

Signed,

Sick of the Whitman crowd.

I am the poster above who stated Whitman SGA’s plan to forego the dance for an outdoor games night. I believe what you are saying went on Saturday night, but neither of my kids (11th/9th grade boys) had any plans on Saturday night and they didn’t bat an eye about it. I suspect less kids than you think did their own fancy event on Saturday night, but those kids just seemed more visible (probably thanks to their social engineering moms circling back to the start of this thread!).

My DD doesn’t go to Whitman but have friends that do. Her Instagram was flooded Sunday and Saturday night with Whitman kids dressed up at the memorials etc. hundreds of posts.

and there are over 2000 kids in the school …

Not sure what your point is one poster was down playing anyone did anything else but the games night one poster proved this wasn’t true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has Homecoming at your child’s school brought out the worst in some moms? I’m talking about freshman in high school with their moms talking about it constantly for weeks and working behind the scenes to plan their cchild’s dates and pre-parties. For example, one started about a month in advance, calling many even people with children who aren’t her child’s good friends, and advised her child to wait to decide until the last minute to make sure the child had the most options and could go with the “best” possible party, then posted endless pictures on social media tagging everyone. Our child was there too, so this isn’t about being excluded, but it has been eye opening to see how involved some of moms are in their teenagers’ social lives, and I wondered if this is unique to our child’s school. Maybe it is because this is the first big event of the year.

Private or public?

This sounds soooo Whitmanesque.

Landon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Social media has ruined high school, tbh.

+10. My daughter participated in homecoming this year. she and her friends made plans but we still had to drive her. FWIW, it was miserable in my house. The "friends" she coordinated with wouldn't return texts or email about plans because they didn't want to include some people. It was awful. I don't want to do it again. I thought it was stupid.

Maybe your daughter should choose nicer friends.

Maybe that has something to do with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Social media has ruined high school, tbh.

+10. My daughter participated in homecoming this year. she and her friends made plans but we still had to drive her. FWIW, it was miserable in my house. The "friends" she coordinated with wouldn't return texts or email about plans because they didn't want to include some people. It was awful. I don't want to do it again. I thought it was stupid.

Maybe your daughter should choose nicer friends.

Maybe that has something to do with you.

Pot, meet kettle.