Is it possible to cheat and not get caught?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow Rhee are some terrible terrible cheaters on here. How do you sleep at night? You say you’re happy, but deep, deep down inside you’re a wreck, a basket case.

Eventually it will catch up with you. Karma is a bitch. Sometimes her bill comes due immediately, sometimes she holds off on the bill so it accrues Interest.

It’s awful to think there are so many of you in this world. You all need help.

Wow, there really are some terrible psychics on here. How do you stay in business as a psychic?

You say you know what total strangers are thinking, but deep, deep down inside you're clueless, and projecting.

Eventually it will catch up with you. Reality is a bitch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow Rhee are some terrible terrible cheaters on here. How do you sleep at night? You say you’re happy, but deep, deep down inside you’re a wreck, a basket case.

Eventually it will catch up with you. Karma is a bitch. Sometimes her bill comes due immediately, sometimes she holds off on the bill so it accrues Interest.

It’s awful to think there are so many of you in this world. You all need help.

Wow, there really are some terrible psychics on here. How do you stay in business as a psychic?

You say you know what total strangers are thinking, but deep, deep down inside you're clueless, and projecting.

Eventually it will catch up with you. Reality is a bitch.

It's true that sociopaths have a very limited conscience, if any, and don't feel guilty. On the other hand, feelings of guilt, sense of wrongdoing, and anxiety do catch up with others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow Rhee are some terrible terrible cheaters on here. How do you sleep at night? You say you’re happy, but deep, deep down inside you’re a wreck, a basket case.

Eventually it will catch up with you. Karma is a bitch. Sometimes her bill comes due immediately, sometimes she holds off on the bill so it accrues Interest.

It’s awful to think there are so many of you in this world. You all need help.

Wow, there really are some terrible psychics on here. How do you stay in business as a psychic?

You say you know what total strangers are thinking, but deep, deep down inside you're clueless, and projecting.

Eventually it will catch up with you. Reality is a bitch.

It's true that sociopaths have a very limited conscience, if any, and don't feel guilty. On the other hand, feelings of guilt, sense of wrongdoing, and anxiety do catch up with others.

It's also true that people who are doing their best with a bad situation-- like supporting a deadbeat spouse for the sake of the kids-- don't feel guilty when they're doing their best to stay sane and strong for their kids.

And it's also, also true that moralistic black and white thinkers are seldom very bright.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Whether you want to admit it or not, being a dishonest person slowly chips away at your inner core. There'll be a divide between who you say you are and the person you actually are.

No it doesn’t . I have a friend who’s been married for 30 years and having an affair for 28. She’s happy as a clam.

Life ain't over yet.

+1.... And I am guessing she is not as happy as you think

Oh she’s happy. Oh you moralistic soft snowflake ones. Get a life and grow up.

[Anonymous]

Are you considering the impact on potential AP's life and family? Would you be up for destroying someone else's marriage?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow Rhee are some terrible terrible cheaters on here. How do you sleep at night? You say you’re happy, but deep, deep down inside you’re a wreck, a basket case.

Eventually it will catch up with you. Karma is a bitch. Sometimes her bill comes due immediately, sometimes she holds off on the bill so it accrues Interest.

It’s awful to think there are so many of you in this world. You all need help.

Wow, there really are some terrible psychics on here. How do you stay in business as a psychic?

You say you know what total strangers are thinking, but deep, deep down inside you're clueless, and projecting.

Eventually it will catch up with you. Reality is a bitch.

It's true that sociopaths have a very limited conscience, if any, and don't feel guilty. On the other hand, feelings of guilt, sense of wrongdoing, and anxiety do catch up with others.

It's also true that people who are doing their best with a bad situation-- like supporting a deadbeat spouse for the sake of the kids-- don't feel guilty when they're doing their best to stay sane and strong for their kids.

And it's also, also true that moralistic black and white thinkers are seldom very bright.

Whatever you want to say about a poster's intelligence on this board doesn't change the facts about feelings of guilt and remorse that the typical person would feel under the noted circumstances involving betrayal and dishonesty, especially if long-term. If you don't believe an anonymous DCUM poster, then read and/or chat with any respected, knowledgeable psychologist or someone who studies human behavior. FWIW, you can stay sane without having an affair. That's just a rationalization.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you considering the impact on potential AP's life and family? Would you be up for destroying someone else's marriage?

Not OP, but the potential AP's marriage is for the potential AP to nurture or break. If he is looking for someone to cheat with, his marriage wasn't in great shape.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you considering the impact on potential AP's life and family? Would you be up for destroying someone else's marriage?

This is the reason why almost all of my APs are younger single men. I feel guilty about sleeping with married men. I’ve only slept with two married guys, and it felt shameful. They were sad and sneaky, and not as emotionally satisfying. There are plenty of men to choose from, and it’s just as easy to find a guy who is unattached.

No bigger buzzkill than thinking about an AP’s young kids, and how they would be affected by divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:somehow my husband became suspicious. I laughed it off, but omg, I was stunned.

I knew about exDW - some people have a tell

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's possible. Not easy, but possible.

[Anonymous]

To use a pp’s word, all women have a tell. Your husbands know. They either don’t care or are somehow getting off on your cheating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course it's possible. But you have to be extremely careful. The longer it goes on, the easier it is to get lazy about covering your tracks.

Only cheat with other married people, they have as much to lose as you do. There's a much higher chance that a single AP will let something slip.

Don't leave any sort of electronic record, ever. If you must communicate electronically, do it with a throwaway email address that your spouse doesn't even know exists. Nothing suggestive or explicit in that or texts, ever. For God's sake don't ever share pictures with AP.

Also no financial trail. Pay for dates with cash, not credit card. Don't stay at hotels unless you have a separate credit card that your spouse doesn't know exists and has no way of finding out (can she check your credit report and find a new cards?).

Learn how to set the location on your phone so that spouse can't track you. Better yet, leave your phone at the office while you go out.

And, of course, don't "act suspicious". This one is harder to define. But take the time now to notice how you interact with your spouse, and keep that steady. Some people distance themselves when they start cheating, others go overboard with guilt and act too nice. Either way it's suspicious.

Are you this dishonest at work, too? You seem to have developed a dishonest way of living down to a science. Chip, chip, chip...there goes your soul.

One of the smartest and most insightful comments I've read on DCUM. He/She already has no soul, I'm afraid. And wow, how much effort goes into the deception. Just think of all the great things he/she could be doing with all that time and effort: writing a book, getting a promotion, traveling the world, working for others, building meaningful and honest relationships with people ....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It'll suck your soul.

This is true - if you fall in love it will suck the life out of you. If you just want a friend and a f*** buddy then yes - go for it - life is too short. Be confident that he is secure on his end - I’ve cheated many times - got caught twice. Once for being sloppy and “in love” and once because APs wife was on the prowl looking to get him.

I take it you divorced, your DH did not stay with a twice-cheating skank right?

Not divorced - some men like being cuckold - strange but true.

cuckolds know what is going on and accept it. That's different than cheating

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you considering the impact on potential AP's life and family? Would you be up for destroying someone else's marriage?

Not OP, but the potential AP's marriage is for the potential AP to nurture or break. If he is looking for someone to cheat with, his marriage wasn't in great shape.

in other words, two liars are a good match?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I've had an affair without getting caught. 10/10 would recommend.

I didn't actually care if he caught me, I planned on divorcing him anyway. I'm now in my second marriage and much happier so I won't be cheating on this huaband.

You sound like a real gem.