homecoming and socially aggressive moms

[Anonymous]

The mom I’m thinking of is at a school that hasn’t had homecoming yet. Tune into Facebook next week!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just laugh and roll my eyes at those moms ... and I'm sure their husbands, when they are not away on business or at some late night work dinner do too.

I feel sorry for them, actually.

+10000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Social media has ruined high school, tbh.

+10. My daughter participated in homecoming this year. she and her friends made plans but we still had to drive her. FWIW, it was miserable in my house. The "friends" she coordinated with wouldn't return texts or email about plans because they didn't want to include some people. It was awful. I don't want to do it again. I thought it was stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whitman homecoming wasn’t even a dance this year - it was an open to all festival / games night. My kids and their friends went and enjoyed, felt it was very low key.

I really like that idea. I wish that schools would just get rid of the dance part of homecoming and do something like this instead. It’s more inclusive and just more fun.

It WAS and IS a good idea! Unfortunately, half the school ate out at fancy, expensive restaurants and ran to the LIncoln Memorial the next night in Ubers on Saturday night. Totally excessive and stupid. I guess it is a 'tradition' here. Who cares. I felt sorry for kids who couldn't find groups to go with or who felt left out. What a d*mn nightmare.

Signed,

Sick of the Whitman crowd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whitman homecoming wasn’t even a dance this year - it was an open to all festival / games night. My kids and their friends went and enjoyed, felt it was very low key.

I really like that idea. I wish that schools would just get rid of the dance part of homecoming and do something like this instead. It’s more inclusive and just more fun.

It WAS and IS a good idea! Unfortunately, half the school ate out at fancy, expensive restaurants and ran to the LIncoln Memorial the next night in Ubers on Saturday night. Totally excessive and stupid. I guess it is a 'tradition' here. Who cares. I felt sorry for kids who couldn't find groups to go with or who felt left out. What a d*mn nightmare.

Signed,

Sick of the Whitman crowd.

This sounds like a mess. Makes me want to put my daughter in an all girls school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has Homecoming at your child’s school brought out the worst in some moms? I’m talking about freshman in high school with their moms talking about it constantly for weeks and working behind the scenes to plan their cchild’s dates and pre-parties. For example, one started about a month in advance, calling many even people with children who aren’t her child’s good friends, and advised her child to wait to decide until the last minute to make sure the child had the most options and could go with the “best” possible party, then posted endless pictures on social media tagging everyone. Our child was there too, so this isn’t about being excluded, but it has been eye opening to see how involved some of moms are in their teenagers’ social lives, and I wondered if this is unique to our child’s school. Maybe it is because this is the first big event of the year.

Private or public?

I'd bet anything it's an UMC public. Tacky "cool moms" living through their teen trollop at a dance is very on-brand for public school. Tacky mom then spams Facebook and instagram with 37 photos of her 14 y/o daughter's "figure" from every angle of her "dress" (read mini skirt).

OMG, I have an MLM Facebook mom friend and this is exactly what she did! Thinks she's a "cool mom"; posted millions of pics of her high school daughter half naked in a pink glittery dress; and even dragged the ex husband into the pictures. She looked tacky, so did the mom and so did the daughters tacky little friend who had cut outs on the side of her mini dress that barely covered her a$$.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whitman homecoming wasn’t even a dance this year - it was an open to all festival / games night. My kids and their friends went and enjoyed, felt it was very low key.

I really like that idea. I wish that schools would just get rid of the dance part of homecoming and do something like this instead. It’s more inclusive and just more fun.

It WAS and IS a good idea! Unfortunately, half the school ate out at fancy, expensive restaurants and ran to the LIncoln Memorial the next night in Ubers on Saturday night. Totally excessive and stupid. I guess it is a 'tradition' here. Who cares. I felt sorry for kids who couldn't find groups to go with or who felt left out. What a d*mn nightmare.

Signed,

Sick of the Whitman crowd.

This sounds like a mess. Makes me want to put my daughter in an all girls school.

Not better at all girls school. At Holton, you need to be asked by a Landon boy to attend homecoming. Very unprogressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom: Does you school have a homecoming?

Son: A what?


End of conversation.

Love this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whitman homecoming wasn’t even a dance this year - it was an open to all festival / games night. My kids and their friends went and enjoyed, felt it was very low key.

I really like that idea. I wish that schools would just get rid of the dance part of homecoming and do something like this instead. It’s more inclusive and just more fun.

It WAS and IS a good idea! Unfortunately, half the school ate out at fancy, expensive restaurants and ran to the LIncoln Memorial the next night in Ubers on Saturday night. Totally excessive and stupid. I guess it is a 'tradition' here. Who cares. I felt sorry for kids who couldn't find groups to go with or who felt left out. What a d*mn nightmare.

Signed,

Sick of the Whitman crowd.

This sounds like a mess. Makes me want to put my daughter in an all girls school.

Not better at all girls school. At Holton, you need to be asked by a Landon boy to attend homecoming. Very unprogressive.

What? You can’t go to your own homecoming without a dude from another school asking you? This must be a joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has Homecoming at your child’s school brought out the worst in some moms? I’m talking about freshman in high school with their moms talking about it constantly for weeks and working behind the scenes to plan their cchild’s dates and pre-parties. For example, one started about a month in advance, calling many even people with children who aren’t her child’s good friends, and advised her child to wait to decide until the last minute to make sure the child had the most options and could go with the “best” possible party, then posted endless pictures on social media tagging everyone. Our child was there too, so this isn’t about being excluded, but it has been eye opening to see how involved some of moms are in their teenagers’ social lives, and I wondered if this is unique to our child’s school. Maybe it is because this is the first big event of the year.

Private or public?

I'd bet anything it's an UMC public. Tacky "cool moms" living through their teen trollop at a dance is very on-brand for public school. Tacky mom then spams Facebook and instagram with 37 photos of her 14 y/o daughter's "figure" from every angle of her "dress" (read mini skirt).

OMG, I have an MLM Facebook mom friend and this is exactly what she did! Thinks she's a "cool mom"; posted millions of pics of her high school daughter half naked in a pink glittery dress; and even dragged the ex husband into the pictures. She looked tacky, so did the mom and so did the daughters tacky little friend who had cut outs on the side of her mini dress that barely covered her a$$.

Definitely Whitman could be WJ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The mom I’m thinking of is at a school that hasn’t had homecoming yet. Tune into Facebook next week!

+1

LHS.

It will be good.

How did 'little miss so and so get so mean".......... Gee, I wonder.......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aren’t the kids supposed to coordinate their own plans?

+1

Exactly this.

If only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has homecoming always been a big deal? I'm 47 and remember ring dance and prom, but don't even remember if I went to homecoming. My DD is a freshman and he had to buy her a semi formal dress, and she and her friends plan on going out to eat before as well. I honestly don't remember homecoming being a big deal at all when I was in school does this mean that between this and ring dance/prom I'm going to have to pay for six pricey dresses that she will never wear again during HS?

It was always a thing, but the moms who now are living over the top vicariously, are just sad.

+1

You know, social media just makes the moms look bad, TBH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I noticed this in our 9th grade too. Perfect location, perfect camera, perfect lighting (which means they must have had to get there several hours before the dance started just for pictures.) A select group of kids with photos all over FB. Corsages, dinner at nice restaurants or the country club. Sounded a bit much for 9th grade. Maybe we'll work up to the big deal day-long event by Junior year.

I quit Facebook and don't follow people who are connected to my children's friends on any platform. Ignorance is bliss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has Homecoming at your child’s school brought out the worst in some moms? I’m talking about freshman in high school with their moms talking about it constantly for weeks and working behind the scenes to plan their cchild’s dates and pre-parties. For example, one started about a month in advance, calling many even people with children who aren’t her child’s good friends, and advised her child to wait to decide until the last minute to make sure the child had the most options and could go with the “best” possible party, then posted endless pictures on social media tagging everyone. Our child was there too, so this isn’t about being excluded, but it has been eye opening to see how involved some of moms are in their teenagers’ social lives, and I wondered if this is unique to our child’s school. Maybe it is because this is the first big event of the year.

+1


These moms have all girls, usually. Living vicariously. Want their daughter to be "popular" - date the "right" guy, etc. Sad. Does more damage than they know.

This is what we experienced this year for 9th. One mom orchestrated photos at her house, undermining the kids’ plan. Then Gaslighted everyone about it.
The plans went forward let her wishes. She had a full on glamour shots session for her daughters, which were then posted to SM. It was so completely bizarre. And how she handled it will make me work to ensure I have as few interactions with this woman as possible.

Does your kid have any desire to go? My lovely DD is very much not part of the in crowd but truly seems comfortable with that (I wish I had a fraction of her steel when I was her age). She was invited to one of these gatherings because she happens to be friends with someone in group. She told me that there is no way she is going to an activity hosted by Mrs. X because the woman is crazed. Then she gave me a hug and thanked me for being normal. She did go to the dance though and said it was fun but she never has to do it again. I love this girl.

+1

We done good! :high five: