Is it wrong that I find the idea of a 12 year old girl coming out as bisexual to be unsettling?

[Anonymous]

I had my first crush on a girl when I was 7. I continued to like both guys and girls throughout my life. I've known that I was bisexual from an early age. It's not unusual at all. Open your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my first crush on a girl when I was 7. I continued to like both guys and girls throughout my life. I've known that I was bisexual from an early age. It's not unusual at all. Open your mind.

Bisexual and not pansexual?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are MANY Instagram accounts convincing young people they they are pan, asexual, aromantic, demisexual, and other things just just didn’t need to be said.

I am more concerned about the asexual and aromantic and demisexual than a child knowing they are gay or bisexual. The former really seems like something that a middle schooler could believe because they haven't experienced a relationship yet whereas the latter could be known because they have experienced something.

[Anonymous]

The way I look at it, I knew my sexual orientation when I was 12. I knew what I liked....it was girls. Since I am male, it was accepted.

It is, at best, naive to assume that if I knew I liked boys instead, I was going through a phase. It is more likely homophobia.

With that said, there is liking, and there is "experimenting.". As a teen, stuff happened with boys. Turns out one of my friends was gay. I did not realize it. He wanted to try oral sex. I had no desire to see him, but he wanted me. I got off. If I had a choice, it would have been a girl.

That is a stage. Horny as hell and looking for a release anywhere. I would not have identified as bi or gay. I knew what I was. My friend knew what he was. It is ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The way I look at it, I knew my sexual orientation when I was 12. I knew what I liked....it was girls. Since I am male, it was accepted.

It is, at best, naive to assume that if I knew I liked boys instead, I was going through a phase. It is more likely homophobia.

With that said, there is liking, and there is "experimenting.". As a teen, stuff happened with boys. Turns out one of my friends was gay. I did not realize it. He wanted to try oral sex. I had no desire to see him, but he wanted me. I got off. If I had a choice, it would have been a girl.

That is a stage. Horny as hell and looking for a release anywhere. I would not have identified as bi or gay. I knew what I was. My friend knew what he was. It is ok.

Yes but when you were 12- I'm guessing- there were far less options being pushed in your face at all times. Unless you are about 20 years old now, pp, the world is far more sexualized than when you were a teen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are MANY Instagram accounts convincing young people they they are pan, asexual, aromantic, demisexual, and other things just just didn’t need to be said.

I am more concerned about the asexual and aromantic and demisexual than a child knowing they are gay or bisexual. The former really seems like something that a middle schooler could believe because they haven't experienced a relationship yet whereas the latter could be known because they have experienced something.

“The latter could be known because they have experience something” What??

[Anonymous]

Someone who identifies as aromantic hasn't experienced romantic feelings towards another person. But if that person is a middle schooler, they very well could develop feelings towards someone in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone who identifies as aromantic hasn't experienced romantic feelings towards another person. But if that person is a middle schooler, they very well could develop feelings towards someone in the future.

Yes, of course, same with asexual. It can apply to high schoolers too. Including those who are late bloomers, but any of those forums these teens hang out on validate these “designations” without reservation.

This world is crazy.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read this whole thread but I wonder, OP, what middle school your daughter attends. My 12 year old son told me a couple days later that a girl had come out as bi on National Coming Out day.

He saw it as no big deal, but mentioned it because we happened to be talking at dinner about discrimination and bullying, and so we then talked about how he could best be an ally for her if she needs it at school.

Hopefully this generation is past our generation's biases and the girl will enjoy whatever support she needs from her peers. I hope your daughter is an ally too.