Switch custody schedule for ex DH’s honeymoon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do people go on two week honeymoons? Grownup people with jobs and kids? My work would be rolling their collective eyes if I pitched this.

In any case, as a divorced parent I would say yes, but would probably ask my coparent for logistical/financial support if I needed extra babysitting (I have my work schedule arranged so I work longer days on my non-kid days and shorter days when I do drop off and pickup).

And I think you're fine, OP. You are saying this stuff here so you don't say it to your ex, new wife, or your kids. It's totally normal to have feelings and opinions. It sounds like you treat your ex fairly and aren't talking about this stuff with the kids so you are good.

I'm annoyed that I busted my a** working while I was married, took on extra work to build our savings while I was pregnant, and now my ex is supporting a live in GF who hasn't worked in two years. But, whatever, I"m happy in my life now, I'm a good coparent, and that's all that matters.

Then you should get a new job. I have five weeks of vacation and I take them every year. It's none of my employer's business what I do with that that paid leave, whether it be a honeymoon or I sit at home on the sofa watching Netflix and scratching my ass.

I took five weeks off for my honeymoon. I had the leave and it’s my right to use it. Taking two week this Xmas to travel with DH and our five year old.

[Anonymous]

I would not switch. I would simply take the extra time with kids. I would do this every time to cut down their time with dad and new wife.

[Anonymous]

Wow. You are a piece of work.

Of course you change the schedule to accommodate this. You need to put your love for your children ahead of your disdain of your ex. Or are you just bitter that you don't get extra "you time?"

Either way, I feel terrible for your children. Also know that although it may not become apparent to you for a few years, they can and do see 100% through your games that you are playing and will remember that forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not switch. I would simply take the extra time with kids. I would do this every time to cut down their time with dad and new wife.

Wow, you’re really showing them! /s

[Anonymous]

Of course you say yes! Have you considered that if you are petty and refuse to allow them to celebrate their marriage, she may associate her resentment toward you onto your kids?

[Anonymous]

They will go wether or not you agree and then who will your children stay with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They will go wether or not you agree and then who will your children stay with?

Exactly. OP is acting like her saying no would make them miss or shorten their trip; I’m certain they’d find someone. OP should be glad she was given first right of refusal.

[Anonymous]

Was the divorce recent, OP? You sound jealous of this new woman. Remember you got divorced for a reason. Even if he left you, the marriage wasn’t working. I’m sorry their honeymoon is causing you pain. The pain you feel might be a signal that you’d benefit from some counseling to help you finally process these emotions and get him out of your system for good. Hugs to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They will go wether or not you agree and then who will your children stay with?

They should go alone for a week and then bring the kids the second week since Mom doesn't want the kids.

[Anonymous]

How can you possibly interpret this as me not wanting my kids? Are you stupid? I don’t see how this is even a joke because it’s not funny. My kids love spending time with their dad they know their schedule and they don’t like it changed even when it’s for a good reason like one of us has to travel.
I don’t bad mouth their father or his fiancé so you can stop projecting. I’m not going to tiptoe around her. Them having a 2 week honeymoon has nothing to do with how my kids are treated. It’s pretty messed up for some of you to imply she would be justified in abusing them because of that. You are either sick yourselves or have sick people in your lives. I may not love her but she wouldn’t hurt my kids in anyway. Neither would my ex allow it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you possibly interpret this as me not wanting my kids? Are you stupid? I don’t see how this is even a joke because it’s not funny. My kids love spending time with their dad they know their schedule and they don’t like it changed even when it’s for a good reason like one of us has to travel.
I don’t bad mouth their father or his fiancé so you can stop projecting. I’m not going to tiptoe around her. Them having a 2 week honeymoon has nothing to do with how my kids are treated. It’s pretty messed up for some of you to imply she would be justified in abusing them because of that. You are either sick yourselves or have sick people in your lives. I may not love her but she wouldn’t hurt my kids in anyway. Neither would my ex allow it.

How is this even an issue? You are complaining about them taking a trip because you think the money should go to you instead of their trip. You think you are now entitled to her income. If you were a decent person, you'd work something out and it would be a non-issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you possibly interpret this as me not wanting my kids? Are you stupid? I don’t see how this is even a joke because it’s not funny. My kids love spending time with their dad they know their schedule and they don’t like it changed even when it’s for a good reason like one of us has to travel.
I don’t bad mouth their father or his fiancé so you can stop projecting. I’m not going to tiptoe around her. Them having a 2 week honeymoon has nothing to do with how my kids are treated. It’s pretty messed up for some of you to imply she would be justified in abusing them because of that. You are either sick yourselves or have sick people in your lives. I may not love her but she wouldn’t hurt my kids in anyway. Neither would my ex allow it.

You may have inferred this but no one implied it. That's alllllllllll you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you possibly interpret this as me not wanting my kids? Are you stupid? I don’t see how this is even a joke because it’s not funny. My kids love spending time with their dad they know their schedule and they don’t like it changed even when it’s for a good reason like one of us has to travel.
I don’t bad mouth their father or his fiancé so you can stop projecting. I’m not going to tiptoe around her. Them having a 2 week honeymoon has nothing to do with how my kids are treated. It’s pretty messed up for some of you to imply she would be justified in abusing them because of that. You are either sick yourselves or have sick people in your lives. I may not love her but she wouldn’t hurt my kids in anyway. Neither would my ex allow it.

You may want to help them learn to be more flexible and adjust. It will serve them well in life.
As for the rest, are you truly that clueless about how your posts have come across? I don’t think that’s possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you possibly interpret this as me not wanting my kids? Are you stupid? I don’t see how this is even a joke because it’s not funny. My kids love spending time with their dad they know their schedule and they don’t like it changed even when it’s for a good reason like one of us has to travel.
I don’t bad mouth their father or his fiancé so you can stop projecting. I’m not going to tiptoe around her. Them having a 2 week honeymoon has nothing to do with how my kids are treated. It’s pretty messed up for some of you to imply she would be justified in abusing them because of that. You are either sick yourselves or have sick people in your lives. I may not love her but she wouldn’t hurt my kids in anyway. Neither would my ex allow it.

WTF? Who said anything about abuse?

[Anonymous]

Of course