Is it possible to cheat and not get caught?

[Anonymous]

Here’s a tip. For starters, don’t post on this site.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It'll suck your soul.

Among other parts of you.

[Anonymous]

somehow my husband became suspicious. I laughed it off, but omg, I was stunned.

[Anonymous]

Divorce court will not care about your infidelity. 50-50 split.

Don't screw up your kids lives...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course it's possible. But you have to be extremely careful. The longer it goes on, the easier it is to get lazy about covering your tracks.

Only cheat with other married people, they have as much to lose as you do. There's a much higher chance that a single AP will let something slip.

Don't leave any sort of electronic record, ever. If you must communicate electronically, do it with a throwaway email address that your spouse doesn't even know exists. Nothing suggestive or explicit in that or texts, ever. For God's sake don't ever share pictures with AP.

Also no financial trail. Pay for dates with cash, not credit card. Don't stay at hotels unless you have a separate credit card that your spouse doesn't know exists and has no way of finding out (can she check your credit report and find a new cards?).

Learn how to set the location on your phone so that spouse can't track you. Better yet, leave your phone at the office while you go out.

And, of course, don't "act suspicious". This one is harder to define. But take the time now to notice how you interact with your spouse, and keep that steady. Some people distance themselves when they start cheating, others go overboard with guilt and act too nice. Either way it's suspicious.

This is excellent advice. But only necessary for long term affairs.

Business travel one night stands are much less complicated as are convention affairs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:somehow my husband became suspicious. I laughed it off, but omg, I was stunned.

+1. Only met abroad. I was shocked when he picked up on it and accused me. I stumbled over my explanation and I know he saw right through me. I regret all of it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course it's possible. But you have to be extremely careful. The longer it goes on, the easier it is to get lazy about covering your tracks.

Only cheat with other married people, they have as much to lose as you do. There's a much higher chance that a single AP will let something slip.

Don't leave any sort of electronic record, ever. If you must communicate electronically, do it with a throwaway email address that your spouse doesn't even know exists. Nothing suggestive or explicit in that or texts, ever. For God's sake don't ever share pictures with AP.

Also no financial trail. Pay for dates with cash, not credit card. Don't stay at hotels unless you have a separate credit card that your spouse doesn't know exists and has no way of finding out (can she check your credit report and find a new cards?).

Learn how to set the location on your phone so that spouse can't track you. Better yet, leave your phone at the office while you go out.

And, of course, don't "act suspicious". This one is harder to define. But take the time now to notice how you interact with your spouse, and keep that steady. Some people distance themselves when they start cheating, others go overboard with guilt and act too nice. Either way it's suspicious.

This is excellent advice. But only necessary for long term affairs.

Business travel one night stands are much less complicated as are convention affairs

chip, chip, chipping away

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:somehow my husband became suspicious. I laughed it off, but omg, I was stunned.

Have you every heard the expression, "Rode hard and put up wet?" Life will take a toll on your face and inner being, but a life of dishonesty will take an even large toll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:somehow my husband became suspicious. I laughed it off, but omg, I was stunned.

What made him suspicious?

The energy spent on track-covering is just exhausting.

[Anonymous]

A tip from my vat of unfortunate lessons learned. If your DH expects back-from-trip-sex (as a tradition), don’t skip it. My saying no, I’m tired, got him thinking (correctly) that something was off with myself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A tip from my vat of unfortunate lessons learned. If your DH expects back-from-trip-sex (as a tradition), don’t skip it. My saying no, I’m tired, got him thinking (correctly) that something was off with myself

Easier still to just be a person of integrity instead of leading a life of deception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:somehow my husband became suspicious. I laughed it off, but omg, I was stunned.

What made him suspicious?

The energy spent on track-covering is just exhausting.

Yep. But a liar is a liar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whether you want to admit it or not, being a dishonest person slowly chips away at your inner core. There'll be a divide between who you say you are and the person you actually are.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A tip from my vat of unfortunate lessons learned. If your DH expects back-from-trip-sex (as a tradition), don’t skip it. My saying no, I’m tired, got him thinking (correctly) that something was off with myself

Easier still to just be a person of integrity instead of leading a life of deception.

This. Deception is a relationship & marriage killer.

Deception, Lies, Dishonor, Fraud. I don't know how some people sleep at night.

[Anonymous]

I've done it many times. You have? to be a good liar, for starters, and you can't have? a conscience. I haven't cheated in this marriage, or even been tempted to. I happen to love my husband, which makes a difference. Cheaters can change, but it has to come from deep inside.