Switch custody schedule for ex DH’s honeymoon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m going to agree to it but 2 weeks is excessive in my opinion. I think there’s better uses for money but her dream trip is very important.

Wow - you are not bitter at all are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m going to agree to it but 2 weeks is excessive in my opinion. I think there’s better uses for money but her dream trip is very important.

Wow - you are not bitter at all are you?

And a little judgey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m going to agree to it but 2 weeks is excessive in my opinion. I think there’s better uses for money but her dream trip is very important.

OP. She is not your new wife.

And if you've already made the mistake of saying any of this to your kids, go back to them and tell them you were wrong to judge.

+1, you get child support. You are not entitled to her money nor your ex's. They also have expenses in their home if it is 50/50. She may fully be paying for the trip with her income/savings. She does not owe you a dime of her money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do people go on two week honeymoons? Grownup people with jobs and kids? My work would be rolling their collective eyes if I pitched this.

In any case, as a divorced parent I would say yes, but would probably ask my coparent for logistical/financial support if I needed extra babysitting (I have my work schedule arranged so I work longer days on my non-kid days and shorter days when I do drop off and pickup).

And I think you're fine, OP. You are saying this stuff here so you don't say it to your ex, new wife, or your kids. It's totally normal to have feelings and opinions. It sounds like you treat your ex fairly and aren't talking about this stuff with the kids so you are good.

I'm annoyed that I busted my a** working while I was married, took on extra work to build our savings while I was pregnant, and now my ex is supporting a live in GF who hasn't worked in two years. But, whatever, I"m happy in my life now, I'm a good coparent, and that's all that matters.

Then you should get a new job. I have five weeks of vacation and I take them every year. It's none of my employer's business what I do with that that paid leave, whether it be a honeymoon or I sit at home on the sofa watching Netflix and scratching my ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m going to agree to it but 2 weeks is excessive in my opinion. I think there’s better uses for money but her dream trip is very important.

It's not your money.

[Anonymous]

Lol op you are so lame. Move the f*ck on,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do people go on two week honeymoons? Grownup people with jobs and kids? My work would be rolling their collective eyes if I pitched this.

In any case, as a divorced parent I would say yes, but would probably ask my coparent for logistical/financial support if I needed extra babysitting (I have my work schedule arranged so I work longer days on my non-kid days and shorter days when I do drop off and pickup).

And I think you're fine, OP. You are saying this stuff here so you don't say it to your ex, new wife, or your kids. It's totally normal to have feelings and opinions. It sounds like you treat your ex fairly and aren't talking about this stuff with the kids so you are good.

I'm annoyed that I busted my a** working while I was married, took on extra work to build our savings while I was pregnant, and now my ex is supporting a live in GF who hasn't worked in two years. But, whatever, I"m happy in my life now, I'm a good coparent, and that's all that matters.

We went in a 3.5 week vacation this summer. No eye rolling ensued. Are your coworkers 15years old? Do you work at McDonalds?

[Anonymous]

Yes, do it.

[Anonymous]

One of the disadvantages of divorcing your husband is that you no longer have a say in who he sleeps with or how he spends his money.

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course.

Why are you not jumping at the chance for more time with your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the disadvantages of divorcing your husband is that you no longer have a say in who he sleeps with or how he spends his money.

It’s only a disadvantage if you want to sleep with him and you need his money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m going to agree to it but 2 weeks is excessive in my opinion. I think there’s better uses for money but her dream trip is very important.

She has won. She got the man and here you are, bitter and jealous. LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my dad remarried, my mom not only switched the custody weeks, she invited my dad's fiance's daughter over to spend the week with us so they could have a honeymoon. It was a mini-vacation for the new stepsisters. Almost twenty years later, everyone gets along great ... And I can't tell you how much I appreciated that at my high school graduation, college graduation, wedding, my child's birthday, and every other time the families need to interact.

You, OP, sound bitter. Unless you have a serious conflict, you should absolutely switch. There only reason not to is spite, and that's not a good way to live your life.

This is excellent advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course.

Why are you not jumping at the chance for more time with your kids?

Because exerting the tiny amount of control she has by passive aggressively sabotaging her ex husband's new marriage by refusing to accommodate his honeymoon feels better than spending time with her kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do people go on two week honeymoons? Grownup people with jobs and kids? My work would be rolling their collective eyes if I pitched this.

In any case, as a divorced parent I would say yes, but would probably ask my coparent for logistical/financial support if I needed extra babysitting (I have my work schedule arranged so I work longer days on my non-kid days and shorter days when I do drop off and pickup).

And I think you're fine, OP. You are saying this stuff here so you don't say it to your ex, new wife, or your kids. It's totally normal to have feelings and opinions. It sounds like you treat your ex fairly and aren't talking about this stuff with the kids so you are good.

I'm annoyed that I busted my a** working while I was married, took on extra work to build our savings while I was pregnant, and now my ex is supporting a live in GF who hasn't worked in two years. But, whatever, I"m happy in my life now, I'm a good coparent, and that's all that matters.

My wife and I take 2 week vacations once a year, plus several weeklong vacations annually. Counting holidays, I get 12 weeks of PTO per year. I do often wind up working some during them, though.

I know plenty of people at my firm who take 3 weeks at a time, but that’s too long for me personally.