Switch custody schedule for ex DH’s honeymoon
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Anonymous
| Would you do it? We have a cordial relationship. We have switched schedules in the past for things like work trips. The woman he is marrying is nice. My kids like her and she is kind to them. It’s her first marriage and I understand wanting a romantic getaway. But she’s marrying a man with kids. I don’t think a 2 week sex trip is a good enough to change the schedule. Wwyd? |
Anonymous
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Are you serious?
Of course, you do a schedule change so he can go on his honeymoon. |
Anonymous
| Yes switch so he can go on a honeymoon. |
Anonymous
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Unless you have a long-announced international work trip, yes you switch the schedule.
This is the “moving on” part, and it doesn’t matter why you got divorced. |
Anonymous
| First, it's a honeymoon, not a "2 week sex trip." You wouldn't refer to any other honeymoon that way, so don't let your bitterness get the better of you, that doesn't lead to good decision-making. I would treat it the same way you would any other travel, and in particular they way you would want him to handle a comparable trip of yours. Set a good precedent. |
Anonymous
| Yes. If you don’t do it, you will pay for it in many ways for years to come with her being irritated. |
Anonymous
| You sound jealous and really crummy. Yes, you switch, especially if you want him switch in the future. |
Anonymous
| Of course. You are modeling behavior here for your kids. Show them how to be kind to others. |
Anonymous
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“2 week sex trip?”
You sound lovely. Stay klassy, OP! |
Anonymous
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When my dad remarried, my mom not only switched the custody weeks, she invited my dad's fiance's daughter over to spend the week with us so they could have a honeymoon. It was a mini-vacation for the new stepsisters. Almost twenty years later, everyone gets along great ... And I can't tell you how much I appreciated that at my high school graduation, college graduation, wedding, my child's birthday, and every other time the families need to interact.
You, OP, sound bitter. Unless you have a serious conflict, you should absolutely switch. There only reason not to is spite, and that's not a good way to live your life. |
Anonymous
+1. Assuming your ex-trades you for another 2 weeks that are convenient to you, you’re just being bitter if you say no. |
Anonymous
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I suspect one of two things are going on here - and both are natural reactions, so I don’t say this with judgment.
Either this honeymoon is longer/more exotic/better in some way than your honeymoon with him (because you are both older and have more disposal income/different priorities) - which is stinging a bit - or you tend to choose to be away from your children if it is for work or a family commitment - so you don’t quite understand why he needs two weeks. Regardless of what is driving this - just accept it and let him go with a smile on his face. Complaining will never reflect well on you and this is how you keep the relationship cordial. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely yes! You need to show the kids that you are okay with the marriage and maintain a good relationship! |
Anonymous
| Yes, you switch. Or you don’t complain when he has someone else watch the kid while he’s on his honeymoon. I can’t vel you’re even asking this if your relationship is good and he didn’t leave you for her. |
Anonymous
| You'd look like poop if you didn't and there would be no one that wouldn't think so (even if they offered supportive words) |