Is it possible to cheat and not get caught?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife cheated on me over five years ago and I still feel horrible. I was shamed and embarrassed -even by the marriage counselor. The focus was on my wife's feelings. If I said something it was just my ego talking and I needed to talk with a therapist because it was silly. I already hated myself, but now more than ever before.

If it wasn't for having a kid, taking my own life would be more of an option than before.

All I ask is that you think about what you are doing. Some people really take marriage seriously and this can be devistaving. They may react better than I do, but it's a possibility they will not. You might have a dead spouse on your hands.

You cannot blame your thoughts of suicide on your cheating spouse. Get some help now. Life is tough, you need to develop mechanisms to help you deal with it.

Totally missed the point. I know that my reaction is extreme and unhealthy. Just realize that you don't know how people will react. There are plenty of others that are more fragile than I am. Just don't cheat. If you have to move on then do so. Just try not to be cruel.

My ex wife and I entered counseling because we were constantly fighting. Every single night was a huge argument. At the time we had three kids under 7, I'd just been made Director at work (which entailed insane hours), and my wife was traveling constantly. I assumed this was just all those resistors coming to head, but, lo and behold, during counseling my wife admitted to sleeping with her ex bf 'a few times.' I never got an honest answer to what that meant and the therapist stated that it was 'irrelevant' for me to know). I was completely blind sided. Literally, my life fell apart in an office in Arlington while I sat on a couch. Surprisingly, my wife wanted to work things out. I agreed to more sessions mostly out of shell shock. In the next two or three sessions the therapist blamed me for my wife's affair. I wasn't as understanding as her bf was about how tough this stage of life is, etc. Like, I wasn't living it too. It was surreal. I couldn't believe this therapist had a license.

Anyway, thats years ago and I don't care anymore. Hang in there buddy. There are decent people out there.

I wasn't allowed to talk poorly about the AP because that hurt my DW's feelings. The fact that she was having an affair with a piece of broke white trash somehow made her poor white trash and I was just saying that because my ego was bruised and I needed to get over it. Finding the right counselor is essential.

It's been five years and you still refer to that AP as a piece of broke white trash?? Your counselor was right, your ego is huge. Would a different "quality" AP be more acceptable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: And use hookup app to find a partner who is in a convenient location - near office for lunch time quickie, or close to hardware store so that you can get off while running errands. No need to wait for a couple times a year, plan well and get all the sex you want..

So, what would the name of such an app be?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: And use hookup app to find a partner who is in a convenient location - near office for lunch time quickie, or close to hardware store so that you can get off while running errands. No need to wait for a couple times a year, plan well and get all the sex you want..

So, what would the name of such an app be?

Tinder, Feeld, Keek, Wild, Grindr, Bumble, Down, CL.... there are tons of them for every demographic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: And use hookup app to find a partner who is in a convenient location - near office for lunch time quickie, or close to hardware store so that you can get off while running errands. No need to wait for a couple times a year, plan well and get all the sex you want..

So, what would the name of such an app be?

Tinder, Feeld, Keek, Wild, Grindr, Bumble, Down, CL.... there are tons of them for every demographic.

Haha. My single friend just got a Bumble match that was one of her friends' husband. She sent me a screenshot.

[Anonymous]

The “nuclear” options in the cheated on husband’s toolbox are 1) have your own affair, and/or 2) divorce. Most of the time the wife has more to lose in a divorce because they fear the financial consequences, custody battle, and what being a single woman at, say, 42, would actually be like. And by that I mean, no, sorry, your AP isn’t going to be asking you to marry him. I availed myself of both options, got in a good frame of mid, met someone else a couple years later, and she and I are happily married. I just want guys to know that yes, it hurts like hell, but a positive way forward is possible..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: And use hookup app to find a partner who is in a convenient location - near office for lunch time quickie, or close to hardware store so that you can get off while running errands. No need to wait for a couple times a year, plan well and get all the sex you want..

So, what would the name of such an app be?

Tinder, Feeld, Keek, Wild, Grindr, Bumble, Down, CL.... there are tons of them for every demographic.

Haha. My single friend just got a Bumble match that was one of her friends' husband. She sent me a screenshot.

Well he’s dumb to use his face in his profile. It’s easy for women; wear sexy bra and panties, and take a mirror selfie like this. You will literally get hundreds of messages a day.

[Anonymous]

Well he’s dumb to use his face in his profile. It’s easy for women; wear sexy bra and panties, and take a mirror selfie like this. You will literally get hundreds of messages a day.

OMG. You told me you were at your mother's house and now I find you taking selfies on this website. <sob>

I thought we were soulmates. <sob> <sob>. Is it because I have a small package?

[Anonymous]

Men are judged on their looks and height, so they will need to send a face shot soon after contact. The blind selfie thing doesn't work for them. Plus, your wife has memorized your body, every inch of it.

[Anonymous]

You look like a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I've had an affair without getting caught. 10/10 would recommend.

I didn't actually care if he caught me, I planned on divorcing him anyway. I'm now in my second marriage and much happier so I won't be cheating on this huaband.

LOL you say that now. Once cheating trash, always cheating trash...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: And use hookup app to find a partner who is in a convenient location - near office for lunch time quickie, or close to hardware store so that you can get off while running errands. No need to wait for a couple times a year, plan well and get all the sex you want..

So, what would the name of such an app be?

Tinder, Feeld, Keek, Wild, Grindr, Bumble, Down, CL.... there are tons of them for every demographic.

Haha. My single friend just got a Bumble match that was one of her friends' husband. She sent me a screenshot.

to match, wouldn't SHE have to approve HIM too??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You look like a man.

Yup, and I don't see any sexy bra and panties

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You look like a man.

Yup, and I don't see any sexy bra and panties

Obviously not me. I’m not dumb enough to post my photo on here.

That’s just an example of how to take a mirror selfie while hiding your face. You should pose sexier - turn to the side and arch your back, or lean forward to show off your breasts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You look like a man.

Yup, and I don't see any sexy bra and panties

Obviously not me. I’m not dumb enough to post my photo on here.

That’s just an example of how to take a mirror selfie while hiding your face. You should pose sexier - turn to the side and arch your back, or lean forward to show off your breasts.

Yeah. As a man I wouldn't respond to that photo, for a variety of reasons.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You look like a man.

Yup, and I don't see any sexy bra and panties

Obviously not me. I’m not dumb enough to post my photo on here.

That’s just an example of how to take a mirror selfie while hiding your face. You should pose sexier - turn to the side and arch your back, or lean forward to show off your breasts.

Yeah. As a man I wouldn't respond to that photo, for a variety of reasons.

Why not? What kind of photo would appeal to you?