Shocked at how little the parents are donating to the holiday bonus for the teachers

[Anonymous]

We always give more and because of it we don’t contribute at all to the pooled gift. Our kids makes a card and an ornament and we slip some cash in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's also assuming everyone only has one child. You do realize that when you ask each family to contribute one hundred dollars per child there are people who have three children or four, don't you?
If your entire budget for christmas is a thousand dollars and someone asks for almost half, you're gonna say no.

Yeah. We have 2 kids in day care. We gave $100 total, which breaks down to $20 per teacher (one kid has 2 teachers and the other has 3). Honestly I had to convince my husband to give that much. We don't give each other gifts, nor give to other family members. Each kid gets 1 or 2 small ($10-20) Hanukkah gifts. That's the extent of our holiday gift-giving. I'm happy to give to the teachers since that is the culture at the school, but I'm not going to do huge amounts on top of the enormous tuition we already pay. Day care tuition for 2 kids is more than our mortgage. Yes, I know the teachers don't see that money directly, but it still leaves me with little in the discretionary fund!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just got the note from daycare suggesting a $70 TOTAL min donation from each family, more if you have multiple children. I think expecting $100 per teacher is way out of line.

I would laugh and throw that in the bin. No donation from me.

+1. I was in charge of one of these end-of-year gift baskets. We asked $10 of each family. Only four or five sent anything. So we retaliated by putting the names of the families who had actually paid on the gift basket (there were 16 or so in the class). OP you are asking too much on top of tuition.

That's really petty. I understand the impulse but that was a terrible thing to do.

[Anonymous]

The employer gives the teacher the bonus. The children’s parents give a gift. I worked as a preschool teacher during my early twenties. I worked for an excellent center that did give teacher’s a small bonus. A really good center is going to do this for their teachers. We also received gifts from parents. Any amount is happily received because of the low pay rate. There was always a parent who would give a card with a check for $100. Other parents gave smaller amounts in the form of gift cards usually. I never judged a parent on the amount they gave because it was all nice , generous and thoughtful. So OP if you want to contribute a lot of money- go for it but it’s not the norm and it’s unfair to judge.

[Anonymous]

I usually give the prime teacher $100 each and the aides $50 each if they were part time. I also give each office staff $25. As such, I only put in $50 into the the school gift fund which may seem low. However, I want to give directly to the teachers so the gifts are not blended with those who don't give.

[Anonymous]

The professor I know makes about $80k, but has three kids and lives in dc. I rhink She can barely pay rent, much less donate $100 to daycare teachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just got the note from daycare suggesting a $70 TOTAL min donation from each family, more if you have multiple children. I think expecting $100 per teacher is way out of line.

I would laugh and throw that in the bin. No donation from me.

+1. I was in charge of one of these end-of-year gift baskets. We asked $10 of each family. Only four or five sent anything. So we retaliated by putting the names of the families who had actually paid on the gift basket (there were 16 or so in the class). OP you are asking too much on top of tuition.

That's really petty. I understand the impulse but that was a terrible thing to do.

Of course the teacher likely recognized exactly what happened. I certainly hope that the families singled out on the card gave their consent to have their names listed. Otherwise pp made them look like a$$holes like her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will start this off by saying that we go to a daycare associated with a university and that most of the parents in the class are either two professor families or are one prof and one working professional families so people are making at least 100K a year.

I am the room parent for my daughter's daycare classroom. All the kids are 2. There are two teachers - one is technically assistant and one is lead but they share the duties pretty equally. I sent an email last night asking for donations for the teacher's holiday gift and a note about the classroom holiday party. The donations I am getting are a joke! Mostly $40 TOTAL. That's $20 per teacher. What??

Last year, in the infant room, we gave each teacher (of which there were 3) $150 each! I had been planning on giving $100 per teacher this year. $20 per teacher just seems insultingly low to me. I am hoping some parents that haven't donated yet are more generous.

Am I way off base in expecting people to be generous to the two people that watch their kid every single day?!

We gave hundreds (and many parents did the same) to our teachers until some enlightened progressive decided to pool and then divide all donations equally among all teachers and all support stuff.

As a result, donations have fallen by 80%. Great, truly progessive results!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will start this off by saying that we go to a daycare associated with a university and that most of the parents in the class are either two professor families or are one prof and one working professional families so people are making at least 100K a year.

I am the room parent for my daughter's daycare classroom. All the kids are 2. There are two teachers - one is technically assistant and one is lead but they share the duties pretty equally. I sent an email last night asking for donations for the teacher's holiday gift and a note about the classroom holiday party. The donations I am getting are a joke! Mostly $40 TOTAL. That's $20 per teacher. What??

Last year, in the infant room, we gave each teacher (of which there were 3) $150 each! I had been planning on giving $100 per teacher this year. $20 per teacher just seems insultingly low to me. I am hoping some parents that haven't donated yet are more generous.

Am I way off base in expecting people to be generous to the two people that watch their kid every single day?!

We gave hundreds (and many parents did the same) to our teachers until some enlightened progressive decided to pool and then divide all donations equally among all teachers and all support stuff.

As a result, donations have fallen by 80%. Great, truly progessive results!

I think it's SO MUCH better. It's not about the amount of the gift, it's about the fact that it's a shared gift. A lot of money coming from a privileged few is sickening and creates the potential for unfair treatment.
How pathetic that you don't understand that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just got the note from daycare suggesting a $70 TOTAL min donation from each family, more if you have multiple children. I think expecting $100 per teacher is way out of line.

I would laugh and throw that in the bin. No donation from me.

The ones being obnoxious are the people asking (expecting!) these amounts. The teachers shouldn't be punished because someone else is being presumptuous and rude.

FWIW, I donated between $10-20 per teacher for these class gifts. If that gave someone like Op the vapors, oh well. Thankfully, the teachers seemed pretty darned happy darned happy with our group gift card to their favorite shopping place and they remained blissfully unaware that some of the families had not contributed money towards their gift.

Op - I think that your intentions are good. I think that you sincerely appreciate these teachers and want to give them something special. But you can not make assumptions about how much other families can afford (or want) to give.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will start this off by saying that we go to a daycare associated with a university and that most of the parents in the class are either two professor families or are one prof and one working professional families so people are making at least 100K a year.

I am the room parent for my daughter's daycare classroom. All the kids are 2. There are two teachers - one is technically assistant and one is lead but they share the duties pretty equally. I sent an email last night asking for donations for the teacher's holiday gift and a note about the classroom holiday party. The donations I am getting are a joke! Mostly $40 TOTAL. That's $20 per teacher. What??

Last year, in the infant room, we gave each teacher (of which there were 3) $150 each! I had been planning on giving $100 per teacher this year. $20 per teacher just seems insultingly low to me. I am hoping some parents that haven't donated yet are more generous.

Am I way off base in expecting people to be generous to the two people that watch their kid every single day?!

We gave hundreds (and many parents did the same) to our teachers until some enlightened progressive decided to pool and then divide all donations equally among all teachers and all support stuff.

As a result, donations have fallen by 80%. Great, truly progessive results!

I think it's SO MUCH better. It's not about the amount of the gift, it's about the fact that it's a shared gift. A lot of money coming from a privileged few is sickening and creates the potential for unfair treatment.
How pathetic that you don't understand that.

Families are allowed to give their own gifts to teachers. The group gift is merely a convenience but it is not mandatory to contribute to it. If you prefer not to pitch in to the group gift and you want to show your appreciation some other way, nothing is stopping you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will start this off by saying that we go to a daycare associated with a university and that most of the parents in the class are either two professor families or are one prof and one working professional families so people are making at least 100K a year.

I am the room parent for my daughter's daycare classroom. All the kids are 2. There are two teachers - one is technically assistant and one is lead but they share the duties pretty equally. I sent an email last night asking for donations for the teacher's holiday gift and a note about the classroom holiday party. The donations I am getting are a joke! Mostly $40 TOTAL. That's $20 per teacher. What??

Last year, in the infant room, we gave each teacher (of which there were 3) $150 each! I had been planning on giving $100 per teacher this year. $20 per teacher just seems insultingly low to me. I am hoping some parents that haven't donated yet are more generous.

Am I way off base in expecting people to be generous to the two people that watch their kid every single day?!

We gave hundreds (and many parents did the same) to our teachers until some enlightened progressive decided to pool and then divide all donations equally among all teachers and all support stuff.

As a result, donations have fallen by 80%. Great, truly progessive results!

I think it's SO MUCH better. It's not about the amount of the gift, it's about the fact that it's a shared gift. A lot of money coming from a privileged few is sickening and creates the potential for unfair treatment.
How pathetic that you don't understand that.

Hey commie,

Perhaps it's your life that's pathetic -- ever thought why the USSR fell? Why don't you move to North Korea?

Stop preaching BS please. May sound great, but simply doesn't work.

And on the process you destroyed the nice Christmas bonus for many teachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will start this off by saying that we go to a daycare associated with a university and that most of the parents in the class are either two professor families or are one prof and one working professional families so people are making at least 100K a year.

I am the room parent for my daughter's daycare classroom. All the kids are 2. There are two teachers - one is technically assistant and one is lead but they share the duties pretty equally. I sent an email last night asking for donations for the teacher's holiday gift and a note about the classroom holiday party. The donations I am getting are a joke! Mostly $40 TOTAL. That's $20 per teacher. What??

Last year, in the infant room, we gave each teacher (of which there were 3) $150 each! I had been planning on giving $100 per teacher this year. $20 per teacher just seems insultingly low to me. I am hoping some parents that haven't donated yet are more generous.

Am I way off base in expecting people to be generous to the two people that watch their kid every single day?!

We gave hundreds (and many parents did the same) to our teachers until some enlightened progressive decided to pool and then divide all donations equally among all teachers and all support stuff.

As a result, donations have fallen by 80%. Great, truly progessive results!

I think it's SO MUCH better. It's not about the amount of the gift, it's about the fact that it's a shared gift. A lot of money coming from a privileged few is sickening and creates the potential for unfair treatment.
How pathetic that you don't understand that.

Families are allowed to give their own gifts to teachers. The group gift is merely a convenience but it is not mandatory to contribute to it. If you prefer not to pitch in to the group gift and you want to show your appreciation some other way, nothing is stopping you.

Not in our case. It was explicitly said that all money shoukd be given to the common fund, nothing to teachers directly.

Brilliant, I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will start this off by saying that we go to a daycare associated with a university and that most of the parents in the class are either two professor families or are one prof and one working professional families so people are making at least 100K a year.

I am the room parent for my daughter's daycare classroom. All the kids are 2. There are two teachers - one is technically assistant and one is lead but they share the duties pretty equally. I sent an email last night asking for donations for the teacher's holiday gift and a note about the classroom holiday party. The donations I am getting are a joke! Mostly $40 TOTAL. That's $20 per teacher. What??

Last year, in the infant room, we gave each teacher (of which there were 3) $150 each! I had been planning on giving $100 per teacher this year. $20 per teacher just seems insultingly low to me. I am hoping some parents that haven't donated yet are more generous.

Am I way off base in expecting people to be generous to the two people that watch their kid every single day?!

We gave hundreds (and many parents did the same) to our teachers until some enlightened progressive decided to pool and then divide all donations equally among all teachers and all support stuff.

As a result, donations have fallen by 80%. Great, truly progessive results!

I think it's SO MUCH better. It's not about the amount of the gift, it's about the fact that it's a shared gift. A lot of money coming from a privileged few is sickening and creates the potential for unfair treatment.
How pathetic that you don't understand that.

Hey commie,

Perhaps it's your life that's pathetic -- ever thought why the USSR fell? Why don't you move to North Korea?

Stop preaching BS please. May sound great, but simply doesn't work.

And on the process you destroyed the nice Christmas bonus for many teachers.

First poster is crazy. Many private schools have one gift fund so money also goes to teachers beyond the home room teachers. It could not be further from being “commie”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will start this off by saying that we go to a daycare associated with a university and that most of the parents in the class are either two professor families or are one prof and one working professional families so people are making at least 100K a year.

I am the room parent for my daughter's daycare classroom. All the kids are 2. There are two teachers - one is technically assistant and one is lead but they share the duties pretty equally. I sent an email last night asking for donations for the teacher's holiday gift and a note about the classroom holiday party. The donations I am getting are a joke! Mostly $40 TOTAL. That's $20 per teacher. What??

Last year, in the infant room, we gave each teacher (of which there were 3) $150 each! I had been planning on giving $100 per teacher this year. $20 per teacher just seems insultingly low to me. I am hoping some parents that haven't donated yet are more generous.

Am I way off base in expecting people to be generous to the two people that watch their kid every single day?!

We gave hundreds (and many parents did the same) to our teachers until some enlightened progressive decided to pool and then divide all donations equally among all teachers and all support stuff.

As a result, donations have fallen by 80%. Great, truly progessive results!

I think it's SO MUCH better. It's not about the amount of the gift, it's about the fact that it's a shared gift. A lot of money coming from a privileged few is sickening and creates the potential for unfair treatment.
How pathetic that you don't understand that.

Families are allowed to give their own gifts to teachers. The group gift is merely a convenience but it is not mandatory to contribute to it. If you prefer not to pitch in to the group gift and you want to show your appreciation some other way, nothing is stopping you.

Not in our case. It was explicitly said that all money shoukd be given to the common fund, nothing to teachers directly.

Brilliant, I know.

Disturbing that this bothers you,