Is it wrong that I find the idea of a 12 year old girl coming out as bisexual to be unsettling?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel some of this is a cry for attention.

If she declared she was straight you wouldn't think so. This is a valid orientation.

No, actually, for a 12 year old, it is not.

NP. Yes, actually, it is. So where are we?

[Anonymous]

Is it disturbing that my 11 year old DD said yesterday, "I don't want a boyfriend or anything, but I like boys"?

[Anonymous]

The way I look at it is 12 yo's say a lot of things that may or may not hold. What I mean is, at 12, you are still discovering yourself.

Declaring yourself bi could be because she has a crush on a girl, or she could just like girls, but have the bf because of societal norms.

Or, she could be bi.

A bigger question is why do you care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it wrong that you feel this way? No, your feelings are your feelings.

You might do some thinking about why you feel this way, though.

Because op is sane and has a modicum of concern for the mental health and well being of this child? I bet that's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it wrong that you feel this way? No, your feelings are your feelings.

You might do some thinking about why you feel this way, though.

Because op is sane and has a modicum of concern for the mental health and well being of this child? I bet that's it.

Or she is a judgmental homophobe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it wrong that you feel this way? No, your feelings are your feelings.

You might do some thinking about why you feel this way, though.

Because op is sane and has a modicum of concern for the mental health and well being of this child? I bet that's it.

Or she is a judgmental homophobe.

NP. Judgmental between right and wrong? Absolutely, any day of the week. And the name-calling is cute.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if this is a fad. It seems like everyone at my kids school say they are bisexual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if this is a fad. It seems like everyone at my kids school say they are bisexual.

Gee. Ya think?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it wrong that you feel this way? No, your feelings are your feelings.

You might do some thinking about why you feel this way, though.

Because op is sane and has a modicum of concern for the mental health and well being of this child? I bet that's it.

Or she is a judgmental homophobe.

Oh FFS. This isn't a college student, it's a young girl. Yes, I think a preteen qualifies as young, certainly too young to be making announcements about her sexuality. For one thing, why does she think everyone needs to know?

Oh, right, because it's National Coming Out Day. From many of the other threads here, it seems what we really need is a National Coming Day for adults. Orgasms for all, with the gender of one's preference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if this is a fad. It seems like everyone at my kids school say they are bisexual.

OK, so it's a fad. Like Converse sneakers, or stuffed animal backpack clips, or fidget spinners. Is OP unsettled by those too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it wrong that you feel this way? No, your feelings are your feelings.

You might do some thinking about why you feel this way, though.

Because op is sane and has a modicum of concern for the mental health and well being of this child? I bet that's it.

Or she is a judgmental homophobe.

NP. Judgmental between right and wrong? Absolutely, any day of the week. And the name-calling is cute.

And you proved my point. You think a tween comming out and saying she is bi is wrong. I think it is probably premature, as often we are still discovering our sexuality at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it wrong that you feel this way? No, your feelings are your feelings.

You might do some thinking about why you feel this way, though.

Because op is sane and has a modicum of concern for the mental health and well being of this child? I bet that's it.

Or she is a judgmental homophobe.

NP. Judgmental between right and wrong? Absolutely, any day of the week. And the name-calling is cute.

And you proved my point. You think a tween comming out and saying she is bi is wrong. I think it is probably premature, as often we are still discovering our sexuality at that age.

Yes, I do think it's wrong. Frankly, I think it's wrong for anyone.

[Anonymous]

I take the stance that 95% of people know exactly what their sexuality is by 12. There really is no confusion - or they are just in denial and lying to themselves while secretly knowing the entire time.

I don't pay much attention to youths and young teens claiming to be bi. I believe there are so few genuinely bi people, they do exist, but not in great numbers. Kids are very susceptible to fads and what's cool and fitting in with their desired crowd and will say things to make them fit in. And being "bi" is cool these days, anything but the conformist ordinariness of straight people. The girl is likely lying to herself and to others, just like teens and middle schoolers always do.

Just smile, say that's nice dear, and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it wrong that you feel this way? No, your feelings are your feelings.

You might do some thinking about why you feel this way, though.

Because op is sane and has a modicum of concern for the mental health and well being of this child? I bet that's it.

Or she is a judgmental homophobe.

NP. Judgmental between right and wrong? Absolutely, any day of the week. And the name-calling is cute.

And you proved my point. You think a tween comming out and saying she is bi is wrong. I think it is probably premature, as often we are still discovering our sexuality at that age.

Yes, I do think it's wrong. Frankly, I think it's wrong for anyone.

Oh, Granny. Starched your knickers too tight again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it wrong that you feel this way? No, your feelings are your feelings.

You might do some thinking about why you feel this way, though.

Because op is sane and has a modicum of concern for the mental health and well being of this child? I bet that's it.

Or she is a judgmental homophobe.

NP. Judgmental between right and wrong? Absolutely, any day of the week. And the name-calling is cute.

And you proved my point. You think a tween comming out and saying she is bi is wrong. I think it is probably premature, as often we are still discovering our sexuality at that age.

Yes, I do think it's wrong. Frankly, I think it's wrong for anyone.

Oh, Granny. Starched your knickers too tight again?

I'm 28, but nice try. Sorry you hate your grandmother so much.