Shocked at how little the parents are donating to the holiday bonus for the teachers

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Anonymous wrote:I will start this off by saying that we go to a daycare associated with a university and that most of the parents in the class are either two professor families or are one prof and one working professional families so people are making at least 100K a year.

I am the room parent for my daughter's daycare classroom. All the kids are 2. There are two teachers - one is technically assistant and one is lead but they share the duties pretty equally. I sent an email last night asking for donations for the teacher's holiday gift and a note about the classroom holiday party. The donations I am getting are a joke! Mostly $40 TOTAL. That's $20 per teacher. What??

Last year, in the infant room, we gave each teacher (of which there were 3) $150 each! I had been planning on giving $100 per teacher this year. $20 per teacher just seems insultingly low to me. I am hoping some parents that haven't donated yet are more generous.

Am I way off base in expecting people to be generous to the two people that watch their kid every single day?!

We gave hundreds (and many parents did the same) to our teachers until some enlightened progressive decided to pool and then divide all donations equally among all teachers and all support stuff.

As a result, donations have fallen by 80%. Great, truly progessive results!

I think it's SO MUCH better. It's not about the amount of the gift, it's about the fact that it's a shared gift. A lot of money coming from a privileged few is sickening and creates the potential for unfair treatment.
How pathetic that you don't understand that.

Families are allowed to give their own gifts to teachers. The group gift is merely a convenience but it is not mandatory to contribute to it. If you prefer not to pitch in to the group gift and you want to show your appreciation some other way, nothing is stopping you.

Not in our case. It was explicitly said that all money shoukd be given to the common fund, nothing to teachers directly.

Brilliant, I know.

I might switch schools over that. Whoever is worried about a preschool teacher giving a rich preschooler favoritism because of a parent gift is nutty, off their rocker in big time way.

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Anonymous wrote:I will start this off by saying that we go to a daycare associated with a university and that most of the parents in the class are either two professor families or are one prof and one working professional families so people are making at least 100K a year.

I am the room parent for my daughter's daycare classroom. All the kids are 2. There are two teachers - one is technically assistant and one is lead but they share the duties pretty equally. I sent an email last night asking for donations for the teacher's holiday gift and a note about the classroom holiday party. The donations I am getting are a joke! Mostly $40 TOTAL. That's $20 per teacher. What??

Last year, in the infant room, we gave each teacher (of which there were 3) $150 each! I had been planning on giving $100 per teacher this year. $20 per teacher just seems insultingly low to me. I am hoping some parents that haven't donated yet are more generous.

Am I way off base in expecting people to be generous to the two people that watch their kid every single day?!

We gave hundreds (and many parents did the same) to our teachers until some enlightened progressive decided to pool and then divide all donations equally among all teachers and all support stuff.

As a result, donations have fallen by 80%. Great, truly progessive results!

I think it's SO MUCH better. It's not about the amount of the gift, it's about the fact that it's a shared gift. A lot of money coming from a privileged few is sickening and creates the potential for unfair treatment.
How pathetic that you don't understand that.

Families are allowed to give their own gifts to teachers. The group gift is merely a convenience but it is not mandatory to contribute to it. If you prefer not to pitch in to the group gift and you want to show your appreciation some other way, nothing is stopping you.

Not in our case. It was explicitly said that all money shoukd be given to the common fund, nothing to teachers directly.

Brilliant, I know.

Disturbing that this bothers you,

It does bother me because I know many teachers who have been shocked and pained by the significant drop in their usual bonus.

Do you actually care about your kids' teachers?

Doesn't sound like you do. What you truly seem to care is about the latest fad of the week half-baked idea.

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Screw you, entitled whiners. You are firmly in the "not tip worthy" category.

Mr. Pink

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Anonymous wrote:Screw you, entitled whiners. You are firmly in the "not tip worthy" category.

Mr. Pink

+ a million.

I'd be much more concerned about the parents than about the teachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We always give more and because of it we don’t contribute at all to the pooled gift. Our kids makes a card and an ornament and we slip some cash in there.

That's too bad because the staff at your daycare deserves a holiday bonus, too.

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Anonymous wrote:We always give more and because of it we don’t contribute at all to the pooled gift. Our kids makes a card and an ornament and we slip some cash in there.

That's too bad because the staff at your daycare deserves a holiday bonus, too.

Since when did they start calling optional teacher gifts, "holiday bonuses". That is so obnoxious. If the school wants to give their teachers bonuses - let the school do that.

But parents give holiday thank you gifts to their children's teachers. They are thank you gifts - not holiday bonuses!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, are people giving so little that your TOTAL pot is $40? That's pretty sad.

Me too. If that's the whole total, it's pitiful. Maybe if you worded it with a suggested amount, say $10 per teacher?

[Anonymous]

I give gift cards directly despite there being a pool. It feels more personal that way to me (and I don't even like giving gift cards but understand that is better than 'things' they may not want).

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Anonymous wrote:I will start this off by saying that we go to a daycare associated with a university and that most of the parents in the class are either two professor families or are one prof and one working professional families so people are making at least 100K a year.

I am the room parent for my daughter's daycare classroom. All the kids are 2. There are two teachers - one is technically assistant and one is lead but they share the duties pretty equally. I sent an email last night asking for donations for the teacher's holiday gift and a note about the classroom holiday party. The donations I am getting are a joke! Mostly $40 TOTAL. That's $20 per teacher. What??

Last year, in the infant room, we gave each teacher (of which there were 3) $150 each! I had been planning on giving $100 per teacher this year. $20 per teacher just seems insultingly low to me. I am hoping some parents that haven't donated yet are more generous.

Am I way off base in expecting people to be generous to the two people that watch their kid every single day?!

We gave hundreds (and many parents did the same) to our teachers until some enlightened progressive decided to pool and then divide all donations equally among all teachers and all support stuff.

As a result, donations have fallen by 80%. Great, truly progessive results!

I think it's SO MUCH better. It's not about the amount of the gift, it's about the fact that it's a shared gift. A lot of money coming from a privileged few is sickening and creates the potential for unfair treatment.
How pathetic that you don't understand that.

Hey commie,

Perhaps it's your life that's pathetic -- ever thought why the USSR fell? Why don't you move to North Korea?

Stop preaching BS please. May sound great, but simply doesn't work.

And on the process you destroyed the nice Christmas bonus for many teachers.

+100

Not sure why the pro- communal gift pool poster is so quick to be condescending and hostile. Perhaps she had the same brilliant idea at her kids school.

People should be able to give to who they want. This is a preschool, not the f*cking Federal government.

[Anonymous]

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Hey commie,

Perhaps it's your life that's pathetic -- ever thought why the USSR fell? Why don't you move to North Korea?

Stop preaching BS please. May sound great, but simply doesn't work.

And on the process you destroyed the nice Christmas bonus for many teachers.

wtf

[Anonymous]

We try to give the 7 teachers $100 each. Two thirds participate and when the total number of families is set, we find out how much each family pays. It’s been around $45 every time. We do it/pool for Teachers Day too.

[Anonymous]

Wow, never expected to find "commie" being hurled about as an insult in a thread about gifts (NOT HOLIDAY BONUSES) for daycare teachers.

My kid attends a university daycare. I'm an older PhD student; on more than one occasion I've been mistaken for a prof. We're scrapping by on my husband's salary (not 6 figures) and my grad student stipend. Money is tight.

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I give $20 total to the teacher gift fund. If you want to do more, go for it.

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Anonymous wrote:I just got the note from daycare suggesting a $70 TOTAL min donation from each family, more if you have multiple children. I think expecting $100 per teacher is way out of line.

I would laugh and throw that in the bin. No donation from me.

+1. I was in charge of one of these end-of-year gift baskets. We asked $10 of each family. Only four or five sent
anything. So we retaliated by putting the names of the families who had actually paid on the gift basket (there were 16 or so in the class). OP you are asking too much on top of tuition.

That's really petty. I understand the impulse but that was a terrible thing to do.

Were you one of the parents who didn't give . No, I don't blame the room mother at all. I know how hard she worked to try and get the 15-16 parents to send in ANYTHING. She emailed them, cajoled them, reminded them. Nothing. It was the same with the school auction. We couldn't get 100% of the room's parents to contribute even $1 so we could make 100%. I don't blame the room mother at all for doing it. Seriously only four families out of 15-16 contributed. I would have done the same. She wasted so much time on the project.

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Are you all sure that the parents gave nothing? Echoing PP, I give gift cards directly and do not donate to the pool. Personal preference.