Is it wrong that I find the idea of a 12 year old girl coming out as bisexual to be unsettling?

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if this is a fad. It seems like everyone at my kids school say they are bisexual.

I teach HS and the big thing here is saying that you are "pan-sexual." Really? Can't we just keep the terminology as hetero, homo, and bi to make it easier for us old fuddy-duddies?

We old fuddy-duddies have to keep up, just like everybody else. Fortunately there's the Internet these days, for when we have questions.

Mmm-hmmm. And even with all of the info out there, I fail to see the true difference between pan-sexual and bi-sexual. Ultimately, you can like both males and females in a sexual sense.

"Bisexual" works if you believe that

1. sex and gender are synonyms
2. there are only two sexes/genders

Otherwise it doesn't.

I'm an old bag and I'm familiar with the current terminology, so I'm sure that you can learn too.

I think bisexual works without the two assumptions listed above and it is distinct from pansexual.

Bisexual - likes people of 2 or more genders (but not necessarily any gender)

Pansexual - likes people of any gender (and/or without regard to gender)

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Why do adults even care? OP, why does this bother you and why do you keep retorting over and over again with hate about a child. It is disturbing. Please get a life.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do adults even care? OP, why does this bother you and why do you keep retorting over and over again with hate about a child. It is disturbing. Please get a life.

Adults -- some adults -- are actually concerned about the well-being - emotional, psychological, physical - of children. I realize that is a foreign concept to you, which is infinitely more "disturbing," to use another favorite liberal word.

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Anonymous wrote:My 12 year old daughter told me about a girl her age who came out as bisexual at school today. I should mention that this girl happens to have a boyfriend. If this girl had come out as a Lesbian I wouldn't have a problem, but something about a 12 year old with a boyfriend feeling the need to publicly declare herself as bisexual seems wrong to me.

Op, I am with you. Too young for this type of experimentation. It seems as though a lot of frustrated women who didn't experiment in their lives and now regret it, are guiding this thought process. What a shame, I wish they would just let these kids be kids. Can't put the toothpaste back in the tube now, so sad.

Experimentation? What's she experimenting with? I thought Scott Baio was pretty cute when I was 12. I (a girl) didn't have a poster in my locker, but my friend (a girl) did. Were we experimenting, and if so, what were we experimenting with?

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Anonymous wrote:My 12 year old daughter told me about a girl her age who came out as bisexual at school today. I should mention that this girl happens to have a boyfriend. If this girl had come out as a Lesbian I wouldn't have a problem, but something about a 12 year old with a boyfriend feeling the need to publicly declare herself as bisexual seems wrong to me.

Op, I am with you. Too young for this type of experimentation. It seems as though a lot of frustrated women who didn't experiment in their lives and now regret it, are guiding this thought process. What a shame, I wish they would just let these kids be kids. Can't put the toothpaste back in the tube now, so sad.

Experimentation? What's she experimenting with? I thought Scott Baio was pretty cute when I was 12. I (a girl) didn't have a poster in my locker, but my friend (a girl) did. Were we experimenting, and if so, what were we experimenting with?

NP. Primarily, various identities. If you know anything about middle schoolers (which I question in the case of many of these posters), you know that they are vulnerable, insecure and wildly (over) confident - often at the same time. They are suddenly and keenly aware of the various roads that lie ahead of them, and the many paths that they can follow. One day they can shock - shock - their parents for fun; the next day, they want to curl up with you on the couch. One week they "identify with" the smart kids, the next week its the jocks.

All of this is normal and healthy. What is not is perverse, sick adults who insist on making this normal curiosity about sexuality, and giving them the OK to "try out" paths that will ultimately lead them to despair and misery.

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Anonymous wrote:My 12 year old daughter told me about a girl her age who came out as bisexual at school today. I should mention that this girl happens to have a boyfriend. If this girl had come out as a Lesbian I wouldn't have a problem, but something about a 12 year old with a boyfriend feeling the need to publicly declare herself as bisexual seems wrong to me.

Op, I am with you. Too young for this type of experimentation. It seems as though a lot of frustrated women who didn't experiment in their lives and now regret it, are guiding this thought process. What a shame, I wish they would just let these kids be kids. Can't put the toothpaste back in the tube now, so sad.

Experimentation? What's she experimenting with? I thought Scott Baio was pretty cute when I was 12. I (a girl) didn't have a poster in my locker, but my friend (a girl) did. Were we experimenting, and if so, what were we experimenting with?

NP. Primarily, various identities. If you know anything about middle schoolers (which I question in the case of many of these posters), you know that they are vulnerable, insecure and wildly (over) confident - often at the same time. They are suddenly and keenly aware of the various roads that lie ahead of them, and the many paths that they can follow. One day they can shock - shock - their parents for fun; the next day, they want to curl up with you on the couch. One week they "identify with" the smart kids, the next week its the jocks.

All of this is normal and healthy. What is not is perverse, sick adults who insist on making this normal curiosity about sexuality, and giving them the OK to "try out" paths that will ultimately lead them to despair and misery.

I think you mean sick adults who try to foist their crazy, warped religious morality (which, in my experience is the thing that leads to despair and misery) on perfectly normal kids. Keep your craziness to yourself lady. We're all doing fine without it.

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Anonymous wrote:My 12 year old daughter told me about a girl her age who came out as bisexual at school today. I should mention that this girl happens to have a boyfriend. If this girl had come out as a Lesbian I wouldn't have a problem, but something about a 12 year old with a boyfriend feeling the need to publicly declare herself as bisexual seems wrong to me.

Op, I am with you. Too young for this type of experimentation. It seems as though a lot of frustrated women who didn't experiment in their lives and now regret it, are guiding this thought process. What a shame, I wish they would just let these kids be kids. Can't put the toothpaste back in the tube now, so sad.

Experimentation? What's she experimenting with? I thought Scott Baio was pretty cute when I was 12. I (a girl) didn't have a poster in my locker, but my friend (a girl) did. Were we experimenting, and if so, what were we experimenting with?

NP. Primarily, various identities. If you know anything about middle schoolers (which I question in the case of many of these posters), you know that they are vulnerable, insecure and wildly (over) confident - often at the same time. They are suddenly and keenly aware of the various roads that lie ahead of them, and the many paths that they can follow. One day they can shock - shock - their parents for fun; the next day, they want to curl up with you on the couch. One week they "identify with" the smart kids, the next week its the jocks.

All of this is normal and healthy. What is not is perverse, sick adults who insist on making this normal curiosity about sexuality, and giving them the OK to "try out" paths that will ultimately lead them to despair and misery.

I think you mean sick adults who try to foist their crazy, warped religious morality (which, in my experience is the thing that leads to despair and misery) on perfectly normal kids. Keep your craziness to yourself lady. We're all doing fine without it.

Your experience, though sad is not at all universal. Thankfully.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if this is a fad. It seems like everyone at my kids school say they are bisexual.

Hmm, I am 43 and I am pretty sure everyone of my friends in high school and college at least made out with a girl once, if not did more. Guess the fad has never died.

I'm your age and neither I nor any of the girls I knew were making out with other girls. And no, I am not from a religious background.

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At my kid's middle school many kids say they are asexual or that they are bisexual and aromantic.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do adults even care? OP, why does this bother you and why do you keep retorting over and over again with hate about a child. It is disturbing. Please get a life.

OP here and this is my only other post than the first.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do adults even care? OP, why does this bother you and why do you keep retorting over and over again with hate about a child. It is disturbing. Please get a life.

OP here and this is my only other post than the first.

OK, OP, so -- any thoughts on specifically WHY you found this unsettling?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do adults even care? OP, why does this bother you and why do you keep retorting over and over again with hate about a child. It is disturbing. Please get a life.

OP here and this is my only other post than the first.

OK, OP, so -- any thoughts on specifically WHY you found this unsettling?

That you even have to ask a question like that says more (negative) about you, than op.

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My 13 year old is worried that he is aromantic because he hasn't had a crush on anyone yet. Sometimes I think that there is too much labeling.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do adults even care? OP, why does this bother you and why do you keep retorting over and over again with hate about a child. It is disturbing. Please get a life.

OP here and this is my only other post than the first.

OK, OP, so -- any thoughts on specifically WHY you found this unsettling?

That you even have to ask a question like that says more (negative) about you, than op.

That's ridiculous. Even if I also found it unsettling (which actually I don't), there's no way to know whether my reasons were the same as OP's reasons -- or your reasons.

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Anonymous wrote:My 13 year old is worried that he is aromantic because he hasn't had a crush on anyone yet. Sometimes I think that there is too much labeling.

Tell him he's only aromatic when he doesn't use his deo.