Is it wrong that I find the idea of a 12 year old girl coming out as bisexual to be unsettling?

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Anonymous wrote:Really OP, why would this bother you in the slightest? Not your child. Keep your homophobic thoughts to yourself. It is 2017 and there is a spectrum of feelings/love for everyone.

Yes, well, many of them are inappropriate, especially for kids. I love my cat, too. Do you want to go there?

It must be really sad to have that much hate and self-loafing in your heart, to feel that you must belittle and judge a child that is not even yours, who has done absolutely nothing wrong, on an anonymous forum.

Who is belittling and judging? Only you.

Truth hurts PP. You need to get some help.

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Anonymous wrote:Who did you have crushes on at 12 OP? I think if you have crushes on both, it's easy to tell that you are bi. I am straight and only have had crushes on boys. I was certainly "in love"'with celebrity boys back then. Hello Tom Cruise and Ricky Schroeder. I didn't want to have sex with them. It's age appropriate.

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Do you think that 12-year-olds are too young to know that they are straight?

It's possible that this particular 12-year-old is wrong. A lot of girls have same-sex crushes at this age, and aren't actually lesbian or bi. But it's equally possible that she already recognizes that she is attracted to both men and women, just as it's possible for a 12-year-old to realize that she is only attracted to men or only attracted to women.

Can you even begin to comprehend the absurdity of this statement?

If you think that it's possible for a 12-year-old girl to know that she is attracted to members of the opposite sex, then it's possible for her to know that she's attracted to both members of the opposite sex and her own sex. I suppose you can believe that girls that age can't possibly know that they are straight, but most people don't think that. Kids that age have crushes and are attracted to others.

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Anonymous wrote:Really OP, why would this bother you in the slightest? Not your child. Keep your homophobic thoughts to yourself. It is 2017 and there is a spectrum of feelings/love for everyone.

Yes, well, many of them are inappropriate, especially for kids. I love my cat, too. Do you want to go there?

It must be really sad to have that much hate and self-loafing in your heart, to feel that you must belittle and judge a child that is not even yours, who has done absolutely nothing wrong, on an anonymous forum.

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It is so sad to read this bigot adult judge an innocent child who has no idea someone is even posting about her. I am sure this poster comes across as this pleasant "I love everyone and God" human in person. But whoa, here and behind closed doors? Brutal.

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Several of my lesbian friends came out as bi first, all while knowing they were not attracted to boys/men. They say it was easier to test the waters that way...to see how much acceptance they get. If they faced rejection, especially with family members, they could always save face, "choose a man" after all. If they're bi they haven't made a concrete official declaration that they're only attracted to women.

It's a lot of mental gymnastics, but these are young teens and it's not black and white. And it isn't set in stone. They're figuring things out.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if this is a fad. It seems like everyone at my kids school say they are bisexual.

Comments like this are why it took me until I was 22 to come out. I was constantly worried that I only found girls attractive because 'it's a fad' or 'for attention'---and I graduated HS in '06.

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Anonymous wrote:18 is the right after before that it's not legal

False, actually. It's never illegal to like someone/have a crush. And in most states it is possible for teenagers within a few years of each other's age to act on mutual liking and have a sexually intimate relationship. Your post is very strange.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if this is a fad. It seems like everyone at my kids school say they are bisexual.

I teach HS and the big thing here is saying that you are "pan-sexual." Really? Can't we just keep the terminology as hetero, homo, and bi to make it easier for us old fuddy-duddies?

We old fuddy-duddies have to keep up, just like everybody else. Fortunately there's the Internet these days, for when we have questions.

Mmm-hmmm. And even with all of the info out there, I fail to see the true difference between pan-sexual and bi-sexual. Ultimately, you can like both males and females in a sexual sense.

"Bisexual" works if you believe that

1. sex and gender are synonyms
2. there are only two sexes/genders

Otherwise it doesn't.

I'm an old bag and I'm familiar with the current terminology, so I'm sure that you can learn too.

Exactly. I do believe that sex (male or female) and gender (male or female) are the same thing. And I believe in only male or female or a combination of the two. I don't believe there in a third gender/sex. I understand that kids want to make up a new term... but I admit that it does make me roll my eyes.

[Anonymous]

I'm a PP who came out as bi at thirteen. It wasn't trendy, or cool, and in fact it was pretty difficult for me to come to terms with. I thought I "should" be straight or a lesbian too. But my bisexuality has held and, despite the change in landscape (I'm in my early thirties), bisexuality is a valid sexual orientation - and yes, it's possible to know at twelve!

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Anonymous wrote:Really OP, why would this bother you in the slightest? Not your child. Keep your homophobic thoughts to yourself. It is 2017 and there is a spectrum of feelings/love for everyone.

Yes, well, many of them are inappropriate, especially for kids. I love my cat, too. Do you want to go there?

It must be really sad to have that much hate and self-loafing in your heart, to feel that you must belittle and judge a child that is not even yours, who has done absolutely nothing wrong, on an anonymous forum.

Who is belittling and judging? Only you.

Truth hurts PP. You need to get some help.

Perhaps another thread, but let's start a composition of words/ lines that liberals use when they know the facts are not on their side:

"You need to get some help."
"Bigot"
"Hateful"
"Judgmental"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Really OP, why would this bother you in the slightest? Not your child. Keep your homophobic thoughts to yourself. It is 2017 and there is a spectrum of feelings/love for everyone.

Yes, well, many of them are inappropriate, especially for kids. I love my cat, too. Do you want to go there?

It must be really sad to have that much hate and self-loafing in your heart, to feel that you must belittle and judge a child that is not even yours, who has done absolutely nothing wrong, on an anonymous forum.

+1

It is so sad to read this bigot adult judge an innocent child who has no idea someone is even posting about her. I am sure this poster comes across as this pleasant "I love everyone and God" human in person. But whoa, here and behind closed doors? Brutal.

What is really sad is that there adults, presumably, who are willing to enable vulnerable kids to get mixed up in this nonsense that could truly harm them emotionally and psychologically, for quite some time.

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LOL, my friends middle schooler came out as pansexual. Whatever in the hell that is.

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My daughter's friend also came out as Pan sexual in 8th grade. Who cares? Live and let live? Teens are just trying to figure out who they are and sort out identity issues. Not everything can be tied in a neat bow.

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And my daughter's BFF cornered her during a sleepover and said "let's give it a try, I really like you." My daughter is no longer friends with this girl, my daughter's choice. It is not normal for a lot of girls, but they are certainly being pressured into it by other girls. I wonder, is this considered sexual harassment? If a boy did this to my daughter it certainly would be….

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter's friend also came out as Pan sexual in 8th grade. Who cares? Live and let live? Teens are just trying to figure out who they are and sort out identity issues. Not everything can be tied in a neat bow.

And the schools are certainly assisting with making sure our kids, at a very young age, know ALL of there options. Great job, libs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 12 year old daughter told me about a girl her age who came out as bisexual at school today. I should mention that this girl happens to have a boyfriend. If this girl had come out as a Lesbian I wouldn't have a problem, but something about a 12 year old with a boyfriend feeling the need to publicly declare herself as bisexual seems wrong to me.

Op, I am with you. Too young for this type of experimentation. It seems as though a lot of frustrated women who didn't experiment in their lives and now regret it, are guiding this thought process. What a shame, I wish they would just let these kids be kids. Can't put the toothpaste back in the tube now, so sad.